to think women should make the effort to have sex with their partner regularly even if they're tired/not in the mood?

[milene]

So often I've read on mn mothers saying they barely have sex since they had children since they are always tired or don't feel like it. But really, how much effort does it take once or twice a week? You need to work on relationships, and sex is an important part of it. And the more often you do it, the more often you feel in the mood.

If you don't have sex with your husband, it'll be no shock if he finds someone else who will.

I take your point Ivykaty, and can see it wouldn't be an ideal situation but that's not as important imo as someone not allowing something to be done to their body like that against their own need not to have it done.

Obviously within a marriage or relationship there needs to be happiness on both sides but I don't think this can be achieved if one person wants sex and the other doesn't and it reaches crisis point over that particular issue.

The random stranger argument is that yes, he is a stranger and you hold no loyalty or love for him, but presumably neither does he for you, and so your relationship is equal in that sense - you don't know each other and neither of you has a right to sex with the other or, if some of the comments on this thread are taken a step further, a right NOT to have sex with the other.

I believe that everyopne has the right NOT to have sex (with a husband, wife, partner, stranger) and NOBODY has the right to have it, again with a husband, wife, partner or stranger.

Surely this is common sense? Otherwise why are there laws about marital rape?

I think if one partner in a relationship hates sex and never wants to have it again, then he/she needs to discuss with his/her partner what is going to happen with regard to the other partner's libido. Because if your position really is that you never want to have sex again, then you should either end your relationship or agree that your partner can have sex with other people. Because you don't own your partner's genitals or libido and there is a big difference between saying 'not tonight' and saying' Inever want to have sex so you can't have any either'.