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What are you all doing about bedtime tonight?

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Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 25/10/2026 18:34

Just that really

OP posts:
Bananapants5 · 26/10/2026 07:25

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 25/10/2026 23:09

Because they lost the hour with the clock change

Another person has explained that you gained an hour so I won’t go into that but - why would it be one hour every night? You don’t keep changing the clock, it happens once in the autumn and once in the spring not every night?
if they go to bed and get up at the same time it’s the same amount of time asleep.
have you ever been to a country in a different time zone? It’s like that for one day.

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:06

See-we woke up early this morning and tired!

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WhatATimeToBeAlive · 26/10/2026 08:09

I wake up tired every morning, but that's the menopause for you.

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:16

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 26/10/2026 08:09

I wake up tired every morning, but that's the menopause for you.

So sorry about your menopause.

OP posts:
Merrybandofpirates · 26/10/2026 08:23

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:06

See-we woke up early this morning and tired!

Because you went to bed at midnight last night and you’ve convinced yourself that you’re losing an hour every day so you think you should be tired. If you usually wake at 7am, then you might have woken at 6am today because that’s what your body thinks is wake up time, because it’s the old 7am. It just takes a couple days to shift back. You haven’t lost a hour - it is still there. You’re just waking up early and can spend the time lying in bed resting, to get your body used to the change.

You’re tired because you went to bed so late and still woke at the time you usually do, which is an hour early, so you’ve had less sleep.

Yesterday, you gained one extra hour. It was a 25 hour long day. That makes you tired because you’re not used to that. But now it’s all back to normal, and there are 24 hours like every other day of the year.

If you go to bed at a decent time instead of midnight, and get up at your usual time - just go by the time in the clock - then you will get the same amount of sleep that you always get.

Can I ask, do you actually believe what’s being said to you and understand it? Or do you still believe you have somehow lost an hour and will continue to lose an hour every night?

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:26

Merrybandofpirates · 26/10/2026 08:23

Because you went to bed at midnight last night and you’ve convinced yourself that you’re losing an hour every day so you think you should be tired. If you usually wake at 7am, then you might have woken at 6am today because that’s what your body thinks is wake up time, because it’s the old 7am. It just takes a couple days to shift back. You haven’t lost a hour - it is still there. You’re just waking up early and can spend the time lying in bed resting, to get your body used to the change.

You’re tired because you went to bed so late and still woke at the time you usually do, which is an hour early, so you’ve had less sleep.

Yesterday, you gained one extra hour. It was a 25 hour long day. That makes you tired because you’re not used to that. But now it’s all back to normal, and there are 24 hours like every other day of the year.

If you go to bed at a decent time instead of midnight, and get up at your usual time - just go by the time in the clock - then you will get the same amount of sleep that you always get.

Can I ask, do you actually believe what’s being said to you and understand it? Or do you still believe you have somehow lost an hour and will continue to lose an hour every night?

Edited

I still think I've lost an hour as I always go to bed at the time I did last night, nothing else has changed apart from that hour, it can only be that. I just don't want the knock on effect

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Merrybandofpirates · 26/10/2026 08:28

We can all agree that between 8pm and 7am, there are 11 hours. Your kid would usually get 11 hours of sleep during those times. How many hours do you think were between 8pm last night and 7am this morning? And how many hours will there be between them for the rest of this week? The answer is 11 hours - same as every other night your child has slept.

On Saturday night however, there were 12 hours because the clocks went back. You had one extra hour for one night. That is all that happened.

Can you explain where you have lost an hour? Because you have not. It cannot possibly be a lost hour making you tired because the clocks went backwards and you gained an extra hour. Yesterday was a 25 hour day - that is what makes you tired. It’s simply because there has been a change and it upset your usual rhythm. It is a gain of an hour, but still a change and change can make you feel off kilter.

Do you understand?

PuppyMonkey · 26/10/2026 08:34

I think you just need a nap OP. Grin

Merrybandofpirates · 26/10/2026 08:37

PuppyMonkey · 26/10/2026 08:34

I think you just need a nap OP. Grin

I’m genuinely worried about an adult that cannot understand this.

The clocks went backwards one hour for one night.

Usually 8pm to 7am would be 11 hours.
For Saturday night into Sunday, it was actually 12 hours just that one time due to the clocks going back. Everyone got one extra hour, making the day 25 hours long.
Last night, all back to normal and there were 11 hours between 8pm and 7am, but your body would think it was 9pm to 8am and that can throw you off and make you feel sleepy and out of order and can take a couple days to get used to.

But there is no lost hour, no knock on effect, no loss of sleep, and certainly no lost hour every night for the rest of the week.

I’m genuinely concerned that OP is raising kids but cannot understand this.

ForLimeHiker · 26/10/2026 08:57

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:26

I still think I've lost an hour as I always go to bed at the time I did last night, nothing else has changed apart from that hour, it can only be that. I just don't want the knock on effect

Have you never been to Greece or Spain or France where they are operating on a slightly different time zone? Or anywhere with a meaningful time Zone change like America or Asia? How DO you cope? Just get over it, it takes a day or so, you’re making such a mountain out of a molehill. The clocks went BACK, if you went to bed at your regular time, technically you went to bed an hour earlier than normal. If you went to bed an hour later, this would be your usual body clock time. If you woke at 6am this morning instead of 7, that’s your body clock telling you it’s 7am. It’s not hard and honestly you can’t be struggling this much to comprehend?! It will sort itself out in a day or two if you’re finding it that hard, which I find terribly difficult to believe.

