I was going to start another thread this morning. Apologising for my crudeness? um, no sorry.
I am truly puzzled and a little sad that the attitude that people would have sex either to just get what they want, or only want to have it just to get what they want. That a woman who offers a sexual favour to her partner must be in a controlling relationship, that sex means nothing to her etc etc. I thought we were living in a sexually liberated society, that it is OK for women to enjoy sex just as much as the man does and in the same way.
This thread was a joke, yes it was a bit immature and smutty but do i have to be sensible all the time?? People have tried to say that because thinks are not totally tikaty boo in our relationship just now that they can't understand why i would want to have sex with him or heaven forbid put his penis in my mouth. That actually genuinely upset me, does it mean that because i have posted for, and got some great support onhere when things have been tough, that i have to be that person all the time?
My partner gets lots of BJs, i am very highly sexed, not as much as usual due to my medication a very unpleasant side effect, but there will be times when i will give him a bj and dont get anything back myself - what is wrong with that?? Sometimes DP will say, but don't you want xyz, to which i will usually say, no, watch the film, or im too tired etc. BUT when i want it, i get it (women reallly DO have the upper hand you know) and its great thankyou very much.
We have been together for 16 years, so what if some of our sexual encounters are rushed and a bit "meaningless" it doesn't mean that we mean any less to each other.
My thread was meant to be stating, "look, the poor sap will do anything for a BJ" (as in get in the car and drive to McD after getting back from ILs really late 100mile round trip, putting DD to bed and being knackered) rather than "look, poor cow will do anything for a burger".
I tend to be honest and ME when i post, I do have some issues, i post about them all the time, i moan alot. My RL friends were STUNNED when i told them i was on ADs, because im actually a very chirpy, happy go lucky, loud OTT person, with a rep for not giving a shit what she says about sex . Another friend of mine, who is on ADs too, said to me, when i said this to her "ah, but we are good at putting on a brave face", yes, i suppose we are, but for me, if im happy IT SHOWS, just the same as when im sad.
I am genuinely very sorry if this thread has upset anyone, and equally puzzled and perplexed that people feel upset for me, that i am being controlled.