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8 boys and wanting a girl

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:10

AIBU to think that this programme was very unlikely to ever be called 8 girls and wanting a boy poor boys

The comments on the website about the programme are so sad

www.channel4.com/programmes/8-boys-and-wanting-a-girl

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glastocat · 02/02/2010 19:20

Why on earth wouldn't it be called 8 girls and wanting a boy?

YABVU

thisisyesterday · 02/02/2010 19:22

because people always seem to want girls and be bitterly disappointed if they have a boy

you only have to read the hundreds of threads on here about it to know that.

pooexplosions · 02/02/2010 19:23

I think you miss the point glasto.

Yanbu, OP, boys are undervalued massively these days. If one more perosn tells me I must have another baby to get a girl (after 3 boys) I swear I will slap them. I've had people say "poor you" when they hear I have all boys. Wankers.

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:24

Yes thats what I was thinking thisisyesterday

The programme only features mums or boys as well....

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Nancy10 · 02/02/2010 19:25

I know someone with 7 daughters who was delighted when her 8th was a son. She then had number 9 which was also a boy. They could afford to have lots of children, so they could look after them properly. They love all their girls dearly and would have loved any other girls that they may of had.

southeastastra · 02/02/2010 19:27

i think i would have just put a dress on the fifth one

Nancy10 · 02/02/2010 19:28

Yeah me too!

ConnorTraceptive · 02/02/2010 19:29

Baby boys rock!! I always wanted boys and have been blessed with two. 8 boys wow that would be amazing!!

WorzselMummage · 02/02/2010 19:29

I know somone with 5 girls and then a boy

boys a lovely I recon but my mates got 4 and she's desperate for a girl !

GhoulsAreLoud · 02/02/2010 19:29

at this comment:

After 4 boys, i am now due the long awaited daughter in May, I have bought the "gen select kits" ect But stuck to the diet,timeing and supplements on the in gender site and it worked! We went for a gender scan in london at 11 5 wks, Got told 75-80% girl, Done the pink or blue test also that came back girl (It was correct with the last 2 boys so did not doubt it) We were agreed if it had been another boy we would have termitated the pregnancy. Gender dissapointment in england is not as openly talked about, This is what i have personally found, I cant wait to wath the programme As it will hopefuly help people who dont suffer from GD to understand !!" .

They would have terminated a boy! I'm so shocked by that!

myredcardigan · 02/02/2010 19:29

I'm always sad to read the threads on hear where women pregnant for the 1st time post how disappointed they are after their 20wk scan showed them to be carrying a little boy. I have never seen such a thread the other way around.

LouMacca · 02/02/2010 19:31

Looking forward to watching this programme as I am in awe of anyone that has 4+ children.

We have friends who have 3 girls and were delighted that number 4 is a boy and friends who have 3 boys and desperately want a girl, it works both ways.

I have to say wanting one sex over another totally goes over my head............

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:33

I would like to know if the lady on the programme would have had 5 children or if she just kept going???

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Nancy10 · 02/02/2010 19:33

Yeah me too! I've got 3 boys and my sister has got 4 girls. I'd love to have a girl and she'd love a boy. I think when you have just boys/girls it's perfectly natural to want to have the other. But I would hate to get pregnant for people to say 'Are you hoping for a girl?'

ASecretLemonadeDrinker · 02/02/2010 19:35

Disgusting. YANBU OP, why are people girl obsessed? As I said on another thread, you have no idea what that girl will be like - they could be totally masculine, and /or a lesbian or want to become a transexual - people like this should get a doll and dress it up. I bet their boys feel oh so wanted

monkeyfacegrace · 02/02/2010 19:35

I was gutted when I found out my first child was a girl. I wanted a boy so badly.

Then I loved having a little girl so much, when I found out my second was a boy I sulked for weeks!

Of course, I love them both to bits x

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:36

GhoulsAreLoud That shocked me too!
The poor boys of the mums in the programme......just think how hurt they will be and the commnets they will get at school

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:39

I know Channel 4 are putting across issues which I guess we should debate on......I wonder how moral this is towards her children though??? Feels wrong

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Northernlurker · 02/02/2010 19:39

As the mother of three girls I can assure you that people do also expect you to be disappointed when you don't have a boy. I think the truth is that some people are pillocks and say the wrong thing - doesn't matter what sort of child you have - some numpty will put their foot firmly into their mouth and bite down!

Morloth · 02/02/2010 19:41

I love the idea of a house full of galumphing boys.

I can get my head around mild disappointment if you get the opposite of what you wanted (I probably would have been a bit sad if this baby had turned out to be a girl). But anything more than that is just crazy. And to keep having babies until you get the "right" one? Nice. Not going to make your other kids feel bad at all is it?

Francagoestohollywood · 02/02/2010 19:42

Here in Italy most people used to get really disappointed if a girl was born instead of a boy up until a few decades ago. And I'm certain it is still the case in some areas.
Girls are aborted in some countries like India or China.

ImSoNotTelling · 02/02/2010 19:42

Is it a MN thing? I have never noticed a preference for girls in RL.

The only thing I do notice is that people like to have one of each, or have funny ideas about what order different sexes should come in but I don't see this anti-boy thing at all.

Morloth · 02/02/2010 19:46

I think it is a MN/UK thing as other's have said in other parts of the world it swings the other way. Silly people come in all sorts of shapes/colours/cultures and religions.

Just today noticed at the ultrasound place there are many signs up saying that they will not scan for sex at the 12 week appointment. Presumably to stop stupid people from aborting the "wrong" fetus.

Nancy10 · 02/02/2010 19:46

My sister (with 4 girls) got hardly any congrats cards when her fourth daughter was born. People would openly say things like, 'what a shame, it's another girl,' 'Are you going to try for a boy or just accept it?' The worst thing is, is that her first girl, nearly died of cancer. And yes she would have liked a boy, but is very glad she has been able to have 4. And that they are all (now) healthy!

BethNoire · 02/02/2010 19:49

Pooexplosions hear hear- I have 4. I like having 4 boys. It suits me. had I had girls they would have had to be tomboys who like mud and welding.

Much likeme,really.

Iunderstand that having dreams of awhatever youweredreaming broken hurts but surely we know itis a chance thing in RL? Why would we set ourselves up forserious upset?

Somebody said to me'If I had a boy i'dpush it back up',I suggested she rethought that before having kids and a decade on she has none. probably unrelated but sometimes I wonder if the thought of having a boy was that traumatic to her. In which case .

Dh would have liked Daddy's girl I think,but I remember what I was like as a teen and whilst I suppose if someone had popped up when I waspg with ds4 and said 'Go on, you choose'i'dhave picked a girl there are certainly upsides to both girls and boys.Wewerean all family, I have 2 sisters,all my brothers died before term and actually- I am just lucky to have kids.

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