to think my friend shouldn't use formula just so she can have a drink and an unbroken nights sleeph

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My friend is mixed feeding, she gives a couple of bottles of formula in the day.

Her dd is 10 weeks and she told me tat tonight her dd is going to have formula in the night even though she is always b/f at night. She said she is going to have a few drinks then slee in the spare room whuile DH does this one night duty.

AIBU to think that this is selfish and that her dd shoud not be denied breast milk just for her own selfish reasons?

Oh my. This is going to go nuclear.

Happy Mum = Happy Baby.

None of your business. YABU.

No. YABU. Good on her for recognising that a full nights sleep in ten weeks is the best thing for her.

YABU

whats wrong with a break? baby has formula anyway.....her dh will be doing it so no 'drunk' person...

don't see a problem? Esp as one off

And it is your business why ??

What an judgmental "friend" you are.

Beak out, nothing to do with you.

Yes you are, if that's what she needs then she should do it. As others have said I'm afraid it's none of your business.

What's the difference between doing this and expressing so you can have a night off? Really? And what is so selfish about wanting a 'night off'. Different folks and all that.

I think you should chill out about your friend's life and concentrate on your own, frankly

YABU.

if the baby is mixed fed and happy on it, why is it a problem? I would have loved a proper drink at 10 weeks! (Still would...) It's only 1 night. Oh, and this is your friend's baby, not yours, it's up to her how she feeds her. YABU

motherhood shouldn't be such a grim prospect that you can't have any fun or a break without being branded selfish. would you feel the same if it were expressed milk?

i have always drunk and bf but not so much that i couldn't wake up and feed at 3am. although if she carries on giving lots of formula she may find it is the end of bf.

Sounds like a great plan to me. I expect she is bloody knackered and feels like a glass of wine for the 1st time in months.

The baby has formula anyway so what difference does this make?

Get a hobby, it'll stop you obsessing about other peoples lives'.

Well she has had a cold and said she needed a proper nights sleep, which I can understand but now has decided to have a drink as well as the baby will be having formula.

I just feel sorry for the baby having more formula than she would otherwise.

I sincerely hope this is a wind up!!! I'm glad you're not my friend.
How dare you sit here mumsnetting for your own selfish pleasure, surely you could be doing something useful for your precious children?

POPCORN ANYONE?

Will a couple of extra bottles make any difference to the baby though?

oh FFS - Save your sorry's for all the babies around the world that are actually dying of starvation.

Keep you beak out of her business, you nosy fucker.

I take it you are perfect in every way?

I'm glad you aren't my friend.

shitstirrin nannygoatgruff

Snort at IGW.

Why exactly do you "feel sorry for the baby" Do you really think the baby is going to care? To the baby it's milk. he's hungry, he cries, someone feeds him. As he's used to having formula as well as breastmilk I very much doubt it will make a difference.

Why don;t you offer your services as a wet nurse? Then you can sit looking all sanctimonious-like while she drinks herself into a stupor and pukes up.