AIBU to want to move DD into her own room at 5 weeks?

[CucumberInMyBra]

...I just think we might all sleep better.

At the moment, she sleeps in a moses basket next to our bed. I take her into her own room during the night for nappy changes and feeds, then bring her back into our room. I think she's a really light sleeper, so any snores or duvet rustles stop her settling back to sleep. And that in turn means she's pretty noisy throughout the night! Is it really mean to want to move her so early? Should I just suck it up and wait for another month or so? (She's big and long and stretches out so she won't fit in the basket much longer than that anyway!).

And for those of you who have moved a baby into their own room, how do I go about it without disrupting things too much? Thanks!

Tiny babies are not meant to be separated from their mothers, we are the only mammals that seem to have this unnatural obsession!

Most of us already separate by plonking them in a moses basket, to be in a completely different room takes it too far in my opinion.

I think it's reasonable to stay together for AT LEAST six months, for connection, safety and security.

Nicky co sleeping is a tricky area as we know that if the parent smokes heavily, drinks, takes drugs or is on a sofa the risk is much higher, but ther is advice around about how to co sleep safely am on iPad so can't do links but if you google safe co sleeping you can easily find the advice
I think FSIDS are trying to hedge bets and not cause confusion by saying it can be safe but there is evidence that if you co sleep safely it is great!

Put her at the bottom of the bed.

The first night home ours slept right by H's side of the bed. Once they were in their cot, a few weeks later, they would go to the bottom of the bed.

It isn't really a YANBU/YABU question, just what you can live with really.

I am not saying research is a load of crap, I am just saying I don't believe everything I am spoon fed.

I look at who has paid for the research, the number of people involved, how they were selected, what the outcomes are, who they benefit etc etc etc.

Research said last week mobile phones don't cause brain tumors.

I for one do not believe that for a minute.

I know several neurosurgeons who will not use a mobile phone held to their head, only on a hands free.

Can you get a monitor with a breathing sensor pad? At least that will alert you if the baby does stop breathing.

DD went into her own room at 5 and a bit months after she outgrew the crib as we couldn't fit the cot in our room. We had a breathing monitor and it was fine.

I think the SIDS advice actually advocates having the baby in the room with you for the whole time it's asleep - so all daytime naps plus early part of the evening before you go to bed you should have the baby in the room with you.

I bet most of the people on this thread don't have the baby in the living room with them in the evening til 6 months.

I have DCs who are 10, 9 and 7, and I never heard of this 6-month rule, so it must be fairly new. Mine were all sleeping through the night by 8 weeks, so off they went into their own rooms. I think we all slept better. There was no way I could have kept them in our room for much longer anyway; they outgrew the moses basket and the main bedroom in our teeny cottage was way too small for a cot.

"Hence I see completely different advice being given out a few years after I was given differing advice"

Yes, it's called medical research moving forward. Would you ignore up to date cancer research because it didn't match something you were told 15 years ago ? That is the whole nature of research - those undertaking the research find more accurate information than their predecessors.

I find your attitude rather Luddite to be honest.

Lady you cannot in any way compare the mmr issue with the SIDS advice what possible agenda is there in trying to reduce infant mortality

Mine both went in their own room at about 12 weeks. I also fed and did nappy changes in the baby's room. I found the most comfortable place to feed was the chair in there and that was what I did. If it suits you keep on doing it! We found they were so noisy they kept us awake so out they went at 12 weeks. With the monitor on next to my side of the bed, I could hear perfectly well but slept!
We found playing classic fm all night helped mask the noise of us or the baby and helped them to sleep better.

What was the MMR advice trying to achieve then?? Back then?

We all thought it was in the best interests of our children to possibly not vaccinate our children back then - we know differently now because we were misled.

I am also interested in nickytwotimes' point.

It's one thing to look at the research, but weigh up the risks and decide not to follow it due to your circumstances etc - but it seems bizarre to just dismiss it out of hand.

I'm finding it difficult to imagine who could benefit financially from encouraging biased research into sids, and what agenda they could possibly have?

....we were also told it was safe to eat British Beef .... tell that to a family of a victim of CJD.

i think if i had put dd in her own room so early i wouldhave stayeed awake half the night through sheer fear and listening for .her

"What was the MMR advice trying to achieve then?? Back then?

We all thought it was in the best interests of our children to possibly not vaccinate our children back then - we know differently now because we were misled. "

There was no MMR "advice" though - there was one very limited and quickly discredited piece of research from one person.

I am not saying disregard it - in fact I never said that?!

I like to question things...thats all

I'm afraid I do agree with Lady at some level though - the fsid guidelines are designed to remove ALL risk. So to be fully compliant your babies would all never fall asleep in their car seats or baby bouncers, would be moved from room to room with you when they are napping etc.

Ladyanonymous, so you think it might actually be safer for a young baby to be in it's own room then?

i think personally that they are not meant to be alone and get upset if they can't hear another person, which stresses them.

but, the huge majority of people get on fine with their babies whatever they do - SIDS is very rare ...so ultimately on this one, its your baby.

though if you are breastfeeding i think it is important to keep them close to you at night until you drop night feeds- to keep your supply coming.

only 5 weeks though - they wake pretty often then.

It wasn't quickly discredited though?

People are still not vaccinating their children now??

All my three were fine yes.

And I would do it now too.

I didn't have baby monitor either as I hate the things.

Does it really 'halve' the risk - compared to what- most research into SIDS is unable to distinguish between all the variables.

With all the suggestions for 'safer' sleeping - the ones that actually lower the risk substantially are a) place on backs and b) no smoking

SIDS still occurs beyond 6 months - you can check the FSID website to see this and SIDS also occurs during daytime naps, as another poster has pointed out is a baby always in the presence of someone?

They are just guidelines and not 'rules' use them to make your own choice - what if you have no room for a cot in your room and do not wish to co-sleep?

If they were rules or facts no babies would die of SIDS anymore - would they?

i'm going to go slightly on a limb and say that i don't think tiny babies should be on their own that long, wouldn't let a 5 week old puppy be on its own unless asleep - and humans are no less in need of company.

now, i would leave a 5 week old of either species on its own for a few hours in the evening - but not all night. This is just my feeling on the matter, and no research backs it up -

though i still would'nt say the OP was wrong as such if she put baby in other room, its just not something i'd ever do.