OK, final name thread! One of us will be disappointed, who should it be?

[GuillotinedMaryLacey]

We have two name choices. Neither one of us is happy about the other's choice. We have been through every name we can think of and, without a word of a lie, there is not one single name in the entire world that we agree on, believe me, we've tried and it's beginning to grind us down. We've just got totally different taste in names. So we've accepted that one of us will have to get used to a name we're not wild about.

Anyone else in the same position, what did you do? Is it possible to live with a name that's just ok and not The Name?

Done that! Done that several times in fact. I have everyone I know firing names at me but so far none that we haven't already considered and rejected.

I'm not going to think about it any more now. It's doing my head in. . I am officially on a name break....guaranteed the swine will come home tonight telling me he loves Jennifer after all...

What about Genevieve? Has the Jennifer vibe, with the Jen/Gen bit, some nice Vs in there for Verity, lots of nn options (Gen, Genie, Vi, Viv, Eve), ie/ei like Madeleine, same number of consonants as Jennifer/Verity/Madeline - ooh, I think I picked a winner!

Hetty it's what's called a joke.

had to google that

NoHun - OOOH yes! Genevieve is lovely

Definately Verity

I wish!

Genevieve is good, I like your thinking but...

They've just come back but DD is upset so the subject hasn't been broached yet...I'm going up in a minute to see what he has to say for himself this evening!

Genevieve is perfect! Good luck! :)

I like Genevieve a lot. Also like the fact that it has a number of shortened versions - could that be a way to keep the peace with his desire for a more frilly name and your desire for a stronger sounding name.....so that effectively you both call her different variants of the same name?

Or maybe other names with lots of shortenings...Elizabeth maybe. I'm sure there are others, but I can't think what

Tortoise

OP, I know a Genevieve, known as Vivie - fab name, very similar to the Verity vibe (Vivie would be the nickname I'd suggest for Verity in fact) - better than Madeleine I reckon... How about it??

Another one I really like although it's not to everyones taste is Vanessa. I see it as a really strong but also v attractive name- probably reminds me of Vanessa Paradis! It's also one of those names that are beyond fashion iyswim, it doesn't evoke any particular era.

The reason I suggest it is that the 'essa' might appeal to your DH's frilly side, while the V gives you your alliteration, and a short everyday name (Vee, Van) that's pretty close to what you would get from Verity.

Nope, I suggested that earlier in the proceedings and it was rejected. I also suggested Veronica. No go there either. He hasn't mentioned names tonight so am leaving the ball in his court for the moment...

Argh!

How about Anna?

Melisande

Grumpcheese

I love Vanessa too, and for all the reasons you state, ShroudofHamsters.

My parents chose our names very methodically. They picked a name book (in their case the Oxford English book of Christian names circa some time ago...). They both went through it (not together) and crossed out all the names they didn't like. Then a list was compiled of all the names left. They they both (separately) picked the names out they liked from that list, ending up with a shortlist of names that they both liked, and our names were chosen from that. I am sure my father designed the system in order to avoid both conflict and (probably) conversations. A friend of mine did the same and they only ended up with one name they both liked, but my parents had quite a few (four different three name combinations for the four of us).

To me the names you like and the names your dh like are fairly similar so I think you really should be able to find something that you both really like, but it sounds as if you really need to take the heat out of the discussion.

NB my mother is called Clare because her mother hated nicknames. My grandfather fairly immediately called her Clarabella (latter Bella and BellaBee apparently :)).

Lovely isn't it. Melissa similar, though prefer Vanessa. OP, maybe it would be worth sitting down and saying, look, this isn't going to sort itself out, I have rejected Madeleine- we need to start over a bit.

Then present him with a new list, maybe including Genevieve plus a few that were rejected earlier that you really like (maybe Vanessa among them!)

Hand it to him and make it VERY clear that you have found the way he's flip-flopped around over Verity and Jennifer VERY upsetting and unnecessarily stressful given that you are pregnant. And that you find it even more upsetting that he seems to want to stealth bully you into a name you have said you're not keen on (ie Madeleine) - something you would never do to him.

Slam your new list on the table and say- Verity, Madeleine and Jennifer are OFF the lists. Look at this and please try and muster up enough maturity to give each name proper consideration.

Failing that, I would get over that guilt thing and insist (with tears and tantrums if necessary) on Verity. Do you know why? Because from what you've said so far, your DH sounds the kind of bloke who, in six months' time, will say with a smirk, 'Do you know, Verity's really grown on me now, I've no idea why I insisted on Madeleine...' And then you will divorce him.

I didn't know you knew him Shouty :o That is exactly what he would do. Indeed, it's the reason we're mentioning Verity at this stage at all. When I first suggested it ages ago he said he hated it, then he said it had grown on him, I hadn't mentioned it since. Git.

As of this morning he's "thinking about Jennifer". I'm "thinking about kicking him in the knackers" and have told him so.

Yes, I think new list again will be on the cards this weekend.

What about Marisa (prn Mar-EE-sa).

Hold the front page, we may have a decision......

Susannah Verity Violet XXXXX

How's that? Please no one say horrible :o

His choice or yours ?

I like, a good classic and very beautiful. Not keen on Sue as a short form at all, but Anna, Suzy and Zuza are all good short forms (know one who is Zuza!)

My suggestion, he agreed :) It was on the list earlier and, having laid to rest the names with the now stressy associations it suddenly seemed like a goer.

He's trying to change the spelling to Suzanna but he can whistle! :o

NO it must be Susannah

I think you have a winner!!!