To insist DP gives up alcohol etc. when I am pregnant

[Chrysanthemum5]

Posting on behalf of a colleague as we've been having a big debate on this. Colleague (we'll call her A) and her DP (called E) have been together for a long time, and are hoping to start ttc soon. They have agreed that if / when she gets pregnant A will follow the guidelines e.g. give up alocohol, certain foods etc. Plus she will also cut back on her exercise regime. However, A thinks that to be fair E should also give up these things, including his sports.

So, is A being unreasonable in thinking E should give these things up to support her? Her view is that the baby is part of both of them so they should both follow the guidelines.

From my point of view, DH didn't give up alcohol etc. when I was pregnant, but I didn't really care because I felt he didn't get the good parts of being pregnant so why should he only get the bad bits.

Thoughts? We've had a fairly heated discussion about it so I said I'd post here to get opinions!

Donna

I'm voting with KingCanute here.

The father of a child should have a right to discuss how the baby should be treated in the womb, the same way the mother should be allowed to discuss how the baby should be treated when it is (later in its life, obviously) in the sole care of the father.

If you're in a position where one of you says 'you mustn't do this' and the other says 'well I am going to so tough' instead of dicussnig it like adults then perhaps you shouldn't be having a baby together.