8 boys and wanting a girl

[icarriedawatermelon2]

AIBU to think that this programme was very unlikely to ever be called 8 girls and wanting a boy poor boys

The comments on the website about the programme are so sad

www.channel4.com/programmes/8-boys-and-wanting-a-girl

Another reason why I think some people see children as 'accessories', to satisfy their own vain wishes, rather than people in their own right.

One one stops thinking about children as playthings and starts thinking about them as men and women who happen to be very young at the moment, the way people behave towards them suddenly gets thrown into a different perspective.

I just found it best not to have a view to begin with-if you don't have a preference you are not disappointed. (quite how you can be disappointed by a healthy baby I don't know)

I agree with Nesta, After 2 losses early on pregnancy and 2 after 20 weeks- one of whom had severe problems, I felt that healthy babies means I have won the bloody lottery, boy or girl.

Zukie that makes me sad for your DS. I hope you can work through it.

I was a abit of a SMOG after my first 2 DDs, mostly as my mum and grandmother always went on how much nicer girls were, I had no brothers and alot of bad experiences with men, and all my friends with boys were desperate for girls, also i enjoyed having my first 2 and couldn't imagine any different (maybe i would have been simelar but the opposite if had 2 DSs first?). I used to 'feel sorry' for people with just boys. I am ashamed of that now and feel it was sheer naivity as when i did actually have my own boy I really loved it!!! I feel so proud of them, to be a mum of a boy, and see what i was 'missing' (I don't mean that in a bad way to those with only DDs) by putting boys down so to speak. I honestly have enjoyed having boys as much as girls-even shopping. I had 2 DDs and then lost 2 DDs and had 3 DSs. After loosing them I realised that it really didn't matter a jot if it was boy/girl, it was MY boy/girl.

I am so glad to have found this thread!!!! I have four lovely healthy boys and have experienced the nasty unthoughtful comments of others that im sure my boys will have to grow up listening to like "ahh poor you 4 boys" me and dh are now ttc our last baby purely because we both would like another child but others are convinced it must be because we want a girl.
I wont lie to find im expecting a girl would make the pregnancy a new experience as ive always walked past pink and dresses but id be equally pleased to find blue again.

Rant over

Had no idea so many people favoured girls. Always thought it was the other way round, that everyone wanted boys. I was thrilled to be expecting a boy - I felt I'd struck the jackpot. I really honestly thought this was what everyone thought. Surely in many many countries, it is.

well I will be the odd one out and say that if I were in the situation of having 8 kids of one sex, I would consider IVF or selective abortion to get the opposite gender. Only before 7 weeks though... so the method of figuring out sex would have to be 100% accurate at that gestation. I don't think IVF is wrong for sexual selection, and I think selective abortion is far preferable to murdering newborns as some cultures do. Anything past 10 weeks gestation, that isn't done for the baby or mother's health (physical or mental), is murder IMO. But before 7 weeks the embryo has neither nerves nor brain so cannot think or feel. So I don't think terminations before then are wrong.

Not a popular opinion, but my own.

Well I have experienced it in a different way. I have 2 young daughters, both ended up being traumatic births, with the second nearly dying at 4 days old and having to be hospitalised on full oxygen/antibiotics etc.

We have had no end of comments going like this:

Awww, another girl-sorry
Will you try again for a boy?
Would you have preffered a boy?
Your poor partner- bet he is disappointed

Most of these comments made just after she was released from hospital so I was still in shock and hormonal.

Must say I had a real go at one lady who has 4 daughters and actively told everyone she was disappointed and angry that her 4 th was another girl. She looked at my baby in her pram, saw my baby girl and loudly said "you must be really gutted to have another girl, better luck next time"
WTF????

I will not be having any more children due to the 2 problematic births I have had resulting in well over 200 stitches. So I am more than happy with my 2 little princesses.

And I am lucky that I have 4 gorgeous nephews with another on the way next month to enjoy. Plus my eldest is not a typical girly girl- she likes pink, does have dolls etc but enjoys climbing, scalextric, her garage and cars and getting incredibly filthy lol

DuelingFanjo I think it was bumped because the programme was on again on Monday this week. I wasn't on Mumset when it was first aired so the thread is of interest to me. Too darn long to read though!

Anyway I have two boys (aged 12 and 2) and not a single person has remarked on the fact I don't have a girl. Maybe it's because of the large gap?