to think my friend shouldn't use formula just so she can have a drink and an unbroken nights sleeph

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My friend is mixed feeding, she gives a couple of bottles of formula in the day.

Her dd is 10 weeks and she told me tat tonight her dd is going to have formula in the night even though she is always b/f at night. She said she is going to have a few drinks then slee in the spare room whuile DH does this one night duty.

AIBU to think that this is selfish and that her dd shoud not be denied breast milk just for her own selfish reasons?

but as trolls go, this is a fairly good one.
She did the dumped cooker one as well, didn't she?

YAB bloody U! Feck off judging her. If she wants a night of peace and sleep its her perogative.
Her baby- her choice, not yours!
FWIW I have just stopped bf 2 wks ago, dd2 6mths. I could have continued but also wanted some sleep/glass of wine/ adult time.
Also FWIW the supernanny programme last night was enough to put anyone off extended bf The issues the almost 3yo had and was still being fed on demand 10 times per day and in the night and suffered major anxiety from separation.

Can't she feed the baby and have a couple of glasses of wine after she's fed?

But I suppose she wants to get drunk and therefore a couple of glasses of wine won't do it for her.

I suppose it's analogous to making your children eat a take away on the odd night instead of a home-cooked meal so you can spend the evening getting drunk instead of cooking.

Not sure how I feel about that.

At least this is an improvement. She might even come up with a good one next thread! Fingers crossed.

no it's not a good troll.

good trolls are like

this

posts that make people laugh. deliberately starting a thread to provoke a ruck is not funny or clever really. And bf vs ff is one of the most emotive topics on mn.

sleepycat I feel your pain- dd2 was the same, which is why she doesn't get the option of mixed feeding now. Itrs bottles or nothing.

"The issues the almost 3yo had and was still being fed on demand 10 times per day and in the night and suffered major anxiety from separation"

God bless supernanny. She's so even handed and knowledgable on the subject of natural term breastfeeding.

yeah, ok wannabe, good point

Hehehe (re link). I could do without the visions now in my head, but did make me laugh like a maniac.

haahaaha.

i've also fed my kids takeaway instead of a homecooked meal so i could flounce off on the lash.

call social services!

i left them with their grandparents, too, who even gave me money to go get pissed and then my dad came to the pub and gave us a lift home.

how dared we put our needs to go out as a couple once in years above the kids!

sometimes i've even fed them a takeaway or an M&S ready meal because i.just.couldn't.be.fucking.arsed.

i'm such a bad mother.

Fabsmum if you had watched it and seen the little girl manipulating her mother all day with her BF DEMANDS you might understand. THAT IS NOT TO SAY I THINK NATURAL TERM BF IS BAD,JUST THAT THAT PROGRAMME WAS ENOUGH TO PUT PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW BETTER OFF.

YABU - personally I would feed after a glass (or two) of wine, but at least she bf for a period. After my DS3 I was the only person to try in my ward (4 in each)the mv's quickly brought in the formula for the rest.

shame on you expat. And now you're daring to have another baby.

i've got a freezer stocked with stuff that'll be cooked at home allright, too, wannabe - in the deep fat fryer or bunged into the oven - for the month or so after baby arrives.

a number of tins, too, to be opened and heated and even those new snap pots of baked beans and spagetti hoops and raviolis to give them with toast for when i.just.can't.be.arsed.

and snacks in individual packages, to pitch at them when they start to whinge.

such a bad, bad mummy.

viva la straight to wok noodle!

. have you no shame?

Only read OP.
I'm a BF 'militant' etc etc etc.
I considered formula yesterday. I wanted a break. Luckily I managed to express for when I was out otherwise I drink then feed cos I know it doesn't really pass through.
You're probably a troll anyway.

There was meant to be a comma somewhere.

" how dared we put our needs to go out as a couple once in years above the kids!"

What's wrong with having a couple of drinks and a nice meal or an evening out at the cinema instead of having a alcohol binge and rendering yourself semi-conscious? Or do those of us who don't get regularly shit faced automatically qualify as joyless martyrs?

"Fabsmum if you had watched it and seen the little girl manipulating her mother all day with her BF DEMANDS you might understand. THAT IS NOT TO SAY I THINK NATURAL TERM BF IS BAD,JUST THAT THAT PROGRAMME WAS ENOUGH TO PUT PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW BETTER OFF."

Has it ever occured to you that the programme was carefully edited to convey the narrative that the programme producers wanted it to?

I don't really drink, yet that doesn't give me the right to judge someone that fancy going out. To be honest, it's probably just because I can't be bothered getting ready for a night out

fabsmum its not about getting 'shitfaced' its about wanting to have a break or an evening where you know you can go to bed and not have to get up in the night/morning, because someone else can do the honours. Fine if you have dcs that will have the occasional bottle. My dd1 would, but not dd2. With her it was bf or scream until it came, no choice for EBM and god did I try!

So they made the child cry for 'mini' god knows how many times per day and edited the bits where she had to be fed before and after a shopping trip that should have taken half an hour? and edited the part where the child was filmed in her mothers bed at night feeding at least twice at almost 3yrs?

I should have mentioned the shopping trip was 6mins away and it took 1.5hrs and the 3yo had to be fed before going into the shop and on getting back in the car