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AIBU to want to move DD into her own room at 5 weeks?

189 replies

CucumberInMyBra · 24/05/2010 19:49

...I just think we might all sleep better.

At the moment, she sleeps in a moses basket next to our bed. I take her into her own room during the night for nappy changes and feeds, then bring her back into our room. I think she's a really light sleeper, so any snores or duvet rustles stop her settling back to sleep. And that in turn means she's pretty noisy throughout the night! Is it really mean to want to move her so early? Should I just suck it up and wait for another month or so? (She's big and long and stretches out so she won't fit in the basket much longer than that anyway!).

And for those of you who have moved a baby into their own room, how do I go about it without disrupting things too much? Thanks!

OP posts:
andiem · 24/05/2010 20:51

Linden I pram slept my youngest and moved him around the house with me during the day when he was under 6 months but you are right everyone has to make up their own mind about what risks they are prepared to take

Aitch · 24/05/2010 20:52

people like you who think they know better than the govt advice, la.

Ladyanonymous · 24/05/2010 20:53

Yes because everything the govt says is gospel Aitch

FabIsGoingToGetFit · 24/05/2010 20:55

Only on MN could there be a row after a question about babies sleeping alone.

andiem · 24/05/2010 20:55

If everyone stuck to the rules la then maybe there would be no deaths but we won't know as there will always be smokers, babies in their own rooms and babies where the parents do everything to minimize the risk and the baby still dies

CherryBaby · 24/05/2010 20:56

OP, as much as I can sympathise with your baby being a light sleeper (my DD woke up every time I turned in bed), I'm with everyone who says keep your baby with you until at least 6 months or longer.

DD was around a year old when we moved her to her own room, and although DH was nervous about the move, we've both seen how much better it is for her and our quality of sleep! The age felt absolutely right, and I think my peace of mind with her being in her own room had alot to do with her age as it felt right.

Aitch · 24/05/2010 20:56

lol, you need to make up your mind, LA. wakefield was wrong and discredited pretty much immediately, which would make the govt right there.

andiem · 24/05/2010 20:57

Fab grin (am using I pad and can't find the brackets if anyone knows where they are let me know and I can do links and emoticons )

withorwithoutyou · 24/05/2010 20:58

Wow andie, did you have one of those silvercross prams? DD outgrew her pram at about 4 months. What did you do in the evenings? Did he used to sleep through you taking him upstairs?

Aitch · 24/05/2010 20:59

do you have an ipad, andie? you haven't mentioned it...

BabyGiraffes · 24/05/2010 21:00

My dd1 was in her own room since birth (with me sleeping in her room for the first few weeks). Same with dd2, in her own room since she was about 5 weeks old. Not sure what the difference is between having the baby in your room or having the monitor on the highest setting with the baby next door... Whatever works for you I guess.

andiem · 24/05/2010 21:01

No I had an old mamas and papas as I have a 7 year gap and was too tight to buy a new one. I used to put him in the carry cot bit it was very spacious

ChunkyMonkeysMum · 24/05/2010 21:01

I've only read the OP's post and a few others, so sorry if I say anything here that anyone else has said.

My eldest DS went into his own room at 4 weeks, and the youngest at 5-6 weeks as I am a really light sleeper & felt I was constantly disturbing them both.

They both slept fantastically once in their own rooms, but I was lucky in the fact they were both sleeping all night by this point (midnight-6am). I don't think I would have put them in their own rooms if they weren't though.

The way I did it was to first of all put their moses basket in their room, then after a week or so I put the moses basket inside the cot so that they weren't going into their own room and a new bed all at the same time. After another week or so I put them straight in the cot.

I did (and still do) have a video monitor though which I kept beside my bed so I could keep checking on them.

Missus84 · 24/05/2010 21:01

"Not sure what the difference is between having the baby in your room or having the monitor on the highest setting with the baby next door..."

The baby can't hear you through the monitor.

andiem · 24/05/2010 21:02

I know aitch I do love it but no brackets and the app store isn't working properly yet it is dhs but he has gone away for the week and left it it is all mine!!!!

withorwithoutyou · 24/05/2010 21:03

Carry cot would be great for that, never had one but I can see how much easier that would make things. Ditto with a moses basket I guess but I think they grouw out of them quickly.

Aitch · 24/05/2010 21:04

is it nice to type on? i think i like having a clicky keyboard.

andiem · 24/05/2010 21:06

It is fantastic to type on much better than an iPhone but if I am doing serious writing I have to use a pc not even a laptop will do!

Aitch · 24/05/2010 21:07

and what if you wanted to sling it in a bag, wouldn't the screen get all scratched?

andiem · 24/05/2010 21:10

No we have a cover it fits in like a book so the screen is protected

Greythorne · 24/05/2010 21:12

nickytwotimes
There is a contradiction in that generally MNers approve of co-sleeping yet disapprove of babies sleeping in their own rooms...;both of which are not recommended by the FSIDS.

I think the reason is that there is also a good body of evidence that co-sleeping safely is acceptable. The key is safely, ie neither parent smokes, drinks alcohol, takes drugs, takes sleeping tablets, no pets in the room, proper hard bed, not a sofa.

The stories you read in the press about babies being, very sadly, squashed and suffocated almost always involve some ofg the risk factors listed above, ie very knackered parent asleep on a sofa with tiny baby.

Unfortunately, the recommendations have to be as clear as possible, so they say 'no co-sleeping'. But I imagine most MNers - highly informed, dontcha know, recognise the difference between safe and unsafe co-sleeping.

I am not sure there is an accepted "safe" route to putting your baby to sleep in another room.

Interestingly, whilst co-sleeping is a mainstream activity on MN, it is still a pretty strong taboo IRL and with medical profession. many of my friends prefer to sketch over their co-sleeping arrangements when speaking to their GP or HV.

Conversely, worldwide, co-sleeping is the norm and considered safe and uncontroversial.

Ladyanonymous · 24/05/2010 21:13

Wasn't rowing - I respect everyones opinion on here and I am neither right nor wrong I just like to exercise my right to express mine.

lovely74 · 24/05/2010 21:18

To try and help the OP, this is what I did; I'm a really light sleeper and had real problems when DS started having 2 hour periods at night when he was just awake and cooing. Very cute but not very good for my sleep! I was adamant he would stay with me til he was 6 months, so my compromise was to wear earplugs and this worked a treat. My natural instincts meant that I woke up regularly and took them out to hear his breathing, and TBH I would still wake at the slightest sound, it just took the edge off it meaning that I could actually get to sleep. I always seemed to wake just as he was stirring.
We moved him into his own room when he was 6 months old and now use a monitor (the room is next door so you can hear just without it though). Like someone has already said, I think I am awake more now as I don't hear him breathing as easily, and when he has his awake times, it sounds lound and unnatural as it's through the monitor.

Research is progress. Wouldn't there be an outcry if it was decided that the funding for SIDS research was pulled as it was decided that the number of deaths expreienced over the last fews years was acceptable?

LindenAvery · 24/05/2010 21:20

baby in your room - studies have shown that their breathing is regulated by the presence of the mother (CO2 levels).

LadyintheRadiator · 24/05/2010 21:23

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