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8 boys and wanting a girl

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 19:10

AIBU to think that this programme was very unlikely to ever be called 8 girls and wanting a boy poor boys

The comments on the website about the programme are so sad

www.channel4.com/programmes/8-boys-and-wanting-a-girl

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DorotheaPlenticlew · 02/02/2010 19:49

I am very pro-choice, but still: anyone who would terminate on gender grounds alone is a massive, massive arsehole.

Boys totally rock! (though DC2 is probably gonna be a girl and I'm sure they rock too )

Nancy10 · 02/02/2010 19:52

I agree Dorothea, people who abort babies purely because they WANT a certain sex, shouldn't be able to have children!

Francagoestohollywood · 02/02/2010 19:52

No, lots of people are delighted to have girls here in Italy too. It doesn't mean it is an anti boy sentiment.

LouMacca · 02/02/2010 19:56

Nancy10 - that is terrible.

I can rememeber the builder working at my Mums house having to leave early because of the 'devastating' news he had received. It turned out that him and his wife had 3 boys and she had rang him with the scan results from the hospital and it was another boy.

My mum was sympathetic to him which made me so angry especially since we were going through our 2nd attempt of IVF at the time.

pointydog · 02/02/2010 19:57

yabu. I know families with girls who wnated a boy.

IsThatTheTime · 02/02/2010 19:59

I don't agree it's about wanting girls or wanting boys, it's about wanting a bit of both. I have two fabulous DDs who I love enormously and I would love to have a son as well because I would love for my DH to be able to do the lovely bonding golfy-man-type stuff he does with his own dad, and it's just fantastic to see how different they are from girls. I'm unlikely to try for a 3rd unless someone can guarantee me I will have a boy and I have said that quite openly to people (I'm not talking embryo selection or IVF or anything, a nice handy pill to take would be nice please). I know how lucky I am to have my beautiful daughters (have mc'd in the past for example) and I don't have any regrets or disappointment about my current situation.
I'm sorry if that makes me horribly shallow but it is the bald truth.

BetsyBoop · 02/02/2010 20:01

There was a boy in my class at school who was the youngest of 8 and had 7 older sisters, poor lad

Apparently his parents wanted a boy & just kept going until they got one!

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thisisyesterday · 02/02/2010 20:01

i think it's so sad.

you should have a baby because you want a baby, not because you want a boy/girl.

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thisisyesterday · 02/02/2010 20:04

so then why does the program only feature people who have boys and desperately want girls?

they could have made it equal and had some of each surely?

i started a thread on here after reading the millionth "just found out we're having a boy and i'm so upset" thread, and a LOT of people admitted having a preference for a girl.

many reasons why, of course, and i'm not saying those reasons aren't valid, and obviously most of them were absolutely over the moon with their boys, or chuffed with getting the girl they wanted.

but my point is there IS a preference for having girls, and as a mum of 3 boys it gets bloody annoying hearing about it tbh

spongebrainbigpants · 02/02/2010 20:04

'Gender Disappointment' - what a load of bollocks .

Agree with those on here who say that the trend nowadays is definitely to want girls - I have two boys and have had people openly tell me I must have been disappointed and am I going to try for a girl, etc, etc.

These women are deluded .

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 20:08

I was a bit when I saw they were only featuring mums who wanted girls......and there were 3 mums! Very unbalanced. 2 mums had IVF to ensure a girl, 1 mum did natural methods.....the crew filmed her as she had a scan which showed a boy!!

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UndomesticHousewife · 02/02/2010 20:11

I have 2 dd's and when we tried for number 3 I know that dh would have liked it a little to be a boy. I would have liked a boy because we had 2 girls already and it would have been different, but then when I found out we were actually having a boy I was terrified that I wouldn't bond with him because it was a boy and I only 'knew' girls.

As it happens when he arrived, he was just a baby not boy or girl and we loved him because he was our baby.

We were asked if we were trying for a boy, but how on earth can you do that reliably? We wanted another baby and we would have been blessed with whatever it was, boy or girl.
Dh always said that he loves our girls and he would of course be over the moon with another princess, as would I.

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 20:11

I do think people tend to seem to favour girls in RL.....but maybe thats because I have a boy and are heavily pregnant so hear comments all the time......perhaps I wouldn't hear the comments if a)I had a girl and b) I wasn't pregnant!

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UndomesticHousewife · 02/02/2010 20:15

When is this programme on or have I missed it?

GhoulsAreLoud · 02/02/2010 20:15

Has the programme already been on? Is there some way to watch again online?

LynetteScavo · 02/02/2010 20:16

Its' a western thing. There are whole continents where boys are still more valued than girls, where girls are seen as nothing but a burden. In some places in the world it's is not uncommon for a baby to be aborted because it's a girl.

So hey, lets celebrate the joy of girls.

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 20:17

UndomesticHousewife

Thu 04 Feb, 9PM on Channel 4

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Moomma · 02/02/2010 20:18

There is totally a bias against boys at the moment, and while I'd love a girl in one way (mostly because I'd love to get her to read the books I loved when I was growing up more than because I crave pink in my life) I feel so tremendously lucky to have a beautiful healthy son. I think people forget about that sometimes.

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icarriedawatermelon2 · 02/02/2010 20:20

GhoulsAreLoud

Thu 04 Feb, 9PM on Channel 4

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pointydog · 02/02/2010 20:21

I have never noticed this total bias against boys.