Support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities 2

[LittlePoot]

Dear all lovely ladies past, present and future. Welcome to support thread number two, to help us through the anxious TTC waiting, early scary weeks of pregnancy, nasty scans and tests, growing bumps and babies and everything in between. May this thread bring luck and (eventual) joy to us all and at least we'll all be here to hold eachothers' hands along the way. x

just a quick drop in. want to wish you luck kittens. I hope that heartbeat is there.

Coffee good luck for tomorrow.

Sorry no more time but hello to everyone else. xx

Just a quick note from me to say Kittens, I really hope your scan goes well today. You too coffee for tomorrow. Will be crossing everything for you both. Cherry x

Hello, just popping my head around the door to say good luck to Kittens today and Coffee tomorrow, I have been lurking but am super busy so have not had much time to post!

Hi to everyone else will post again with a proper messages soon

xx

Hi Kittens, thinking of you, hope all is OK. x

Though I like to think no news is good news, I can't help but think that Kittens would have let us know if it were so by now. I hope with all my heart that I am wrong Kittens, and you are just busy xxx

Hello, I've not been home from the hospital long actually. It's been a hell of a day! I hope you're sitting down, this is a bit long winded.

After an hour long wait for my appointment I saw a different consultant to usual because I couldn't make Wednesday which is when the guy I usually see is in. The first thing the consultant said when he started the internal scan was "have you had any bleeding" which I knew wasn't a good sign. He scanned me and went on to tell me the bad news that there was no fetal pole and that the yolk sac was still very small and had not really developed since my last scan, so I was sent down to the EPU for another scan with a view to discussing "the next step".

So, off I went to have lunch whilst I waited for the afternoon clinic. Lots of tears and fed upness.

Then I have another scan in the EPU, the lady was very thorough and after a long time scanning she apologetically confirmed the morning's findings and went off to speak to the consultant and find out what dates were available for and ERPC. The nurse came in and gave me an appointment next Tuesday and told me she would try to find out if there was a space on Friday tomorrow and let me know. In the meantime, just as I'm getting my stuff together to leave, the lady who scanned me stopped me and told me that the consultant wasn't 100% satisfied with the scan images and their findings and would like to re do the scan.

He explained that he could see something next to the yolk sac that wasn't seen in the morning's scan and that he'd like another look as he didn't want to refer me for an ERPC if there was any shadow of a doubt that my pregnancy could be classed as a miscarriage yet. So, he did another scan and showed me that there was something there which may or may not be a fetal pole that had materialised since my scan the other week and that there was a small amount of growth in the yolk sac. He explained that the development was very slow and quite far behind what it should be at this stage (8+3 apparently) and that because of this there was still a very high risk of miscarriage but that he though there was enough evidence to make him want to wait another week and scan me again before deciding on an ERPC. He told me that the head consultant had gone home for the day and that he would like to show the scan images to him tomorrow to discuss his opinion and that he would call me tomorrow once he'd had this discussion.

So, that's me, in limbo again as usual. Prepared for the worst but it's not over 'til it's over......

Best of luck for tomorrow Coffee x

Oh God, nightmare to have to wait overnight. I hope they have a bit of good news for you tomorrow.

Sorry to hear you've had such a rollercoaster day Kittens. Hope you get some rest tonight and some good news tomorrow x

Oh Kittens. Why couldn't you have a simple good scan? I am so sorry it didn't go better.

I am holding on to the hope that the consultant offered this afternoon. 8+3 is just dates by LMP presumably, and thus would change depending on when you ovulated... but I can see why you would be preparing for the worst.

Big hugs and I hope tomorrow brings some positive hope.

I am thinking of you.

Oh Kittens, what a day you've had! Fragile hope, but hope nevertheless, so I am keeping everything crossed it's just a bumpy start and things will work out. Take care of yourself tonight. Sending you a big hug xxxx

Kittens, what a day! You must be emotionally drained. I was hoping you would be posting some happy news, but here's hoping that tomorrow will be a better day for you!

Coffee, all the best for tomorrow.

Sorry for short post and lack of other personals, girls are still ill, but now with tummy bugs which my OH also has....! Manic house

Hello to everyone and will post soon xx

Kittens, you must be feeling exhausted. I really hope tomorrow brings some good news.

Coffee, I hope your scan goes smoothly.

Xx

kittens thinking of you xx

coffee thinking of you too for tomorrow

Thank you all. I've got quite bad cramps this evening. Maybe from all the repeated proddings of my insides but obviously it could well be worst case scenario.

