To think this is a fair exchange (shocking TMI warning)

[lucyellensmum]

I am STARVING i have been to the inlaws so i think that entitles me to a little treat. Well not treat but some food. We didnt go shopping because we went to the inlaws and the only thing that is open is muckdonalds, but hey, im half pissed, i'll eat anything.

The exchange is oral sex for DP going to get me a burger. I just did it, but he is sulking because i didn't go all the way - well i don't want him falling asleep on me do i!!!

So, fair exchange or is this a total abandonment of my feminist principals.

I totally agree with you snowwhite, people need to lighten up! I cant imagine that no one has sexually bargained some way or another....I think people are way too uptight!

Too right. There's been times when I know he will do something with a little nagging, so I make the nagging a bit less erm... nagging?

I haven't read the whole thread but it seems to me that those who told LEM to get a grip were the ones who were familiar with her recent threads where he told everyone how DH mistreats her, shows her no affection, and said he would have left her long ago if not for their DD.

In this context, offering BJ for food is just... sad.

There's nothing wrong with a bit of sexual bargaining. I use it all the time. Sometimes without him knowing. It puts him in a good mood and then I get my way on most things.

Sometimes though when me and my DP have a bet on something. He will always want a BJ if he wins, I always want a back massage. Say no more! That's men for you. I've yet to meet a man who would turn one down.

I think LEM's posts are funny and most of the time she is taking the piss out of herself and her DH. We all get mad with our DH/DP but that does not mean we hate them! Half the threads on mumsnet are women moaning about their other halves.

how did this thread get resurrected ?sometime i think it is good to be circumspect about things

I 'might like to check the dates', indeed. Let's.

"he has said himself he only stays for DD and would have left me ages ago if it wasnt for her " 2 August 2008

"He is being so, cold and hateful towards me. Now im lucky if i get contempt, cos that is better than nothing isnt it." 19 July 2008

As I said, they are very recent.