To think that many people in society have lost compassion and become selfish.

[Confuzzeled]

MN seems quite harsh today so maybe posting this ain't such a good idea, but hey-ho, I want honest opinions.

I am 20 weeks pregnant and have 2yo dd, I look more pregnant that I am, I think I'm having a toddler rather than a baby. My car is in the garage, not that that makes a huge amount of difference as I use the bus allot anyway.

I was on the train on Sunday, I had a booked seat but there was some problem with bookings and no seats were showing as booked. The train was busy, I couldn't find a seat in either section near the door where my buggy was parked. I asked the conductor and he grumbled something about using my eyes to look. I didn't want to go too far from my buggy and there was no room to fold it in the luggage. A whole train load of people saw me stand there for 90 mins and nobody offered me a seat.

Today I got the bus home from town and while I was trying to hold onto my dd and get the buggy out the luggage rack, people were pushing past me to get off the bus. It was clear I was trying to get off and even people with kids pushed me out the way. My buggy wheel was stuck and in the end the driver got out his seat and helped me while all the people on the bus looked at me like I was holding up the bus on purpose.

Yesterday I saw a young couple ram their buggy into an old man on the bus because he didn't move when they wanted to put their buggy in the disabled section. He obviously didn't know they wanted to put their buggy there.

Last week I held the door open in Pret for a woman coming in behind me, a stream of people came through the door and I looked like a pregnant door lady with a buggy.

At lunch today 2 suited guys asked to move table because they didn't know they were in the children's section. It was Pizza Express and my dd was asleep.

I see young guys park in P&T. I see people in sports cars clearly able bodied park in disabled spots. People tut at you when you walk too slow on the pavement (2yo don't walk fast).

I always offer my seat to pregnant or elderly people, there's even a sign saying you should do so. I never park in disabled and only park in P&T if I don't have my buggy. I am patient with other peoples kids and I'm a polite person who considers other people.

Am I a fucking doormat?

Actually when i think about it, i have become so used to thinking for not only myself but my 2 dc as well, it is very alien to me not to.

When i was pregnant with ds and on mat leave, dd would go to nursery on Fridays and it was really wierd and i used to get really bored, that's how sad used to it i have become. It was so wierd leaving the house with just my handbag and that's it! I am not one to sit and watch tv all day, even though that's what i should have been doing!

Before i became a mum, parents would say that when you have dc and look back on your child-free days, you wonder what you did with your time? I used to just think they were being patronising but they were right and i do that now too

It is sooo much easier being child-free and getting around (as patronising as it sounds.) That's why i never get, especially on a parents site MN, why some are so against p&t parking or a space on a bus for buggies etc. Surely we should all be sticking together as we ALL know how difficult it is controlling dc when let loose in a carpark/on a bus etc so shouldn't we relish the fact someone out there has thought "no, parents aren't entitled to these things, but wouldn't it be nice to just make life a fraction easier for them."

Train travel in the UK can be hideous as someone else said - even without children, if you have the temerity to want to take luggage on or even have your booked seat. What is it with booking systems that fail or cussed people blatantly trying to hog a booked seat when the owner has turned up to claim it?

I've had to turf people out of booked seats (most recently on the Eurostar one individual decided to sit on our booked table seat as his seat had been taken by someone else so he opted for our table instead even though there was still a spare seat on his table. He was nice and cosy with his coffee and paper when we asked him nicely for our seat. He refused, saying he'd got a seat over there but someone else was in it - talk about condemn yourself out of your own mouth. He was still refusing to move and I was just preparing myself to sit on his lap to make the point I had paid for 4 seats for 4 people on one table, 3 of whom were standing next to me, when he reluctantly moved when I began to put my things on the table, periliously close to his coffe/paper. Don't mess with me after 3 tiring days at EuroDisney ).

I'm that no-one not even the conductor saw fit to help you though. I'd be tempted to write and complain about the conductor if you know the train time and destinations. They don't want disgruntled passengers telling all their friends!

MsSparkle I know what I did with my time before DC.

Sleep

Oh yes and sit in the pub...