Clean Slate- Should my ex be letting her boyfriend sleep with my son?

[Mowgli21]

Scenario is then...... All that I have said but forget the 'Hearsay'.....

Ex - Mother is allowing our son to sleep with her 'Boyfriend' should I be comfortable with that? Son does not like the situation. She denies that the boyfriend exists..... Yet she has just returned from holiday and son insists that the boyfriend was there.....

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion.... She is asking our son to lie, he does not like it which is why I get the information... As for whether I would use it against her or kick off then it is something I am not happy with, which is why I am seeking advice

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Here, let me draw a line for you - i think this thread is a bit unfair to dittany and actually damaging to the OP, who now ive read all of that my head is spinning so much i cant think of what to say!

This is tending a tad towards bullying im afraid.

And you mayorquimby, you're an honourary witch for your work here.

FWIW I think RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion was right at 15:04:56 [peacesmiley]

I think Dittany is plenty capable of sticking up for herself, and I don't see any bullying, just tedious bickering which I would love to see stop SOON, PLEASE...

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sigh! "In other words if Beanie thinks it's OK to call me anti-men (based on my posts forsooth!) then logically it's completely OK for me to say a couple of similarly rude things about her (based on her posts)"

It's fine, I don't agree, but it's fine for you to think that.

I, as you can see, didn't respond in any way to your comments about me appearing to be anti-women because I didn't want to get into all that tit-for tat stuff

Two wrongs don't make a right IMO put that's my opinion and I am not trying to take yours away from you in any way. I have no comment to make oon your opinion of me being anti-women.

"It's a losing battle however because all it does is turn Mumsnet into a sea of insults and defences."

So stop Dittany, seriously. This is silly now (and I mean that to all involved).

Ooooooh, Reality, I got a total flashback there, that is uncanny...do you sound like that in real life?

Lord almighty, dittany and beanieb - if you two were mine, you'd have been seperated into different rooms by now!! You are both right and both wrong - you will never agree, so you need to agree to differ - ok??

Never mind the [peace] emoticon - I need a [stern look] emoticon!!

georgimama can I please come off the step now?

i feel that sleep is such an intimate thing that it would be inappropriate where the child was older than a toddler and the adults in the bed were not blood relatives.

i don't accept the idea that there was nowhere else the child could have slept. surely a caring parent would have sought out adequate provision for the child to stay the night before booking a holiday or arranging a weekend stay?

sounds a bit odd, i would be worried

I think op has buggered off back to footballchat.com most probably

I haven't read all the thread, it seems to have gone off the original subject as is par for the course on here.

Anyway, I think the fact that your ds is telling you about this, means that he wants you to do something about it and that you should speak to your ex.

teatime calm prevails

ahhhhh

< puts feet up, lights fag >

That's better!

I would not be happy if first DH had a new partner and let our children sleep in with them, and I would not let them sleep with me and my new DP, it is just not nice..sorry

I've got a packet of peanut M&Ms, if anyone fancies sharing......

I do! I do! I do!

Poor dittany certainly does seem to get peoples goats up. Most of it unwarranted I have to say. She was responding to the OP when certain posters began remarking on her posts and making personal comments, just about the time I left the thread this aft I believe.

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions on here without fear of being personally attacked for them.

I'm sorry you've been singled out dittany.