To not give a stuff who stays and who goes?

[AMumInScotland]

Mumsnet is not a private members club, it's a public forum. I'm sad if people feel they have to go because of stalkers or other personally-directed unpleasantness, because that is unpleasant and not what forums are meant to be about.

But if people want to leave because things are not the same as they used to be when there were only a dozen people, and you could leave your door open all day, and it was all fields round here .... well, off you go then!

Change happens, deal with it.

I agree with the "they'll be back", i keep coming back.

Cod can spell. She just chooses not to!

oh i am v. nasty sometimes.

but cheers for that!

i think its a shame the circumstances were thus for her.

EVERONE ELSE WHO LEFT IS A PLANK

Well I have read tons of posts on here and you should be on this 'Twigletts' oldie board if you are anyone [hmmm]

Have you heard about the camel & the dog.....

Well this camel said to this dog....?

interesting thoughts pamelat - that has always been my fascination with mn as well I think. Now it's heightened because I live out of the UK.

several years ago, I used to say what I really thought, though. Now I very rarely do, because of the viciousness and aggression with which a dissenting voice is received. (But it is still less vicious than other fora which are predominantly made up of men.)

by the way, in your definition of majority views, you forgot to add, that mnetters mostly dont have much time for the self styled "royal" family that rules britain (though we'd probably elect the queen).
I always thought I was in a tiny minorty and everyone else loved waving union flags at Royal weddings - til I joined mn, the national anthem came up in conversation, I thought, oh stuff it, I'll just say what I really think and get slain - and surprisingly found myself in the majority

Gosh, think most of this has passed me by but agree v much with Quadrophenia's early post about snobbery. Hate seeing people being told to 'get back to Netmums'.

I have been here for three years I think (with two names) - have had a few times where I have got way too obsessed and decided to stop and go 'coldturkey' on MN. But I wouldn't tell anyone. Am interested to learn what flouncing is, I always thought it was people who were stropping over a thread!

Oh and heaven forbid you shop at Boden or even Cath Kidson now!

I also think that (generalising) if you moan about your DP/DH at all, than unless he is cheating or anything more serious, then you given a sort of "put up with it" response. Its sometimes like a lot of mumsnetters have low expectations of men ... personally, I have very high ones (which often get shattered!)

LL its a public forum, where I am free to say things and given my opinion even if you disagree with me [shcok]

Your post is absolutly typical of what many on these thread have been talking about.

And this is my new name, I didnt namechange just to write that particular post. I am allowed to change my name without asking permission

God, talk abouot oppressive

i like cod and regret she has left....

Dont mention Cod, Cod has LEFT, got it? GONE. Finito.

Although on second thoughts, you're saying nice things so they probably wont set the dogs loose on you

You can see why people leave really can't you?

Maturity is somewhat lacking these days.

slightly bizarre posts

All the people who make a big deal about leaving show they still have an unhealthy relationship with it.

I've never become so emotionally entwined with it. I can take it or leave it and just use it as and when. I don't really notice who's here and who has left until someone starts to talk about it.

It's a great resource for me as I'm quite sociable but childcare restraints mean I don't get out as much as I'd like so how brilliant to have a big group of other similarly constrained women to chat with. Som I get on with, others not. I love that new people come and old ones go.

I agree that the naval gazing is petty and childish.

Jesus calm down, did you get out of bed the wrong side this morning babe?

Oh and BTW I didnt namechange to write my first post on this thread which was what you implied in your earlier post.

I find it odd that you are criticising an ex-poster for rudeness and thoughtlessness when she herself has no right of reply zzzzsleep. Whatever one may think of cod's online persona she had to leave, it wasn't her choice. Don't you think someone stalked in RL by posters from this site deserves a bit of sympathy? And if people prefer to think, "well she had it coming", what impression does that convey about them?

I nevere said she had it coming Marina. I never even impiled that.

i really liked cod,and miss her, she helped me feel better about myself when most others were ignoring me!!!

As for the others that have left, is that not their choice?? and if they wish to shout their departure from the rooftops and have one last post, then good for them. i cant see what the problem is??

I myself am finding mn rather tedious at the moment (probs been spending too much time on here!!!) i think even though its a internet forum, it can be quite a nasty place also. im sick of the one-up-man-ship on here.
and the "whos the best mum, with the best parenting skills bollocks" i thought this place was about helping each other, and although we will not always agree with each other, i find a lot of posters have very closed minds.

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I'm getting flamed because I said I'm glad Cod has gone - who saw that coming!

You've expressed pleasure that she's left. It is pretty obvious even to people not in her circle of chums and who didn't see the thread, the extremely upsetting circumstances behind her having to go. So why the glee? When you know she cannot come back to answer your criticisms of her. Not just you - other posters such as zazen, earlier.
Everyone is entitled to their opinions of individual posters, as you correctly point out.
What you can't control is the opinion that others will form of you when you post them.

Mariana I'm going to become a 'cod lover' just because I'm scared of what opinion others may form of me