Maybe the only real option is to carry on and hope that there won't be many more debates like this one that are posted on the tests/ choices board. Or a new area where such debates can be moved to for the OP did not post on this board for fear of being insensitive, and therefore chose chat. I completely understand why this would affect people who have children with SN as much as those who have terminated pregnancies, I just think it's equally inappropriate to have it in either of those areas, esp if people are looking at these threads whilst trying to make decisions.
wannabe and peachy, hello and thank you. I didn't end my pregnancy at 26 weeks for Down Syndrome, my daughter Ava had Edwards Syndrome and if she had survived the trauma of birth, she would probably have died very soon after. I therefore did not really have a decision to make, but it was still heartbreaking to sign on the dotted line and let your beloved baby daughter die. And then give birth to her. However, although I know that I did the best thing for her, as her mother, I still have moments when I feel guilty and that I should have been able to do something. I truly don't know what I would have done if she had been diagnosed with Downs, and I'm glad that I didn't have to make that decision.
I just feel really strongly that people who are turning to this board who are making those decisions now, should not have that thread in front of them, which they would enevitably read. I am also protective of those women who come into the support thread saying that they feel they don't deserve any sympathy because they decided to terminate for Downs, or that they can't tell anyone in RL and so have invented miscarriages and other conditions because people judge them.
I understand completely why that lady ( and i am sorry if she finds herself in a horrible position at the moment) wanted the thread moving from Chat and I certainly don't believe it should be in SN, I just really don't think it should be here. A lot of people gave very honest accounts (either way) from a position of experience but as cinnamon said, there were a number of people who hijacked the thread with very unhelpful comments including "people terminate because they all want perfect babies" and other such inflammatory comments. I was therefore referring to those such comments as ignorant and many of these posters went on to say that although they had high risks their babies were ok or that they did not have any experience with DS but.....
It isn't the case that I'm saying that everyone with 'opposing views' is ignorant, in fact I don't really know what my views are so there are no opposing views. These ignorant remarks from people who stated that their children were healthy are the ones that really upset me with their hypothetical judgmental tone, and I am not the only one.
I know that my post is not that helpful in a 'moving forwards' kind of way. If mumsnet are going to move threads that start in unsuitable areas I think there should be a debates or ethics type board. I only joined when I came across the support thread (through Google) a few days after I lost Ava and have not explored the site as I mainly read/ post on my iPhone and it's all a bit small!!!