support thread for women who are pregnant or TTC after a termination for abnormalities

[katiecubs]

Hi girls - i hope this becomes a useful area

Hello, just back from holidays last night and so much has happened here. We will need a new thread soon, we are approaching 1000 posts rapidly!

Kittens, I am so sorry. I am sending you a big hug and a virtual bunch of peonies ... I hope time passes quickly and next time is so different.

Numpty, shaking pom poms so hard my bingo wings are flapping. I just sent you a text. I will take no news as good news. I hope it's easier this time. x

Welcome to our new posters Lyn, Coffee, Waffy and Gina. Hope we can help you (and you us too, I suspect).

Congrats to the newly pregnant. I got a positive test in Italy, so I must be 5 weeks. A bit underwhelmed - Mum was more excited than DH or I were. DH sort of said 'Hmph' when I told him and hasn't mentioned it since. We are in denial - it seems to be the natural response, like many have said here. Mum started working out my EDC, and I shushed her and said 'I don't do that any more'. I feel bad but I can't get excited any more, this is the 5th time I have been pregnant and I have one child (lucky to have him, I realise).

I will call the FMU tomorrow so they can book me in for a 7-8 week scan.

So anyway, love to all, better go now and get some sleep. If I get a text back from Numpty, I will try to pop on here to update...

Thank you all for your messages, you all have so much going on in your own lives, but manage to take the time to help others, amazing really.
Just an update, I was told to go to A&E today, after several hours, I was told that they couldn't really be sure today, as the scan may show that I am still pregnant, but that could change, so to wait for my appointment on Friday (which was already planned, for a dating scan) and they would be able to check then. However I know that this is going to be a lost cause as I have had pains all day and quite a bit of bleeding, so not much hope for me this time I'm afraid. Meant to be going into work tomorrow, but really don't want my boss knowing, I had to tell him about my results last time.

I am shaking pom poms and wishing all of you the very best

Mimsy, that is excellent news, though I, and I'm sure everyone here, understands why you're not allowing yourself to get too excited. Have your parents gone back (or I should say come back) yet? Must be so good to spend some time with them. I'm so glad you and Numpty are in contact. I wonder what she is doing at this moment. Am I right in thinking that we don't know the baby's sex? Very exciting

Waffy, I hope you can get to call in sick or something. Horrible when something like this happens and you're expected to carry on as normal. Will be thinking of you Friday and wishing you all the best xx

Hi Kittens, glad you didn't find me insensitive yesterday. Many apologies to the curvalicious Charlie though. Although I don't know him, I suspect he wouldn't be amused. I now though have an urge to cuddle a big fat cat.

I'm sorry you feel let down by your mum, though she must be so scared for her own health I suppose. Is she awaiting scans, or results of scans? Has she finished her chemo? Although I ask these questions, don't feel pressured to reply. Will be thinking of you this Friday too xxx

Love to everyone xxx

Hi everyone, Just a quick message - I was shaking pom poms in my sleep so logged on briefly to see if any news!

Waffy - You are in my thoughts and I hope and pray all goes well on Friday. Either way we are all here for you and thinking of you.

Love to everyone else x

There must be so many of us shaking our pom poms for numpty we could start a cheerleading troupe! GO NUMPTY!

Mimsy i hope you had a lovely holiday and congratulations on your positive test! I think being in denial is totally natural but i will keep everything crossed that it all works out for you this time around x

Waffy i hope the wait until friday passes quickly and you get some much needed answers. Thinking of you, look after yourself x

Congratulations Mimsy! Hope your holiday was lovely. I can totally relate to your reaction. When I told my family the last 2 times I asked "can we please not start projecting about 'the baby' for a few months yet?"

I can't believe how many BFPs in the last few weeks!

Mishtabel, thanks for asking, my mum has had results from her recent scan a couple of weeks ago. Her condition is stable which is about the best we can hope for really. Apparently only primary cancers can go into remission, this being a secondary cancer can only be managed so she will be on chemo on and off for the rest of her life. She is looking and feeling very well at the moment though to that's good. Unfortunately, regardless of the cancer she has always been how she is. She's managed to upset most of the family in recent weeks! Don't get me wrong, I love her of course, but Grrrrrr! she also drives me mad.

And finally.......

Give me an N

Give me a U

Give me an M..........

You get the idea. Go Numpty! xxxx

Lovely news Mimsy. I understand the denial thing totally. You must be just a week behind me.

How are you feeling? I'm starting to get very nauseous.

Still shaking those pom poms...

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Just got a text from Numpty saying she had a little girl (name tbc) born last night at 11:11pm, all fine including labour in the end. She's not sure yet when she will be home.
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WOW congratulations Numpty! What wonderful news i am so happy for you and can't wait to hear more about your new baby girl

Thanks for the update Mimsy x

MimsyStarr thanks for the update!

NumptyMum What absolutley wonderful news! I'm so thrilled for you!

With much love to you and NumptyBaby xxxxxx

Oh and I meant to say a huge congratulations to you too MimsyStarr xxx

Ohhh, that's such happy, wonderful news from Numpty. Brought a tear to my eye. Thanks for the update Mimsy.

It's news like this that brings me hope.

Thinking of you Numpty and hoping you and BabyNumpty are home soon xx

Oh how lovely!! Congratulations Numpty! Looking forward to hearing all about your little girl xxxx

Thanks so much Mimsy xxx

Yay, Numpty! Lovely news. Congratulations!

