Pkease come with your sugestions to MN for a new forum for us. A gentle discusion on where we can ask to go...

[misty0]

After the stress caused by a debate raised on termination in the middle of what was being used as a support forum - i feel we should ask Mumsnet for a new place for ladies to go to support each other following termination. Without discussion and debate of ethics or morals likely to cause distress.

I would like this thread to be nonconfrontational - i am just reaching out for ideas for a new place for us and how best to name it?

Hi all, so we've given this a bit more thought and based on everyone's contributions we think a new "Ethical Dilemmas" topic in Other subjects is the way to go. (Thanks Manitz for the idea)

Anyone who's concerned about this type of thread, can hide the topic. If folks post this kind of thread in SN or AT&C or anywhere else then just report it and we'll move it to Ethical Dilemmas and explain why to the OP.

We'll set the topic up and move the original thread in there tomorrow, unless there are any major objections/reasons why we shouldn't do that which we haven't thought of...

I know some of you have criticised us for being insensitive in moving this thread but believe me the last thing anyone at MNHQ wants to do is to cause upset or add to anyone's stress. There was not an easy solution in this case and it's highlighted that we needed to re-jig things a bit. Apologies to anyone who got hurt/cross/upset. It's the opposite, as you know, of what we're here for.

Thanks everyone for your input.

Yay! Well done MN!

Thank you very much Justine. I understand the trickiness of where to put this thread and can see why it might theoretically have seemed appropriate for it to be in this part of Mnet. Thanks for listening and realizing why it wasn't.

FWIW, I like the idea of Ethical Dilemmas in its own right anyway!

This is the right decision. Thank you for listening.

Thank you MN - good decision.

Yes, thank you Justine. I think setting up a specific place for debates of this kind is a great idea; those who want to contribute out of their own experience can do so, and those for whom the experience is too raw/current can seek support in the places they already have. Also by separating this from Chat it hopefully will allow complex and thoughtful discussion of sensitive topics without seeming to make light of them.

Thank you.

I think if you put it in bereavement you will avoid confrontation and judgemental comments. I can't imagine anyone being crass on the bereavement thread.

I haven't got time to read through the posts, so apologies if this has been suggested or shot-down.

Thank you Justine and all at MNHQ. There will now be a 'place' for these kinds of debates and discussions which will hopefully sovle the issue of where to put threads such as the one that started this upset.

:) Yay!! Thank you for not just washing your hands of this and for listening to all sides!

good move.

Thank you for listening Mumsnet!

as others have said thanks. It solves the problem and I'd be interested in that area anyway.

I have also asked for MN to consider a safe space area (like the oppsite of AIBU) after my own thread in chat, title withs cared in it, went a bit awry.

I hope they listen: with both these areas they ahve the chance to really smarten up MN whislt keeping the famed pile in AND support intact.