I'm not expecting to learn much tomorrow, only whether the consultant agrees about waiting a week or whether he things the guy I saw today is barking up the wrong tree. I don't really know what the measurements mean in relation to what they should be, but the thing that may or may not be a fetal pole is 2.8mm and the yolk sack is 6.6mm. No heartbeat as far as I know. I don't think it looks massively promising. I think I will be very lucky if there's a happy ending to this story!

Starsandplanets, are you a name change or are you new? Sorry if you're new and I've not said hello yet, I have my head up my arse at the moment as you can imagine. If you are a name change.... reveal yourself!

Grrrr, message was just eaten!

It is me Allstars. I am trying out a new name. ;)

Really sorry to hear your news. I wish there is something practical I could say or do. I am sending you a hug whilst you wait. (()) xx.

You are right it doesn't look promising but until they say otherwise you are still pregnant and there is hope. Did they take any bloods or do any other tests? Are you confident about dates? I will be thinking of you tonight. Take care and remember we are all here.

Kittens, I was thinking of you today; I'm so sorry to hear that it was not a simple good scan. I'm lost for words of comfort/wisdom, but know that you're in my thoughts.

Coffee, thinking of you for tomorrow.

Sorry to be brief, DD has been waking lots overnight so I'd better head to bed now while the going is good... xx

Kittens I'm so sorry the news wasn't more promising you are very brave and you WILL get there even if its not this one.

Huge hugs and will be thinking of you over the coming days and weeks xxx

Kittens, I can't imagine how emotionally exhausting this must all be for you. I'd like to be able to reassure that they always dated me two weeks earlier than I should have been (which meant I conceived when due to have period), but I suppose only time will tell. Being in limbo is awful. I hope your managing to get some sleep xx

Oh kittens what a day! You must be absolutely drained. Will keep everything crossed for you as you are right there is always hope. Hope you get some answers soon - big hugs xxx

Hi. this is my first post on this thread,i've just (yesterday) found out I am pregnant again and need some hand holding along the scary days, weeks and hopefully months to come.

I posted elsewhere on the antenatal choices board during the summer as I had a termination following a diagnosis of T21. I got some lovely support from lot of people. Have also had 2 mc and 1 mmc.

I have 2 lovely ds age 2 and 5 who keep me relatively sane throughout all of this.

Am keeping this pg secret in RL apart form DH of course so it will be good to have moan on here now and then.

Welcome Eavers, Congratulations and the best of luck.

No phone call for me today. Just called the EPU and it's shut . Working the next 2 days so will try to get my OH to call tomorrow.

Kittens - how unfair you've not had a phone call today. You must have been on edge all day long. I hope the cramps you were having last night have eased off and your OH gets some answers tomorrow.

Coffee - hope today went well for you.

Eavers - congratulations on your pregnancy. I can imagine how nervous you are but hopefully it will be very straightforward this time.

Manitz - did your bleeding sort itself out? I'm now experiencing weird bleeding which started a couple of days ago. Its very light so I dont see how it can be AF - can it? It'll be six weeks since I gave birth on Thursday. Frustrating as I just want a normal period so we can begin TTC!

Brief stop from me. Kittens, that is SO unfair. They forget it is real life for us, not just a routine job, I think - and I do understand; often they are snowed under with emergencies - but so hard for you.

Coffee, how did it go for you?

Cherry, the bleeding thing - I had weird bleeding episodically after my first termination. Eventually went to GP. Blood tests later, they concluded it was just my hormones settling down. It could well be a period, or it could be just sort of breakthrough bleeding - if it isn't heavy, you don't need to worry, I think - actually though 6 weeks is very common time for AF to show up after a termination according to my consultant. Mine did, after second termination.

Hi Eavers and a tentative congratulations to you. It's hard, hard, hard, but you just take it a day at a time and you get there.

Kittens, I can't stop thinking about you. I wish I could do something to help. I can't, so just so you know I am thinking of you.

Hi Kittens, thinking of you xxx

Hi Eavers, welcome....hope you are ok. i had a similar situation this summer that resulted in a termination and am back here trying aagain...had an early miscarriage last week hoping to have more luck like you xxx

Hi Havingkittens. So sorry to hear that you are having to wait again. I am not sure what to say but I hope the news is good, you deserve some.

Coffee I hope everything went well for you today.

Hi Eavers, congratulations on your pregnancy. I hope you find this board supportive over the next few months.

Cherry, I had a few days of odd bleeding where I thought my period had started, then a proper period followed by a couple of days of very light bleeding. I still have the symptoms of a uti but no bleeding for a bit. It's driving me mad. Antibiotics haven't worked so i've now treated for thrush but that hasn't worked either. I am trying to drink a lot of water to flush it through.

Prob doesn't help you much but i'd suspect you are about to come on, possibly??

xx