to think my friend shouldn't use formula just so she can have a drink and an unbroken nights sleeph

[typo]

My friend is mixed feeding, she gives a couple of bottles of formula in the day.

Her dd is 10 weeks and she told me tat tonight her dd is going to have formula in the night even though she is always b/f at night. She said she is going to have a few drinks then slee in the spare room whuile DH does this one night duty.

AIBU to think that this is selfish and that her dd shoud not be denied breast milk just for her own selfish reasons?

YABVU

I have always advised mums (if they want to use mix feed) to def use formula as a feed last thing at night to fill their little tummys

also in middle of night, then dad/friend etc can help and give mummy a rest and a goodnights sleep

as others have said, it is NONE of your business and hope your friend has better/nicer more supporive friends than you!!

It's people like you who give breast-feeding a bad name.

I was going to write a long post, but decided you really weren't worth me wasting my time with - other than to say ...

Mind your own bloody business, and stop being so damned sanctimonious.

Ohhhh, you're the weirdo poster who gave a broken fridge to a friend and then got all arsy because they got rid of it, aren't you!

Explains a lot about your attitude towards friendship.

Yabvu it's none of your business.

Oh my God - that's terrible - poor baby - call social services AT ONCE.

Is that the response you were expecting?? Here's 20 quid - go buy yourself a life of your own.

FFS give her a fucking break!

why the hell is this anything to do with you?

Oh you're right WWB I was ont hat thread too. I wonder if it's the same friend?

i also used expressed bm so i could have a bevvy and relax.got dp to feed baby.made me feel normal to have a treat

Oh for goodness sake. Poor woman just wants a rest, and a tipple. Who can blame her. Babies are hard work, I wanted a break every now and then. How a mother feeds a baby is up to her- end of story.

What a stupid woman. Imagine the effects a bottle of formula is going to have on the poor defenseless child. I shudder to think. It will be wearing a hoodie and wielding a bottle of 20/20 before you know it. Can you hear me up there on your high horse?

yes you are being unreasonable

Its formula milk, not poison ffs!!

yabu
it is not like she is doing anything wrong

You are being very unreasonable.

It is quite simply none of your business.

And FWIW I am an avid breastfeeder...

Fuck. You.

YABU.

How dare she not be a total martyr and do somehting for herself. She's not fit to be a parent.

typo - you can think what the fuck you like, but may i suggest that you keep your thoughts to yourself because its got ball all to do with you what your friend does ...

a)its not really any of your business

b) its not the end of the world. lots of people cant express (i breastfed both mine for over a year each time & never managed to express either time) so use formula occasionally.

its not, when i last checked, a hanging offence.

YABVVU

a 10wk baby her friend should have a drink and catch up sleep.damn right.

YABU

It's her call.

I'm sure she's aware of the increased risks to her baby's health that come with giving formula (particularly before 14 weeks), she's has weighed it up and she feels that it's a reasonable trade off for a good night's sleep and the chance to get bevvied. Sometimes these things are a tough call.

YABVVVVU let the girl have a break for goodness sake

Don't feed the troll, chaps.

She's deliberately set up this ridiculous OP to cause outrage, and the angrier you get the more you're just playing into her (or his) hands.

YABU! Sounds like she's got a life, you should too.

Bloody Hell!! Is this for real?

All I can say is thank god you aren't one of my friends!!

A true friend would be supportive regardless of whether they were in agreement or not.

A true friend would realise how important it is for a new mum to GET A BREAK AND RELAX!!

Get a bloody life and worry about your own kids!