AIBU to want to move DD into her own room at 5 weeks?

[CucumberInMyBra]

...I just think we might all sleep better.

At the moment, she sleeps in a moses basket next to our bed. I take her into her own room during the night for nappy changes and feeds, then bring her back into our room. I think she's a really light sleeper, so any snores or duvet rustles stop her settling back to sleep. And that in turn means she's pretty noisy throughout the night! Is it really mean to want to move her so early? Should I just suck it up and wait for another month or so? (She's big and long and stretches out so she won't fit in the basket much longer than that anyway!).

And for those of you who have moved a baby into their own room, how do I go about it without disrupting things too much? Thanks!

Both of our DCs went into their own room aged about 5mo. This is despite me being extra-aware of SIDS, as my sister died of SIDS as a baby.

We moved the DCs into their own room once they started sleeping through, mainly because I just couldn't sleep a wink with them in the moses basket next to me. I didn't agonise over the decision, and also they were starting to get too big for the moses basket. It just seemed right for us at the time.

However, I still keep the monitor on in DS's room (he;s 13mo), and used to have it on its highest volume when they first went in their own room, so I could actually hear them breathing!

You have to do what you feel is best. Noone can tell you what to do on this matter IMO.

Yes you are right parents who co sleep who have drunk excessive alcohol, taken drugs are very tired or who are sleeping on a sofa are putting their infant at greater risk..... and your point is
I haven't argued for co sleeping just stated that the risk for infants who are in their own rooms is higher

Keep the baby in your room. It is much safer!
You won't get much sleep anyway and why trapse into another room to feed when you can do it in bed (especially if breast feeding).
With DD1 I used to get up, take her to another room, try and sit awake in a chair to feed and then could not get back to sleep!
When I started to feed lying down it was much more comfortable and then I could just slide her over into the cot.
You become attuned to each other in the night and the baby takes breathing cues from the adults, so that is why it's safer.
Just make sure you don't go to bed having too much to drink or smoking.

Define excessive alcohol and very tired?

On what scale are we measuring tiredness and how capable is a very tired (in a constant state of tiredness) parent of a small child of judging how tired they are?

Am just of everyone who has extra rooms to put their DC's in!

....and you are trying to tell me that child is at less risk from being smothered or suffocated by a parent than a child asleep in its own room before 6 mnths of age.

I totally disagree with you. I know which "risk" I would rather take.

la you are well within your rights to disagree with me. I have appraised the available evidence and decided which risk I am prepared to take I'm not sure why you are so angry about it all
I work in the field of child health and advise parents about risk I felt that I needed to practice what I preach but I also believed that for me it was the right decision to kep mine in the same room as me until they were both 6 months
you are free to do as you please

Thanks for that andiem

I am not angry at all and cannot think how any of my posts could be percieved as anything other than me expressing my opinion and have already said I respect the opinions of others.

I also work in health and am well used to appraising and assessing evidence available to me to advice teenagers around their risk taking behaviour.

I had dd in my bed till she was about 3 months - DH was in the spare room. Then she was in her cot next to me until 6 months. Then in her own room.

One of my happiest memories of the newborn stage is those summer nights with tiny dd next to me in bed. It was great as I just fed her lying down. I am sure I got much more sleep than I would have done any other way.

The point Andiem is making, LA, is that she doesn't favour putting a baby in its own room until age 6 months. She has never argued in favour of co-sleeping, at least not on this thread. The OP didn't say what shall I do - put baby in own room or co-sleep? The alternatives she is considering are own room or sleep in parents' room not necessarily in their bed.

And your tone is angry.

Post-script...

Thanks all for your replies. After careful consideration, we decided to keep DD in our room for the time-being.

And THEN, a couple of nights ago, DD would not settle after 4am. DH took her out of our room so I could get some rest. He put her in the cot for a few minutes while he went to the loo... and when he got back she was fast asleep, with arms spread wide, and stayed that way until 7am!

Since then she's been sleeping in the cot - she seems to like being able to throw her arms out to the side (fairly predictable, since she's hated being swaddled since day 1). The cot won't fit in our room, so we have bought a sound and movement monitor which has helped put our minds at rest.

After all that agonising, she made our minds up for us, and we've all slept better since!

it's up to you really. use your own judgement on this one. For us, we put DS into his own room at 4 months. Hoping to last a bit longer with the next baby but we'll see. They are all different!

that's brilliant news Glad you found a method that works.

Great, sleeping till 7am, fantastic!