To think this is a fair exchange (shocking TMI warning)

[lucyellensmum]

I am STARVING i have been to the inlaws so i think that entitles me to a little treat. Well not treat but some food. We didnt go shopping because we went to the inlaws and the only thing that is open is muckdonalds, but hey, im half pissed, i'll eat anything.

The exchange is oral sex for DP going to get me a burger. I just did it, but he is sulking because i didn't go all the way - well i don't want him falling asleep on me do i!!!

So, fair exchange or is this a total abandonment of my feminist principals.

[CoteDAzur]

I 'might like to check the dates', indeed. Let's.

"he has said himself he only stays for DD and would have left me ages ago if it wasnt for her " 2 August 2008

"He is being so, cold and hateful towards me. Now im lucky if i get contempt, cos that is better than nothing isnt it." 19 July 2008

As I said, they are very recent.

[ScottishMummy]

how did this thread get resurrected ?sometime i think it is good to be circumspect about things

[DaphneMoon]

I think LEM's posts are funny and most of the time she is taking the piss out of herself and her DH. We all get mad with our DH/DP but that does not mean we hate them! Half the threads on mumsnet are women moaning about their other halves.

[DaphneMoon]

There's nothing wrong with a bit of sexual bargaining. I use it all the time. Sometimes without him knowing. It puts him in a good mood and then I get my way on most things.

Sometimes though when me and my DP have a bet on something. He will always want a BJ if he wins, I always want a back massage. Say no more! That's men for you. I've yet to meet a man who would turn one down.

[CoteDAzur]

I haven't read the whole thread but it seems to me that those who told LEM to get a grip were the ones who were familiar with her recent threads where he told everyone how DH mistreats her, shows her no affection, and said he would have left her long ago if not for their DD.

In this context, offering BJ for food is just... sad.

[TinkerBellesMum]

Too right. There's been times when I know he will do something with a little nagging, so I make the nagging a bit less erm... nagging?

[blinkieblink]

I totally agree with you snowwhite, people need to lighten up! I cant imagine that no one has sexually bargained some way or another....I think people are way too uptight!

[Twinkie1]

He he - least having the burger afterwards means you get rid of the taste!

[snowwhite24]

New to this but WOW Bj for a macs burger hope it was a big mac????

You guys are very entertaining after you didnt finish him off did he get ya burger?

I think its all fun and games whats really wrong with exchanging sexual favours for favours especially if you have been together for so long lighten up people.

[Onestonetogo]

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[TinkerBellesMum]

No problem, I was just commenting it had been dead for a month and someone restarts it to post a random comment, s'all.

[CoteDAzur]

What seems to be the problem?

[TinkerBellesMum]

It wasn't aimed at you:

By SueMunch on Wed 06-Aug-08 12:24:33
By theexmrsfederer on Sun 06-Jul-08 22:29:10

[CoteDAzur]

When was it supposed to have died? Last post was less than 2 hours ago

[TinkerBellesMum]

Why did this get resurrected? Thought it had died it's death.

[CoteDAzur]

LEM - "I gave him a BJ so he would go get me a burger" wouldn't necessarily be sad in a couple, especially if they were otherwise secure and were using this as a bit of play.

In your case, it saddens me. In recent days, you told us how "he has said himself he only stays for DD and would have left me ages ago if it wasnt for her " and said "Now im lucky if i get contempt, cos that is better than nothing isnt it", among other things.

Your marriage might survive these difficulties, but for now, it seems like you are depressed, with low self-esteem, and your DH doesn't particularly like being with you (and not just in the sexual sense). In this context, it is alarming that you would offer him a BJ for a burger.

[yummymummy1405]

I should point out that my husband sent that post purely because of his love of blow jobs!

[Wuxiapian]

Lol

[pooka]

PMSL yummymummy. It's just the juxtaposition of your posting name and the bile you're spouting.

[yummymummy1405]

lmao and so will my dh later as for ds pirate and princess birthday party we had a similar agreement to get dh to dress as a princess which he took great pride in telling everyone!!

[TheDevilWearsPrimark]

I'm just trying to figure out how he manages to bash you around the head with it whilst you are
on the computer. Does he bring a step stool, or several Yellow Pages?