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Original poster

mum doesnt ever baby sit

214 replies

loujo · 08/12/2009 22:17

Hi,

Is it unreasonable for me to want to go out once in awhile ? I have a 11 month yr old baby girl , but I can never go out as my mum never offers to babysit. I dont want to go out every weekend ! Just maybe once a month to go out with my friends but I carnt as my mum wont have my baby ? She has never had her to stay the night or ever really wants to look after her, She knows how hard she is and how tierd I am ..I just need a break so bad . I dont know what to do. I feel so drained and lonely , just need time out once in awhile . But how ??? !!! Anyone think of what I can do ? x

OP posts:
poshsinglemum · 09/12/2009 00:10

I know it isn't an obligation but once in a blue moon would be nice. it's very dissapointing isn't it op. on the other hand my mum struggles with baby sitting as she is so old and i find i worry when dd is with her.

1 hand

SomeGuy · 09/12/2009 00:10

It is genuinely hilarious MMH? I wasn't sure. I thought it was, but I was blaming the alcohol. Good to know it's not just sure.....

loujo lacked the persistence to pull this off properly.

Coughs: 'BOLLOCKS' as if in school when the teacher's back was turned.

Original poster
loujo · 09/12/2009 00:10

im 18 y ? how old r u lot ??? older nuff to know better !!!!

OP posts:
scottishmummy · 09/12/2009 00:10

bof,aye i fair git aboot so port o'leith or any ole place suit me.maybe see you in soap dodge city too?

Goblinchild · 09/12/2009 00:11

I may be knackered and combing glitter out of my hair nightly at this time of year, but once again, I'm so glad I'm not a Secondary School teacher. Imagine dealing with multiple variants of this sort of attitude on a daily basis....
OMG!!! OMG!!!

caramelwaffle · 09/12/2009 00:12

loujo lacked consistancy with the story, from the off, someguy

scottishmummy · 09/12/2009 00:12

18?go get better pants stop talkin oot yer arse

Goblinchild · 09/12/2009 00:12

"im 18 y ? how old r u lot ??? older nuff to know better !!!!"

I think that's the point poppet, we do.

BitOfFun · 09/12/2009 00:12

See you there then

FluffyPumpkins · 09/12/2009 00:13

Well since you ask i am 24 had my first dd at 18 have been with dh 10 years. now have another 3 dc's. and guess what I NEVER get to have a night out.

but hay-ho such is life!!!!!!!!

MrsMerryHenry · 09/12/2009 00:13

SG - no, ironically hilarious. Keep drinking.

display - ohh, no fall-outs, mate! Just a wee disagreement, but nothing worth us getting frosty over! Let's just say we were both right!

lockets · 09/12/2009 00:13

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scottishmummy · 09/12/2009 00:13

meet me in albion bar for hauf n' hauf

poshsinglemum · 09/12/2009 00:13

ooo- only just caught the slanging match.

the point is- i spend most of my bloody time on here because i don't have a life with a small baby!

MrsMerryHenry · 09/12/2009 00:14

Goblin - roflroflrofl! Beautifully put.

SomeGuy · 09/12/2009 00:14

loujo: time to come up with a new identity now. Keep with the '18 year-old illiterate' theme you've ended up on here, but you have to keep it up for the entire duration of a thread. Successful trolls need to be persistent and consistent.

Start a post asking whether you'll get a council flat in a nicer area if you have another baby. Or start one on how you're not sure who the father is, cos you had five lads in one night.

Something like that.

ChazsBarmyArmy · 09/12/2009 00:15

Loujo
I don't know why you really posted but you have given me good laugh so thanks for that.
All I've got to add is
!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!

MrsMerryHenry · 09/12/2009 00:15

Loujo, here's a suggestion. Why don't you print this thread out in its entirety, then seal it in an envelope marked 'Do Not Open Until Your 30th Birthday'.

You'll have such a treat in store.

scottishmummy · 09/12/2009 00:17

12 hours since i was called a twat.thanks for reminder lou

aff tae git ma simmit and blanket oot the press as i am granny grunt to your Croydon facelift

displayuntiltwelfthnight · 09/12/2009 00:17

MrsMH -rofl at envelope idea!
mighty relieved not to have fallen out. I am annoyed that such a lame OP got me hot under the collar. Here's me thinking I was doing me mam a favour by not asking much of her and turns out I'm not giving her the full grandmother's experience!

rofl at loujo's age comment
we're probably generally about the same age as your mum and strangely she's getting more of the sympathy now

caramelwaffle · 09/12/2009 00:18

hahahahaha MrsMerryHenry

BitOfFun · 09/12/2009 00:19

Night then sm- Albion Bar it is.

MisSalToeKisses · 09/12/2009 00:19

(Going on the unlikely basis that this is not a troll):

This attitude is not going to help you at all - people were just trying to be helpful, for heaven's sake. Honestly, the whole world is not out to get you.

Speak to your mom, explain that you're struggling. Don't shout, don't swear, don't take everything as a personal attack. Maybe you'd get somewhere that way. She does not owe you anything though - most of us manage fine on our own, so you're lucky to at least have another set of grandparents nearby that does help you.

DandyLioness · 09/12/2009 00:19

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scottishmummy · 09/12/2009 00:21

i had training once and lecturer suggested we write to ourselves as mode of insight

everyone was scratching arse composing long psycho-therapy musings

i was writing

milk
baguette
Cheese
teabag