To not want to serve beer at my daughters lunchtime 1st birthday party?

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Am I?

Its at my flat, and is a relaxed, jelly-and-icecream kinda affair, but someone is saying I should be providing 'cans of beer for the dads', we will be having some champagne for the adults after cutting the cake and I'm serving lunch and soft drinks, but I really don't like the idea of people swigging cans of beer at by babies first birthday, AIBU?

Thanks in advance x

I cant really see the difference between wether tey are drinking champagne or drinking beer (you can decant cans and bottles into glasses) TBH - it is still all alcohol.

If your child is 1 it's not really about her, is it? It's a grownup affair.

But no, YANBU, don't have beer if you don't want beer at your party.

And why should "dads" want beer in particular?

You can do whatever you want, it's your flat. Even if you have some alcohol though will it really turn into a drunken party? Perhaps people want to have a family get together and see the event as an excuse to enjoy themselves -if so, is that such a bad thing? I'm sure people will be able to control themselves.

It's your home and dds birthday, so you should do what you feel comfortable with. I wouldn't serve beer to adults at a party for a one yr old either.

YANBU - your party and therefore your rules.

'Someone' is BU and obviously thinks grown men can't cope at any sort of social family gathering without a beer or two to see them through it - pathetic really.

One for the dads eh? = where are we? The 1970s???

Agreed Trillian, I thought it was a strange thing for my friend to say. I was thinking infact maybe I'll keep the champagne aside for the grown ups left in the evening. Her lunchtime party will mainly just be her and her friends from baby group playing! I'd rather alcohol not be involved.

Jx

There is a difference. If there are cans of beer there they will all be swilled until they are gone..not the same as a small glass of champagne being drunk to toast the baba's first year. YANBU, it's not an adult's party per se, a toast with champagne is appropriate, beery men not!

IMO YABU - a 1st B-day party isn't really about the child - it's about the parents wanting a party for their LO.
The wee one isn't going to care or know whether she has a party or not.

NOT suggesting anyone gets drunk but a can of lager isn't going to mean a life of alcohol abuse if a 1yo sees it.

I think it is totally up to you and agree that it is not right at a kids party. I do drink but think adult should be able to have a relaxed time without alcohol. I am not planning any alcohol at my dd2 1st birthday next week.

you are being a nob

thanks passay, and you are being a charmer. Would you like to elaborate?

the kid is ONE
who cares who drinks what
they arent going to get bladdered and start pissing into jelly are they.
sheesh uptight about alcohol or what

your plans sound lovely.have a great day.do what you want

I don't understand why not - she's not going to know what the hell is going on and if you're inviting a load of people, a children's party is slightly more bearable with a beer or a glass of wine. But if you don't want alcohol then that's your prerogative. Personally a load of screaming babies makes me reach for the wine bottle but we're all different

True, they won't (but it would be rather amusing if they were....)

I just think drinking at lunchtime at a children's party doesn't sit well with me, but thank you for your opinion.

Take a chill pill

Oops, sorry my last one was for passay,but I wasn't quick enough!

you aked AIBU
yes utterly you are

dont understand why your getting hard time.your home up to you to decide upon the hospitality

I don't think the OP seems uptight Passay, just careful about what atmoshere they are trying to create.

I don't think you are being unreasonable at all, and I really don't think there's any need to use nasty language when someones asking a simple question. It's your place, your baby, do what you want. I don't understand why some people can't just do without alcohol for a few hours, especially at a kids party. Have a good time and ignore the idiots Hun x

Well, I don't see why it's a problem. It's a party and a couple of beers isn't going to hurt, unless you have family & friends that are unable to control their drinking.

Why is it 'not right' at a kids party?'.

We are talking about a few beers, not getting rip-roaringly pissed.

oh the huns are involved andthe kisses

So is the champagne for the afternoon bit or the evening? Confused betweent he two posts.

If serving champagne in the afternoon I personally see no differece. Just one is a bit posher and more middle class, so probably does seem quite so bad.

If not serving champagne in afternoon then I think it is fine to say no alcohol full stop anyway.

If serving champagne in evening, is beer still barred then too?

At the end of the day though it is your house and you decide what you want to serve.

But IMO it doesn't matter one way or the other - and IMO it doesn't matter if it is champagne or beer, it is all just alcohol.

lol at hula

Dinkytinky: I don't understand why some people can't just do without alcohol for a few hours,

But in the OP it says that there will be alcohol - champagne. My point on this is that regatdless of whether beer or champagne - it is still all alcohol.