to think my friend shouldn't use formula just so she can have a drink and an unbroken nights sleeph

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My friend is mixed feeding, she gives a couple of bottles of formula in the day.

Her dd is 10 weeks and she told me tat tonight her dd is going to have formula in the night even though she is always b/f at night. She said she is going to have a few drinks then slee in the spare room whuile DH does this one night duty.

AIBU to think that this is selfish and that her dd shoud not be denied breast milk just for her own selfish reasons?

should also add that my baby was waking twice in the night even with a dreamfeed 2 weeks ago, changed to formula (she is 7mths now) and voila! sleeping 7pm-7am, obviously just coincidence though

FFS what problem is it of yours. If she's happy, and her baby is happy all well and good. This bloody breast feeding martydom does get tiring !

yabu

everyone needs to work out what suits them best imo.

"Exclusively breastfed you have none of the above risks." LOL So there is no risk of ear infections, chest infections etc etc if you exclusively breastfeed! Wow.

"No wonder she needs a drink with friends like you. "
Lol - too right!
Why is everyone still feeding this troll?

Pamelat, see here for more about formula risks. If you talk about breastfeeding benefits, you set ff as the norm, the baseline.

The somewhat unpalatable truth is that no biological norm is ever set as something to attain - you don't talk about the benefits of not smoking or drinking (not comparing formula with fags or booze, just saying that the biological norm is not smoking or drinking).

So why do we talk about breastfeeding as if it's some sort of unattainable gold standard?

Because if you say "Women who breastfeed are less likely to get breast cancer/osteoporosis" you avoid the trickier "Women who formula feed are more likely to get breast cancer/osteoporosis".

At the end of the day it's nothing to do with you or any of us for that matter, if she finds it gives her a bit of me time so what you work to what suits yourself and your baby not other noseybastards friends

It really is none of your business my love, I would keep your nose out unless you really want to piss her off. Do you have kids of your own? If so then you should understand she probably wants a night off to relax cos as everyone knows those first few weeks can be hell. If you don't have kids then why are you on this site. Either way you can't win!
She sounds like she is being a responsible parent in not feeding the bub when she is pissed and not giving the bub breastmilk when she has had a few gin and tonics!