<WAILS> she's unwittingly nicked my boy name!! <sob>

[UpTheFRIGGinDuff]

We had decided on Rufus Caspar.

It was perfect.

We knew no other child with the name,it creates the NN Ru which I adore (can't use rupert or Reuben either),it's not popular but not unknown,it has no terrible associations,it goes brilliantly with our other DC names,and it's cool dammit.

But now a sort-of-relative-family-friend has used it for her PFB,and it will look like we've copied and I know it's childish but I do care about that for some reason.

It's taken me months to settle on a name and now I have to start all over again

It's Not Fair!

HELP ME

You hardly see them and don't know them enough to chat?

I can see absolutely no issue then.

Rollo?

Do you think your friends would mind if you told them you wanted to use Rufus too?

No no no no and no.

Oh bugger,it really is the only name for us.

Rowan is lovely and you could use Ru for short.

Robin?

Roosevelt

Or how about just going for Ru?

Flowery I know,it's stupid,I only really have contact with her through FB and though our friends/relatives in common. I absolutely shouldn't care,
And I'd tell anyone in my position to use the name anyway. But for some reason,it just seems too close.

Roux?

To be honest with you, Rufus is the new Alfie and every second boy will be Rufus soon. Trust me.

I think you might regret not using it tbh

Rowan is rather lovely...

Robin - no.

Roosevelt - no

Can't use Ru on its own,said why up there ^

ButWillI really? Do you think so?

Would Caspar Rufus known as Ru work?

Rowan is lovely.

I had a feeling this was going to be you!

What a pita!

You know I love Asa though!

Otto? Os? Ernest?

You could always send the friend a card and congratulate her on her great taste in names and tell her that it's the name you have also chosen.

Rufus is not that unusual I know of two (although one is a dog).

It could be worse my friend gave her dog the same name as ds2

Just use it, my cousin's dd has the same name as my sister's dd. We rarely see them and they don't live close by, so it makes no difference whatsoever.

Ruskin?

Ezra...ra....roo? Is it a bit of a stretch?

Rubeus?

Don't give up Rufus if you love it.

If I was you I would send the new parents a message now saying congrats and believe it or not Rufus is the name you've chosen for your little one, then make a joke about great minds think alike or something. Then it will look less like copying than if they just hear about the name when you announce it.

Presumably they are prepared for the fact that other people will name the child the same as their PFB!