Such wonderful news. Well done Numpty. I am sure you are enjoying the delicious new born smell. I cannot wait to hear how it all went.

On a purely selfish note.....that means I am next! 4 weeks and counting.

Numpty, congratulations, I am so happy for you! Welcome to the world little one. Time for joy, time to celebrate the new life and remember little Iola gently and peacefully.

I was so glad to hear the delivery was not complicated, I hope you are recovering well. Much love to you and the little one xxxx

PS: I think I am becoming hormonal, as I got very emotional writing this.

PPS: Mimsy, congratulations! I am 5 weeks tomorrow and in complete denial as well.

Yay!!! well done Numpty, and welcome little girl thread baby. I feel all emotional....

Oh and congratulations Mimsy!

Ahhhh, congratulations numpty - i'm over the moon for you. I know what you mean Can't, i've a tear in my eye xxx

Hooray for Numpty and her gorgeous little baby girl!

Lovely, lovely news.

Well done you! Now just take all the time in the world to enjoy your beautiful girl.

xxxxxxx

Such fantastic news. Congatulations numptymum and can't wait to hear all about your new little babe! Hope her bro falls suitably in love with her. And great news from you too mimsy. Really nice that the good news is outnumbering the bad for a change and long may it continue. I feel like we're in the middle of a group hug! And I like it. Night all and sweet newborn dreams to our newest addition. Xxxx

Hello everyone mind if i jump on the band wagon? i already know a lot of you from the sister thread but for those who don't know me: I had a termination for T21 and AVSD back in April i'm from London but now live in Devon and have a DS who has just turned 4 last week and this is the 1st month we have tried properly to concieve although we did have a bit of an accident last month it came to nothing.
So i'm now nervously nearly at the end of a 2ww and i'm refusing to symptom spot this time because i always get it wrong although i have noticed a couple of things i'm keeping them to myself
I have to admit though i'm very scared it's all going to happen all over again and i will have to go through the painfull decisions and procedures all over again, cope with the grief and the heartache again, the only reason i'm even trying again is because my consultant and every piece of meical advice i read keeps saying at my age its very rare it will happen again...yet it does happen, i was so sure they would find no problem with Liam yet they did if it can happen once it can happen again.
Sorry i'm rabbiting on i'm usually much more chipper and can even be quite amusing at times promise!
much love Drama XxX

Of course not Dramamama hop on and welcome

I will keep my fingers crossed for you this month but it sounds positive - are you planning to test soon?

As for worrying it will happen again i guess that sadly goes with the territory but there are so many stories of hope on this thread - most recently our lovely Numpty!

Katie xxx

Welcome Dramamama. There seems to be a pretty good run on BFPs on this thread at the moment. Hopefully you'll be one of them!

Hello everyone else, I hope you're all well and the very pregnant of you are surviving the heat and the newly pregnant are not feeling to washed out by it.

I had my scan today and I'm very pleased to report that I won't be needing to go back in for another ERPC. Big Phew! That's a big relief. I must say I'm getting quite sick of the sight of the Elizabeth Garret Anderson wing of UCH! Mind you, I'll be going back there in just over a week for my appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic. I'm wondering how long I will have to wait until I can start trying again. They said my period should come back within about 4 weeks but I know that they will want to do blood tests 6 weeks apart with the first on the 9th so it sounds like I'll have to hold off for a couple of months.

On a lighter note, my client yesterday brought her parents with her to her make up trial and they commented on Charlie the cat, asking if the cat was pregnant. "Er, no HE's not!". Hmmm, maybe the diet isn't going as well as I'd hoped! I suspect this fine weather is giving him many opportunities of stealing other cats' dinner as he's out and about more. Naughty little piglet!

Welcome Dramarama - Hope you get some good news - Have my fingers crossed.

Kittens, I'm glad you don't have to return. Hopefully if we are both trying in the next couple of months we will get good news to share. Fingers and toes crossed xxx

On a positve note - I have not had any bleeding for 34.5 hours YIPPEE

Hello to everyone else - hope you are all well xxx

Yes - welcome Dramamama and hopefully you'll be getting some good news soon. As Katie says, the worries are unfortunately definitely part of the territory - I'm worrying about exactly what you were saying right now and am getting pretty close to having to think about those horrible tests once again. Well, assuming this weekend's scan doesn't put me back to square one....another worry. Best advice really is to keep sharing the worries with everyone here. It doesn't quite take them away, but it is enormously reassuring to find out that its perfectly normal to worry and you're not going mad. And lots of sane voices on here will always try to keep you on the straight and narrow.

Kittens - I'm so pleased your scan came up clear! And you Lyn - its sounding like things are getting a bit closer to 'normal' again for both of you. I hope you get some useful input from the miscarriage clinic kittens. Do let us know. I'll be right behind you if this one doesn't work out, so I'm really interested in what kinds of things they test for and recommend.

Hope Waffy's doing ok - good luck for the appointment tomorrow. And Mimsy, Gina, Crazy gym lady (sorry - still amazed at that!) and Coffee - hope you're all holding up. I'm alternating between sane and really not so much. Yesterday, I was full of confidence because I was feeling so dreadful I was sure everything must be working. Then today, I feel pretty normal again, so obviously assuming disaster is just around the corner. Scan again Sunday though, so I guess its not long to wait. I can feel my anxiety level rising in preparation...

And huge hugs and kisses for Numpty and your newbie. Really hope all is well and looking forward to you having the energy to tell us all about your new little girl. xxxx