to think my friend shouldn't use formula just so she can have a drink and an unbroken nights sleeph

[typo]

My friend is mixed feeding, she gives a couple of bottles of formula in the day.

Her dd is 10 weeks and she told me tat tonight her dd is going to have formula in the night even though she is always b/f at night. She said she is going to have a few drinks then slee in the spare room whuile DH does this one night duty.

AIBU to think that this is selfish and that her dd shoud not be denied breast milk just for her own selfish reasons?

Bloody hell me smells a troll, but on the small chance it isn't. You would have hated me you know why I didn't breastfeed either of my babies because I didn't want to. I wanted to be able to have a drink if I felt like it, let DH have his turn at the night feeds. I wanted my body back after 9 months of feeling like a machine. wow someone call SS I'm such a bad mother.

Typo you sound like me sil. With friends like you .....

typo, not a thing a would do...but well...everone does their own thing....

however, I also know that people just aren't informed enough of what possible damage formula may do....often not, but could...and therefore, if you do succesfully breastfeed and there is no need to give formula, it is a bit of a shame....

I was told by HV and assistent that, it was better to give formula when I went out to a do and had a drink, and later, after the fact, I found out that this is complete rubbish....but at the time I acted on the information gaven to me...and it did upset me a bit, but, there wasn't anything I could have doen different on the information I was given, therefore I try NOT to beat myself up....

iykwim...

and no I don't think Formula is poison...just that, if bf is established it is not necessary to give formula...

legalmummy - you don't have to explain yourself to the OP. The only person mums should have to justify using artificial milk instead of their own milk to is their child - they're the only one who is affected by the decision in the short or the long term.

Started to write a lenghty piece about I wish I could have done the same when mine were ten weeks for some SLEEP BLISSFUL SLEEP if only they would have taken a bottle during the night and accepted anyone but me!! (Nearly 1 year old still like this even now!) But then I thought why am I wasting my time and energy on a saturday night towards a troll or judgy peerson like the op? YABU btw!

LOL. I did this from about 5 weeks with DD2 as my parents were across and I could go out with DH for a film and a meal, drink, sleep and even have a massage.

Heaven.

I agree with Sabire. No-one needs to justify what they did to the world at large.

If the OP had posted saying, for example, "My friend has started mix-feeding and I don't think she knows what the potential problems might be, should I tell her or not?" then there might have been an interesting discussion.

But the OP didn't. She made a judgey post, clearly hoping for a ruck, so I think we should do our very best not to hand her one on a plate.

maybe op knows what she knows and thinks, possubly rightly, that people are meant to know what she knows....and if they do...why don't people don't act on this

Interesting the number of posts on this thread from people who are confident that introducing artificial milk into a very young breastfed baby's diet won't have any consequences and therefore isn't worth bothering about.

Yes, a lot of people don't know that introducing formula could have consequences. And then there are others who do know, but have made an informed decision to do so.

I think that's an interesting dilemma - if a friend is doing this, should you discuss it or not? You can argue either way and it's an interesting argument with a lot to be said on either side.

But sitting around judging another parent - as in the OP - is just nasty and achieves nothing. I still think this is a troll thread.

Fabsmum - The child is fed BM and FM. If the child was exclusively BF, then it would be unreasonable, but the mother has already chosen to introduce 'artificial milk' in her DD's diet. Ten week old babies IME don't tend to make a distinction between night and day. If she's FF during the day, one night of FF is not going to do her any damage.

Ah - I'd missed the bit where she said the baby was mixed fed already.

My super DH used to bring me an ice cold G&T in the bath when he got home from work, and then give dd a bottle. It honestly helped me retain some sanity and anyone who says otherwise can feck off!

Yes, the baby is already mix-fed and the mother is planning a one-off thing for a night out.

It's hard to see why anyone would get het up about this tbh.

what sleepycat said.

"if the mummy is happy then the baby will be happy"

If only life was that simple.

i think your right.

she has given birth and as such she should forbid herself from havng a life for the next 18 years.

It is a disgrace that despite making sure her daughert has been mix fed from birth in order that this one off even isn't actually going to upset her, she feels that it is acceptbale to have a ngiht off.

FFs it is just pure self centred behaviour.
how dare she. you'd think after 9 months of tee totalism she'd just have given up the desire to drink.

what HRHMamazon said

The holier than thou attitude stinks generally anyway. Agree that OP probably a troll (with the disappearing act and all), but there are people like this "out there" and they really get on my nerves.

(Here she's obv just missing the point, but even if the baby wasn't mixed fed already, except for maybe casually sharing facts with a very close friend if she really didn't know, it has nothing at all to do with her.) IMHO.

why on earth are you still feeding this troll?

why on earth are you still feeding this troll?

I'm bored and not much else happening. Beats talking to myself really.

LOL St Mamazon - but I think you should save your funny posts for non-troll threads.