to not want to make DHs sandwiches

[ReneRusso]

DH works in an out of town office complex where it is apparently difficult to get himself some lunch, so he takes sandwiches to work. He is in a right grump tonight because he is fed up of "always having to make my own sandwich" and also fed up that there isn't any cheese. Apparently I should be a better wife and make his lunch and keep the fridge stocked with cheese. To give a bit of context, I am a SAHM, haven't worked for 3 years, we have 3 DCs, two school age and one baby of 11 weeks. I always cook the evening meal, infact two evening meals, one for the DCs earlier on and then our dinner later on, so for the rest of the evening I quite like to sit on my arse and watch telly. If he wants to have sandwiches for lunch, then my personal opinion is he can make them himself. AIBU?

tee hee hee

So after a days work the husband can come home and out his feet up but the wife (who has also done a days work - just unpaid) has to stand in the kitchen making sandwiches? How exactly is that fair?

9-5 (or thereabouts) is work time. Anything that needs to be done for the family either side of that time (getting kids ready for school, bedtime etc) should be shared between parents.

Having a bad day? Maybe if you slept lying down you’d be in a better mood.

No, it’s not because we miss each other 😂 he comes home occasionally, he just feels like it I guess. Like I said, he wanted to come home the other day because apparently he had the roast leftovers from night before on his mind. Is that ok with you? Haha.

Zombie 🧟‍♀️

Yeah I don’t know. HIBU to expect you to always make him a sandwich but YABU not to do it sometimes.

We both WFH most of the time but if my OH has to go out for work I make him a sarnie if I am up early enough. It’s just nice to do things for your partner sometimes🤷🏼‍♀️

I just make more for dinner so that left overs are frozen into lunch portioned he then takes whatever takes his fancy and heats it up. Literally zero additional effort and better than sandwiches anyway

Argh. Sorry!

IMO work lunches (along with ironing, putting laundry away and making breakfast) are personal care tasks that people should do for themselves as soon as they are able, regardless of what the other household arrangments are.

Oohh nooo

My dh makes me cooked breakfast every day I wouldn't want to give that up, if he didn't I'd end up just eating a piece of fruit or nothing. He really enjoys making breakfast.

But the OP isn't about about sandwiches, it's about expectations and respect.

I initially didn't notice the date on this thread. Then I recognized a comment I read back in 2010, and checked the date!

So he should do that.

I probably would, damn toddler egg split and there's two of them 😂😂.

I just couldn't imagine anything worse than driving home, rushing a sarnie down your neck and driving back to work with indigestion and hiccups. Fine if there's time for a quick shag, not if it's just unbearable to not be able to stare into each others eyes for 8 hours. Even fully slept that's gross 😂😂

I want roast leftovers now

We don't care, we're on to @MysteryBelle and her lunchtime quickies 😂

Oh please please do this

Make his sandwiches and make sure to do ones he doesn't like.

If he says he doesn't like them like that, tell him he's wrong.

This thread is over 12 years old! I don't think the OP needs any further advice!

Has he stopped eating?

No good point - am sure the OP has been keeping tabs on this thread for 12 years, continually monitoring it in the hope someone comes up with a solution so that she can stop the resentment that has been building incessantly for all that time

Marriage requires commitment.

Had to name change in honour of my old post.
The baby is indeed 12.
I haven't made the bastard a sandwich for ages, but I did make him dinner 😂