To not want my kids grandparents to sleep naked with him.

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My kids paternal grandparents sleep naked ok fair enough thats up to them. My kids stay at theres when they babysit and sleep over. When my son wakes up early he usually gets in their bed and dozes for a while. I don't feel comfortable that they are naked then. AIBU if I ask them to at least wear underwear? and how do I ask them without offending them?

I bath or take showers with my daughter (only 2 and a half) she loves it.

Yes as I said earlier I personally feel uncomfortable with kissing my kids on the lips (I accept I'm a weirdo) but I wouldn't feel at ease if the GP's (particularly my hubby's) were naked in a bed with my child either.

I think I possibly worry too much though and over think things... I'm clearly not as laid back as some people. I realise that

YANBU - if it bothers you then you have every right as a parent to either casually avoid them staying over, or mentioning it to the GPs.

This thread shouldn't be a forum for slagging off people who have different comfort levels. You are the parent and you should always be comfortable with what your children are exposed to.

No biggie.

Just tell your ds to keep his jammys on when he stays over then no old skin will be touching his!

he loves his jammys so they are on.

Gosh. I am quite prudish really (and generally over protective of dds) and it wouldnt bother me at all. I still sleep naked with my 8 year old, as does dh. We all wonder around naked. I wouldnt worry about my dds seeing grandparents naked - they need to understand that the body ages and there is nothing wrong with that. Mind you, I wont get changed in communal swimming changing rooms - am only prepared to be naked in front of family!!!

I wouldn't be happy with it but I'm not really sure why.

The only naked people I would be prepared to sleep with are dh and ds, anyone else would be just too icky. I wouldn't like the idea that you might accidently get someone elses bodily fluids on you.

I think its similar to sharing a toothbrush. If it was really necessary I would share a toothbrush with dh or ds only. I wouldn't want ds to share a toothbrush with his grandparents either.

Oh god I couldn't stand the thought of sharing a toothbrush with anyone! DS tries to bruch my teeth with his brush after he has done his. It makes me (some sort of uhh emotion).

I wouldn't like it. I don't know why though.
...one thing I do know is that it's not because I think anything inappropriate will happen If I thought that I wouldn't let my child sleep over, naked or not!

I sleep naked but when I have my neice and nephew over to stay, I wear my pj's. It wouldn't seem right not to do so. Again, I don't know why though.

Great help aren't I?!

@ the inlaws being stereotypically nudie swedes!

BTW I don't think you should tell them that your DC have said they are uncomfortabe with it if they haven't, IYSWIM, as that will upset them and why upset them if it's not true

It's a YANBU from me as well. I am a bit of a prude admittedly and don't sleep naked myself.

My dad sleeps naked, and when my oldest DD was old enough to walk in to their room, I asked my mum to ask him to wear shorts /pants in bed when we stay or they stay with us.

I am suprised at the number of people who find nakedness upsetting and wouldn't sleep naked with their own children. Although each to their own.

However, I don't think there is anyway to tell GP to put some clothes on without offending them. No matter how you word it the subtext is 'I think you're a perve'. If the child themselves was uncomfortable that would be different but even then I would wonder why they were upset with just nakedness.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest. My parents sleep naked, always have. I wouldn't give it a second thought if DD (9yrs) was getting in bed with them when she stays over. She doesn't, but that's only cos my dad snores and she hates it! lol
I sleep naked and have had DD in with me plenty of times, as you do. She also annoys talks to me when I'm in the bath etc. At this point I don't even notice if I'm naked in front of her, my mum is the same with me, she wouldn't bat an eyelid if I walked in on her in bath or getting dressed.
As for not kissing your kids on the lips, that makes me sad, do people really think that way??

Sexual assault is inappropriate (to put it mildly) being naked is not.

Going by some of the comments on this thread, it's a pity more people don't see wrinkly relies at a formative age. The ageism is appalling. How dare gp go grey or have wrinkles? Maybe we should have them put down so they don't upset the children? (Don't mean you, OP).

I would have no problem with this with either DS. I always sleep naked, ds2 always ends up in my bed, ds1 often walks into the bathroom when i am in the bath and strikes up a conversation and he is 11,12 in july. Its not as if he hasn't seen me naked before, i mean he watched DS2 being born for a start, right from start to finish he was standing there lol.

I would have no problem with this with either DS. I always sleep naked, ds2 always ends up in my bed, ds1 often walks into the bathroom when i am in the bath and strikes up a conversation and he is 11,12 in july. Its not as if he hasn't seen me naked before, i mean he watched DS2 being born for a start, right from start to finish he was standing there lol.

Kerry being naked around children isn't in itself inappropriate, what happened to you was horrific and I can completely understand why you would react as you have, but as other poster said, it was the abuse that was wrong not the nakedness.
Not everybody, in fact very few people have bad intentions towards children, we can't live life treating everybody as a peadophile.

ooppss not sure how that happened....

but on another note, how would you feel about caring for your grandmother? father, mother etc?

I cared for my nan and stripped her, washed her and then redressed her. When my dad was ill in hospital and fully aware of what was going on, I would strip him and wash him, just as when i was a child i would help him bath, not because there was anything sordid but because he was disabled, mum worked bro n sis wouldn't do it and me as the youngest did.

I really don't understand the attiude that because you are naked you are up to no good...i think its sad tbh

It wouldn't bother me. Being naked with a child does not equal child abuse.

would they not "catch" your germs anyway??

am sure there are numerous ways they can be passed on other than kissing on the lips.