AIBU to want to move DD into her own room at 5 weeks?

[CucumberInMyBra]

...I just think we might all sleep better.

At the moment, she sleeps in a moses basket next to our bed. I take her into her own room during the night for nappy changes and feeds, then bring her back into our room. I think she's a really light sleeper, so any snores or duvet rustles stop her settling back to sleep. And that in turn means she's pretty noisy throughout the night! Is it really mean to want to move her so early? Should I just suck it up and wait for another month or so? (She's big and long and stretches out so she won't fit in the basket much longer than that anyway!).

And for those of you who have moved a baby into their own room, how do I go about it without disrupting things too much? Thanks!

I take great offence to your remarks LadyintheRadiator

If you actually read my posts I never said lets all ignore facts and evidence - I was saying that I always like to question research.

If you read research as well as a post on a forum I would feel yours would be ill informed advice to take anyway.

I think there is some idea with the SIDS research that a newborn regulates their breathing better when they can hear their parents breathing too.

I'll put my hands up and admit to being an attachment-type hippy parent, but I just think it makes biological sense to stay close to your newborn.

At first I too found it difficult to sleep next to my snuffling baby, and I am sure it is really common, especially with a pfb, but you do get used to it. I found it helped if I 'told myself' to relax and go to sleep.

Hope you find a solution you are happy with, and congratulations on your baby!

Although it is ultimately your decision, I would persevere for it a bit longer, just on the basis that why would you take that risk so early on.

I slept in the same room as DS for 5 months (when he could eventually roll on to and off his tummy which is apparently one important factor in preventing SIDS). It didn't affect his ability to sleep in his cot at all in the short, medium or long term when we eventually moved him in.

YABVU

LadyintheRadiator Missus 84

The advice may change due to new research but that doesn't mean to say it's necesarily right. Looks like someone has already said about MMR.

I'm afraid I don't always believe what I'm told. Like I never actually believed Saddam Hussein could bomb us in 45 minutes though that's completely off tangent. Have probably just outed myself as insane..........

We had ours in their own room from the start, for similar reasons to IloveplayingDarts. DH can't get back to sleep when he wakes-I can. If he doesn't get sleep he gets a migraine and can't operate. It was no problem, I woke at the first cry and their room was all set up.
They are older and I don't remember anyone giving advice, or even an opinion on it. It suited us. I would say that OP should do what suits her.

I didn't reply because I went to work!

I was just using them as examples of where advice from the Government has been way off as there seems to be some kind of consensus on this thread that if the government tell us thats what we should do then we should, like Muppets, without questioning.

I just remember over the years and with each different child being given different advice - The reserach does change and often goes full circle, thus contradicting itself.

The government never gave advice to avoid MMR though, did it? Quite the opposite in fact.

Not read all the thread, and don't intend to be controversial, but I have not had a decent night's sleep since my DD was born, and that was 10 years ago. It is a bit like being on a plane and having to stay awake to make sure that the pilot doesn't crash (Erica Jong, Fear of Flying). When she was a (very noisy) baby I couldn't sleep because of the noise, and then if she wasn't noisy I couldn't sleep for wondering why she wasn't making a noise, and then when she went into her own room, I would lie awake just waiting for the night feed cry, which would be like a burning knife in my guts, and consequently my sleep pattern flew out of the window, never to return. But isn't that all part of motherhood?

I haven't disregarded any research LITR - I just don't fully believe it thats all - I brought up MMR and Beef for the reasons given above.

I find it difficult to swallow that putting a baby in its own room is the deadly risk posters are suggesting on this thread yet in the same token the same posters are advocating co-sleeping which IMO is a bigger risk to a child than being in its own room.

How many babies since SIDS records began have been in their own room who have had SIDS compared to all the babies in the western world who sleep in their own room and do not die?

IMO its clutching at straws, and unhelpful, the only scientific reasons posters can come up with is the noise thing and C02, well I'm sorry but WTF?

Have we all lost our minds?

No, the govt didn't tell us to avoid MMR but many people stopped vaccinating their children because of 'new research'. Not sure whether it's relevant if the 'new research' is sanctioned by the govt or by a doctor working alone. Who do we choose to believe? How can we be certain that any advice we are given is correct? The answer is, we can't be certain. We have to weigh up the info given to us and decide what works best for us.

That's my last word on the subject.

SIDS = Sudden Infant Death Syndrome

"Have had sudden infant death syndrome"

I cannot see what is wrong with writing that?

Maybe my grammar may have been better if I had said "have died from SIDS".

If you can only pick at my English rather than the point within it then I rest my case.

2old4thislark Thanks - that is exactly what I have been trying to say.

LA the reason it is advised that infants are not put in their own rooms is because the SIDS research found there was a statiscally significant increased risk of dying if they were put in their own room before the age of 6 months. In order to work this out they compare the care/lifestyle choices of families whose infants die of SIDS with a much larger number of healthy infants care. By doing this they identify differences in the care and they can then calculate if those differencs are statistically significant. They only advise aginst doing something if it is shown to be significant.
Initially when this reserch was started the most significant issue was sleep position, now that most infants are placed on their back to sleep other issues have become more significant such as being in your own room and smoking.

sorry meant to say it is only a deadly risk if your infant dies but I personally was not prepared to take that risk as I felt I couldn't forgive myself if something had happened but everybody has free will and if they want to put the infant in it's own room then that of course is their choice

Why all this talk of science - surely you do what feels right for you and your baby? I personally did not want to be parted from my baby, but I had an NCT friend who went down the controlled crying and timetabled sleep route. Both girls have turned out fine.

What "felt right" was putting babies to sleep on their tummies though, until research was done no one knew it was a big risk.

not in the slightest, ours went into their own rooms at 2 and 5 days old. both fab sleepers and no probs at all.

andiem I don't like the incinuation that anyone who does/did choose to put their baby in their own room is somehow failing as a parent and prepared to "take a risk".

I put ds in own room at 4 months. I think breastfeeding reduces the risk of SIDS .

it is taking a risk I wasn't insinuating it I was stating it as a fact the evidence is that infants who die of SIDS are more likely to be in their own rooms

As are parents who co-sleep - Fact.

My 14 yo ds was bottle fed and in his room from when we came back from hospital. He slept on his back. When he was having a bad night I slept in his room, as there was a bed in there, so dh didn't get disturbed. When he was OK, I slept with dh as usual. We had a baby monitor and I woke just before ds did each time.