Clean Slate- Should my ex be letting her boyfriend sleep with my son?

[Mowgli21]

Scenario is then...... All that I have said but forget the 'Hearsay'.....

Ex - Mother is allowing our son to sleep with her 'Boyfriend' should I be comfortable with that? Son does not like the situation. She denies that the boyfriend exists..... Yet she has just returned from holiday and son insists that the boyfriend was there.....

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion.... She is asking our son to lie, he does not like it which is why I get the information... As for whether I would use it against her or kick off then it is something I am not happy with, which is why I am seeking advice

And I am CLEARLY exaggerating but you know what I mean!

I'm sure he's not perfect by any means, but I feel a bit sorry for him.

I guess as women, it can be difficult to be unbiased, especially if you have lived with one the many good for nothing f*ckwits, I read about on here.

But I don't like the idea that we have to automatically start thinking that EVERYONE is like that.

I divorced my first DH because he became very boring - think Harley Ds and leather, to pipe and slippers overnight! He wouldn't have hurt a fly, but I can imagine I might have gone quite mad if I'd stayed. I'm sure he thinks I'm an evil old witch now, but he never did anything actually "wrong" and was always very sweet. People do split up for different reasons.

Hecate, I think you would probably form an impression of him as underhand at best if you'd read his original thread.

I accept you may well have more important things to do however

jesus!

I'm not sure he had so much fun!

I have mdae my feelings clear on other thread about the way you have gone about this, OP, but am willing for sake of trying to be fair to suspend my disbelief and accept that you are a novice forum poster who didn't realise the offence you would cause by pretending to be a woman to post your other thread.

My advice remains as it was on that thread. If the relationship is only a couple of months old, casual, and your son is uncomfortable with the OM, your ex wife should not be co-sleeping when her OM is there. It is not appropriate. It wouldn't be appropriate for you and a new girlfriend to do it either.

Discussing way forward with resolving your son's sleep problems and insecurity is a good idea. Your ex needs to be involved (not just told what to do) if this is going to be resolved though.

JESUS!

Beanie, I think you are on the wrong thread. You need to be over here

I think that Mowgli21 has to accept that his behaviour on the other thread has negatively coloured some people's views about him - I can't say it's given me a terribly good impression of him - especially his assumptions about his ex's state of mind and opinions that were given as fact on the other thread.

That aside, had I read a thread asking for opinions on a child co-sleeping with an ex's new partner also in the bed, then I would have said unequivocally that this sounds very wrong to me.

However, at some point your ex-wife will probably be in a steady, longterm relationship, and you need to recognise that there will come a point at which her new partner is a stable influence in your ds's life. Someone asked you at what point in the relationship you would be happy for your son to co-sleep with your ex and her new partner - and I honestly think you need to think about this.

I think I need to stop being so beligerant

Offski!

Did you call, beanieb? Sorry I had to bring the olds...

Dittany. I am sorry that I have to reply, like you I would rather not because i know you will see it as me picking a fight.

I hardly ever share my opinion of you, I only did so in this one instance to support another poster who may have felt like she was alone in her interpretation of the way you post on the subject of men and abusive relationships.

Like I said, this is not meant to add fuel to any fires.

Stop it you three or you're all going in the naughty corner.

I don't have an opinion about you, I don't know you. I have an opinion about your opinions sometimes. Other times I have no opinion or I choose to keep my opinion about your opinion to myself.

Calm down people, or at least wait till the water turns to wine later before this unseemly display...