OK, final name thread! One of us will be disappointed, who should it be?

[GuillotinedMaryLacey]

We have two name choices. Neither one of us is happy about the other's choice. We have been through every name we can think of and, without a word of a lie, there is not one single name in the entire world that we agree on, believe me, we've tried and it's beginning to grind us down. We've just got totally different taste in names. So we've accepted that one of us will have to get used to a name we're not wild about.

Anyone else in the same position, what did you do? Is it possible to live with a name that's just ok and not The Name?

I've told him that and pointed out that the 'old lady name' is number 77 in the charts and actually more popular than DD1's name.

What about Juliet, or Juliana?

I have to admit I loathe the name Verity, and chances are she'd be a compulsive liar! Sorry.

I did think maybe Valeria, more flowery, good meaning, but you might not like the nn Val.

I really like Lydia - no go for you? Laetitia then?

Sylvie? (much prettier than Sylvia for some reason)

Katrina rather than Kate - but you could still call her Kate or any of the other nns, including Nina (I knew a Katrina who was nn Nina).

Penelope ( penny) is nice with Harriet.

Or erica, or Juliet.

We're reading the credits of Shrek now and tbh, Shrek is the only likely looking name!

DH says the UN couldn't help our negotiations!

Penny is a very close family member's name.

Vivien or Valerie, if you like V names? Victoria? Too frilly?

Madison instead of Madeleine? Very popular in the US I know but not used so much over here as far as I know.

Right, I've done what DH calls, my judicial summing up! Having probed him he actually can't think of any objections to Verity.

He likes Julia but doesn't like the old lady associations. But he prefers Verity to Julia. That means he doesn't dislike Verity. And Jennifer which we both like and I thought was a possibility, is his second favourite behind Verity and after Julia.

So, women of the jury, I put it to you that actually, his only objection to Verity is Just Because and when I did my and said right, that's it, pissed off now, had enough of this, Verity it is, he laughed and said ok. Does that sound to you like someone with a real problem with the name?

I should point out that the only person who ever mentions Verity in our RL negotiations is him. I stopped including it when he originally said he didn't like it and so I haven't been harping on about it at all.

Oh Vivienne is ver nice sorry, nicer than verity

Yay sounds like he is up for verity! Ps I have a Jennifer, it is a fab name too, but verity and Vivienne are nicer with harriet

Verity is lovely

:o

Tyra?

That was my choice :(

Tyra, Leila or Natalia.... But 'nooooooo' says dp

I kind of understood when it was Desiree I wanted but I moved past that....

Tyra is a good strong name btw, it's a derivitive (sp) of Thor so means god of battle.

I'm going to cry

Aw :(

In further discussions he agreed that I would be more upset by not having a name I liked than he would. He also agreed that he'd got used to Verity. He's toddled off now to think of a middle name because Verity as a first name has freed up a middle name space and he has free rein with that.

TBH, even if, in a couple of weeks I raise the subject again it will have given him a chance to think of her as Verity which might make all the difference. If he says at that point that he's not happy with it then we'll probably go with Madeleine. But using the name for that little while might push him one way or another. We'll see.

What is her name?

How about:

Tesni
Cordelia
Anya (if you want to be a real geek, Anyanka for the full name ;))
Seren
Ava
Esmarelda (nn Esme)
Teagan or Tegan

Although I reckon that you will see her and her name will either pop in to your head immediately, or will suddenly come to you one day.

how about Violet? Flowery but not fluffy. Ours is nn vee.

Violet will be a middle name after my grandmother.

If I had waited for DD1's name to pop into my head when she was born she'd be called Bernard Manning :o

No, it's decided sort of. It will either be Verity, Madeleine or Jennifer. The relatives have come back with their approval of us using 'their' name which I thought they would as they're pretty chilled and that's the one name we both agree on. But in this morning's negotiations he put Jennifer behind Verity so...

Julia sounds like a woman in her 50's apparently'

This may account for his fixation with sugar and spice and all things blech. He is only thniking of her as a baby. That is my general theory about why people pick frilly names like Clarabelle anyway.

fwiw, I love Madeleine and I think Jennifer is really nice,

Best of luck, hope all goes well.

I suggested Jennifer. Now what do I win?

Jennifer is a fabulous name, strong and pretty, and is underused in the under-5's.

NB I have given up on Nymbler as it has suggested that I might like a DS called Pervis

I don't really like Jennifer, I'm plumping for Verity.

Jennifer is a FABULOUS name, they can grow with it IYSWIM, Jenny when they are little, progressing to Jen for tween/teen but always having a sensible full name for adulthood. Not that I'm biased at all but DD1 is a Jennifer (9) and I'm so pleased that I didn't bow to pressure and pick something 'less old fashioned'

Oh well, he's won. He was awake tossing and turning all night because he wasn't happy with the name (was my intention to force his hand a bit). He's gone off Jennifer too (ffs ) so that leaves us with Madeleine. I haven't got the energy to keep on and on with this, it'll do.

GML 0 - 1 DH