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to be in a murderous mood now that

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Zebra33 · 18/05/2010 07:39

my hubby woke me up from my slumber to make him sandwiches for work????? I have a 10 week old who is still up twice in the night and a 3 year old who also gets up in the night who tend to. I could just pack up and leave now!!!!

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AnyFucker · 18/05/2010 07:41

I hope you told him to fuck off

Or better still, this is a wind-up

ditavonteesed · 18/05/2010 07:41

use his fingers to make the sandwiches, git

Gibbon · 18/05/2010 07:43

Tell me you didn't get up and make them.

EleanorHandbasket · 18/05/2010 07:55

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Amapoleon · 18/05/2010 07:56

Blimey, I hope you told him to make his own sandwiches!

RunawayWife · 18/05/2010 07:56

I hope you rubbed the bread round the inside of the toilet first

strawberrycake · 18/05/2010 08:04

I feel your pain. I'm 39 weeks pregnant and barely able to sleep. If I sleep at any time of day or night I treasure it. My husband has repeatedly asked where his morning cup of tea is, even moaning to work colleagues about going out the door with no breakfast! I obviously made a mistake when I was previously nice and made him a cuppa whilst I did my own cuppa and packed lunch in the morning. I cannot understand how an adult finds it so bloody hard to make one cup of tea for himself. He sees it as too much in the morning to make one cup, whereas thinks it's normal for me to make said tea, packed lunch and breakfast as well as getting ready! Frankly as he's up anyway it wouldn't hurt him to make me one. But now I'm off work he sees himself absolvd of any household duties, even picking up dirty things off the floorr.....

Sorry I've ranted all over your thread, but it hit a nerve! Be strong and very clear what you think of it. Talk to him like you would a child who wanted to paint the walls instead of paper!

AnyFucker · 18/05/2010 08:06

strawberry, if you put up with that, then you are also a mug

if he is up anyway, he should bring you a cuppa

I despair of women who meekly accept being used as a domestic servant

EleanorHandbasket · 18/05/2010 08:33

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BouncingTurtle · 18/05/2010 08:39

I'm with AnyFucker.

He is a total nobboid, Zebra, but if you didn't tell him to fuck off and stay in bed, that makes you a mug.

Strawberry - that is utterly unacceptable, he should definitely be helping out.

I suggest both you ladies TALK to your OHs about what is reasonable for them to ask you and what is taking the piss!

TakeLovingChances · 18/05/2010 09:39

Reading this makes me very thankful for my lovely DH.

We have our DS who is 11 weeks old, and sleep is precious.

If my DH woke me up for any domestic task (apart from one relating to DS) I would do my nut!

Getting up to make him sandwiches? No way!

Lauriefairycake · 18/05/2010 09:41

I can't imagine living in a world where dh woke me up to do tasks for him

strawberrycake · 18/05/2010 09:42

re-read my post-no way have I got up to do it. He's moaning because it's never happened! I have let him moan himself out and give up asking.

Zondra · 18/05/2010 09:43

What a selfish arsehole!
Time to have words I think...

Poledra · 18/05/2010 09:46

Bloody hell! I cannot imagine DH waking me up unless it was something urgent like have you seen my keys/mobile/wallet!! And even then he's likely to get 'Where you left them you silly arse.'

In fact, I don't work on Fridays and, in school holidays, DH has been known to bring me a cup of tea in bed if I'm awake before he goes to work.

AgentProvocateur · 18/05/2010 09:47

Why do you put up with behaviour like this? I see it time and time again on MN. I wouldn't let any man treat me like this.

glastocat · 18/05/2010 09:48

If my husband had ever tried this I would have laughed in his face. You need to sort this out, its not acceptable.

LutyensCBA · 18/05/2010 09:48

Bloody hell! I must show my dh my appreciation more often. He would never dream of waking me up to make a packed lunch for him! In fact, he packs his own lunch even if I'm up and about! Actually on days when he's off to work early, he sleeps in the spare room so he doesn't wake me up in the morning.

God, Zebra, nip this in the bud. Seriously, the cheek of some men!

Doodleydoo · 18/05/2010 09:51

What kind of a bloke expects to have this kind of stuff done for him - send him home to mummy. Being pg with a 2 year old and a dh who leaves at 6.30 I expect him to make me a cup of tea and bring her morning milk up to me, not the other way around - pillocks. Tell him he is meant to treat you like a princess for giving birth to his children, not the other way around.

ScreaminEagle · 18/05/2010 09:53

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TrinityMeemaRhino · 18/05/2010 09:53

its sick that I have lost an amazing man and there are nobboids (great word bouncing turtle) like this treating you like a fucking servant

please please tell me you didn't make them

TrinityMeemaRhino · 18/05/2010 09:55

sorry
I'm having a bad day
should#t crap on anyone elses thread

I feel bad for you
I found an amazing man and you're having to put up with this

sorry

mountainmonkey · 18/05/2010 09:59

I never knew til I discovered MN that there were still men like this!
Makes me very grateful that mine isn't one of them.

Hullygully · 18/05/2010 10:02

I am aghast that people still live like this. Wake up, life is short, it needn't be nasty and brutish to boot.

Downdog · 18/05/2010 10:03

"would you like a poke in the eye with those sandwiches?"

YANBU & he should be put straight about this right now - this is not acceptable behaviour Mr, make your own bloody sandwiches, now & forever!!!

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