AIBU to want to move DD into her own room at 5 weeks?

[CucumberInMyBra]

...I just think we might all sleep better.

At the moment, she sleeps in a moses basket next to our bed. I take her into her own room during the night for nappy changes and feeds, then bring her back into our room. I think she's a really light sleeper, so any snores or duvet rustles stop her settling back to sleep. And that in turn means she's pretty noisy throughout the night! Is it really mean to want to move her so early? Should I just suck it up and wait for another month or so? (She's big and long and stretches out so she won't fit in the basket much longer than that anyway!).

And for those of you who have moved a baby into their own room, how do I go about it without disrupting things too much? Thanks!

Current SIDS advice Is 6 months for good reason, personally. I wouldn't take the risk

Certainly not BU for wanting to do it, but 5 weeks is very young and as she is still waking up for feeds then I'm not sure you are going to get much more sleep.

Why are you taking her into her room for feeds, if its so as not to wake up your DP/DH then perhaps he should move into another room for a few weeks, as I found that I got no sleep with 3 folks in the room but in retrospect I wish I had got DH to sleep in the spare room for a while .

I think it's not recommended until your baby is 6 months. Why not discuss with your health visitor first?

why are you taking her into another room for changes and feeds? Nappy changes disturb EVERYONE! Luckily the whole "poos after every feed" stage doesn't last all that long.

We've just moved DD2 into her own room - at 7 months! Its so odd being able to get in and out of bed at my side again!

Taking her into her room for feeds and nappy changes will disturb her sleep a fair bit IMO.

Have you got space in your room for a cot?

I wouldn't move her yet, 5 weeks is very, very little.

We put ds into his room at a few weeks old. We left the doors open on our and his room. It was the only way we could get any sleep because he made so much noise even though he was fast asleep. We were up several times for feeding obviously.
At that age she will have ni idea she is in another room tbh.
Wrt SIDS, they do advise 6 mths but they also advise against co-sleeping and loads of people on MN do that without being criticised. I'll do it this time too if the baby wants it.

Maybe don't have the moses basket so close to the bed, DC2 snored like a piglet so I moved her to the other side of the room, eventually you all get used to each other and she stayed in with us until she was 12 months.

Both our children slept in their own rooms from the day we brought them home from the hospital.
I don't see any problems with it and never had any negative comments from either the midwives or hv.

They are (and always have been) good sleepers.

Is there such a thing as a 5wk old baby being a light sleeper?

I waited until she was 3 months as by that time she was physically too big for the moses basket and we could not fit her cot in our room.

I think if the nursery is near your room and you have a monitor that will help to reassure you.

For what it's worth, one of my friends, who is a GP, moved their LO into the nursery after 3 wks, as by all accounts he was a very noisy baby!

far too young imo

and way against SIDS advice

set up a mat/few nappies/wipes on the floor next to the bed and change her there with a lamp on

fed her in your bed and put her back when she falls asleep

you really really don't want to be traipsing between rooms for the next year

A little cautionary tale for you. When my DD2 was about 4 months, still in our room next to the bed, I suddenly woke up with a start, thinking she wasn't breathing. I went over to her, picked her up, and there was no sign of her breathing at all. I picked her up, kept on calling her name, flicked the soles of her feet (which is meant to be safe, unlike shaking, although shaking was a hard instinct to ignore) and suddenly she took a huge breath in.

The incident will stay in my mind forever - I must have woken up literally the second I stopped hearing her breathe. I honestly think that if she had been in a different room she wouldn't be here today.

I am always a bit at people who put them in their own rooms so early. Having a baby is bloody hard work, but you can't compromise the baby's safety for your comfort.

lal123 - I'm not sure why, that's how we started off for some reason and we've carried on that way!

Thanks for the info about SIDS, I hadn't fully appreciated how important it was to have her with us. LadyintheRadiator, do you know why it halves the risk? I'm curious.

Thanks everyone!

SIDS advice changes every couple of years and often contradicts itself.

Basic common sense always seems best to me and TBH having children aged 12, 10 and 8 all the advice has totally changed since they were babies, but somehow they all survived even though they were weaned at 16 weeks, born at home, slept in their own rooms from birth and were mixed fed with breast and bottle.

Just move her if its going what is going to work best for your family, and trust your instincts as a mum.

i've been on a thread about this before and got accused of being neglectful for saying i put my 3 dc in their own room from when they were only a few weeks old! we didnt have a moses basket for dc1 so she just went straight in her cot!

you will still be getting up for feeds but i felt that the sleep i got in between feeds was deeper because i wasnt being woken with the noises they make rustling in the moses basket! and i needed that sleep esp with dc2 and 3!!

the advice about keeping the children in the same room for 6 months is to do with the risk of cot death (altho i've never read the research, only heard it on here) but i belive if you eliminate every other risk to your child of cot death (warmth of room, not smoking near them) then if we had a dc4 i would still moreve them out at a young age!

It's one of those things that's a risk you have to weigh up for yourself.

how much noise can a 5 wk old baby make?

sherby - a hell of a lot in ds's case!
It was like sleeping next to an angry ewe.

Does SIDS advice change every couple of years? DS1 is nearly 6 and the advice then was for babies to be in your room for the first 6 months.

I found with all 3 of mine that when in the same room you wake just before they do as your're breathing / sleep patterns are in tune. When they all moved into their own rooms I found the wake ups far more disturbing to my sleep.

i'm with Crunchbag - did try a few nights with DS in our room but he was in his own room by two weeks - and has always, always been an excellent sleeper - goes happily to bed at 7.30pm (now age 9).

My understanding of the SIDS advice is that (although no one knows for sure) it is thought that keeping them in with you reduces the risk precisely because you do all disturb each other. It stops babies from falling into such a deep sleep that they stop breathing and so all the noises you make are actually a good thing.

I think you would get used to her little noises. didn't move ds till he was 1 as i didn't think it was worth the risk.
If you really want to I would get the tommee tippee breathing monitor/pad. It gave me complete peaced of mind as I was constantly checking that he was still breathing whereas this does it for you.
Would recommend them to anyone, it will save lives for a few extra quid.

One of the theories as to why having the baby sleeping in your room prevents cot death is that they sleep lighter and regulate their breathing by yours. Deep sleeping is not necessarily a good thing in a young baby.

I wouldnt do it to me the risk is to high

and omg WHY are you going next door to feed and change in the middle of the night? she doesnt need a change unless it is dirty and just feed in bed and back to her basket and you to sleep