To not want my kids grandparents to sleep naked with him.

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My kids paternal grandparents sleep naked ok fair enough thats up to them. My kids stay at theres when they babysit and sleep over. When my son wakes up early he usually gets in their bed and dozes for a while. I don't feel comfortable that they are naked then. AIBU if I ask them to at least wear underwear? and how do I ask them without offending them?

i wouldn't mind this under the age of say 4/5, and definately not if the child was uncomfortable with it.
This is quite common in the rest of europe, it seems that British people have a problem with nakedness whereas a lot of others don't.

YANBU though as your entitled to your view, and they are your children, if your not happy with it to the point it makes you uncomfortable than say something, but i would stress to you that its purely innocent and nothing sinister/wrong with it

It wouldn't bother me.

I would expect that my parents would be naked, as they always slept in the buff when I lived at home with them.

It's just skin!!!

I find it a bit odd that people wouldn't sleep naked with their own children tbh.

It wouldn't bother me.

apologies anyfucker i mean your grey bush no disrepect

Never considered it really. My parents don't have the DC over night. I suspect I'd want them to become more privacy-conscious when the DC started to feel uncomfortable - same as us.

I wouldnt want this.

tea, we are a non kissing on mouth family too. Too intimate, reserved for sexual relationships. Its just cultural, I think.

YANBU. I wouldn't like it, Ds told his Nana they had to buy grandad some jammies for Christmas, as he didn't have any. so obviously he thought he should be wearing them in bed.

How about teaching your son not to get into their bed? Sorry, If they are doing you the favour of babysitting, I don't think it is for you to tell them what to wear in their bed. DH and I sleep naked and I would resent anybody telling me what was appropriate in my bed.

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at some of the responses on this thread. do some of you realize the connotations of what you are saying?

Am interested - just why is naked flesh so inappropriate?

Op - if you don't like it then tbh I think you shouldn't let your kids stay over, because there is no way to bring up the subject that won't make it look as if you are accusing them of potential child abuse.

I can understand that people feel uncomfortable with it, but tbh there is no real valid reason for feeling that way.

Just as a matter if interest what do you all you posters think the naked GPs are getting up to with the naked DC?????

opps more or less x-post with wannabe.

YANBU. wrong i know but the thought of either sets of grandparents naked is a bit icky, but in bed with my DS? no way!

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I think that if either sets of GPs offered to have my kids overnight

I would be so overjoyed I wouldn't care if they slept naked with the pubes trimmed into heart shapes, and did naked yoga every morning.

IMO YANBU - I'd feel wierd about it.

Wouldn't bother me with either set of GP actually, not for little kids anyway.

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I think I would feel a bit odd about it, but assuming I trusted the GPs (and hopefully you trust them if you are letting your DCs stay overnight!) and DCs were comfortable with it then I don't really know what is inappropriate about it. I sleep naked with my DS on occasion - he is still breastfeeding though so often it's easier to cover up or he is on and off a lot more.

Wouldn't bother me in the slightest, and I think it's sad that so many people seem to think it's wrong.

Same with the kissing on the mouth, full on snogging with tongues is reserved for sexual relationships not a kiss on the lips.

I wouldn't have a problem with it- to have a problem suggests they just might be doing something wrong.

I can't believe some of you think it is wrong for your own children to be in bed with you naked.

Especially that one poster doesn't even kiss her children on the lips. That's weird.

I have to say I'm finding it hard to imagine how I would feel as I imagine that both sets of GP here are firmly in the "keep your underwear on under your full length victorian nightwear" types.

Well I know mine are anyway, I suspect DHs are even more floor-length.

But we sleep naked, although my first reaction might be a bit , I would have to ask mysef if there was any sensible reason for feeling like that, realise there wasn't and say fine.

we sleep naked in this house (unless its too cold!) my children often come into our bed for a hug I dont see the problem and if the children dont like it well they have perfectly good beds of their own!
Probably wouldnt care about grandparents sleepign naked but since they never go there I couldnt say for sure!

This wouldn't bother me at all. IMO, feeling icky about nakedness is from the same school of thought that abhors breastfeeding because breasts are just for pleasure. There is nothing wrong with nakedness.

my ds os nearly 4. -we live in sweden and they are swedish so this is super normal for them and I think they would not take offense as I am english they would just put it down to englishness. Not sure it is worth it though. I mean I am not at all concerned that they would do anything but when my DS said that grandad sleeps "with just his todge" it sounded icky. Kissing on the mouth doesn't bother me a bit mind....

oh and thanks for all these opinions helps the mind process!!!!

YANBU, this would bother me too. I admit I am a bit of a prude being brought up by my nan and very strict step grandad.

If you are not comfortable that is entirely up to you. Some people are ok with stuff like this and some aren't. Can you not get your DH to say that your DCs have brought it up and they are not comfortable with it, hence the pyjama comment?