LilyBunch25 · 26/10/2026 09:03

Merrybandofpirates · 26/10/2026 08:37

I’m genuinely worried about an adult that cannot understand this.

The clocks went backwards one hour for one night.

Usually 8pm to 7am would be 11 hours.
For Saturday night into Sunday, it was actually 12 hours just that one time due to the clocks going back. Everyone got one extra hour, making the day 25 hours long.
Last night, all back to normal and there were 11 hours between 8pm and 7am, but your body would think it was 9pm to 8am and that can throw you off and make you feel sleepy and out of order and can take a couple days to get used to.

But there is no lost hour, no knock on effect, no loss of sleep, and certainly no lost hour every night for the rest of the week.

I’m genuinely concerned that OP is raising kids but cannot understand this.

I wouldn't worry too much. I made up my mind half way through this thread yesterday that it was a wind up. A lot of the responses make that pretty obvious.

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 26/10/2026 09:08

ForLimeHiker · 26/10/2026 08:57

Have you never been to Greece or Spain or France where they are operating on a slightly different time zone? Or anywhere with a meaningful time Zone change like America or Asia? How DO you cope? Just get over it, it takes a day or so, you’re making such a mountain out of a molehill. The clocks went BACK, if you went to bed at your regular time, technically you went to bed an hour earlier than normal. If you went to bed an hour later, this would be your usual body clock time. If you woke at 6am this morning instead of 7, that’s your body clock telling you it’s 7am. It’s not hard and honestly you can’t be struggling this much to comprehend?! It will sort itself out in a day or two if you’re finding it that hard, which I find terribly difficult to believe.

It's the other way around, actually - if you went to bed at 10:30 BST on Saturday and 10:30 GMT on Sunday, that's actually 11:30 BST. You'd be going to bed an hour earlier if you did the same in March - it's why the day after the clocks go back feel slightly longer and shorter when they go forward.

Either way, not a big deal as you and others have said!

Hayley1256 · 26/10/2026 09:23

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 25/10/2026 19:46

The loss of one hour per night will f up behaviour

How they losing an hour per night? What time did they get up yesterday morning? Please don't ever go abroad OP if you cant get your head around this

ForLimeHiker · 26/10/2026 09:44

ThingsAreNotWhatTheyWere · 26/10/2026 09:08

It's the other way around, actually - if you went to bed at 10:30 BST on Saturday and 10:30 GMT on Sunday, that's actually 11:30 BST. You'd be going to bed an hour earlier if you did the same in March - it's why the day after the clocks go back feel slightly longer and shorter when they go forward.

Either way, not a big deal as you and others have said!

I don’t even know which way round it goes 😂 but lord above it’s so minor!

Parker231 · 26/10/2026 09:51

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:26

I still think I've lost an hour as I always go to bed at the time I did last night, nothing else has changed apart from that hour, it can only be that. I just don't want the knock on effect

What knock on effect - it’s one hour. How do you manage on holiday with different time zones?

trossardmartinelli · 26/10/2026 09:59

Op genuine question... do you have a learning disability so maybe need more support to understand things like this?

raspberrychocolatecake · 26/10/2026 10:01

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:26

I still think I've lost an hour as I always go to bed at the time I did last night, nothing else has changed apart from that hour, it can only be that. I just don't want the knock on effect

You have not lost an hour, you will not lose an hour of sleep each night as a result of the time change.

Do you understand @Merrybandofpirates posts? She has explained in detail, so perhaps go back and read her posts again. Everyone here has told you that you're mistaken, do you not believe us?

Since you're bringing up a child it's very important that you get your head around this. I'm sure you don't want to pass on your mistaken beliefs to your child and have them grow up to believe something that everyone else knows isn't true?

InjuredDuck · 26/10/2026 10:02

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:26

I still think I've lost an hour as I always go to bed at the time I did last night, nothing else has changed apart from that hour, it can only be that. I just don't want the knock on effect

You gained an hour op. You had an extra hour.

LilyBunch25 · 26/10/2026 10:14

trossardmartinelli · 26/10/2026 09:59

Op genuine question... do you have a learning disability so maybe need more support to understand things like this?

I think this was mentioned way up thread and the OP never commented, though continued with other comments. I personally hold to my belief that this thread was a wind up.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 26/10/2026 10:23

Either the OP really is as stupid as they are coming across in which case they have bigger problems than how much sleep they are getting.
or this is some pathetic attempt at ending up in classics for being soooo funny

Nemorth · 26/10/2026 10:59

How does @Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhegocope at Hogmanay when different parts of the world enter NEXT YEAR before us? Did you know that OP? Soon parts of the world will be in 2027 while we are still in 2026!

Anywherebuthere · 26/10/2026 12:17

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 26/10/2026 08:26

I still think I've lost an hour as I always go to bed at the time I did last night, nothing else has changed apart from that hour, it can only be that. I just don't want the knock on effect

Don't worry, you’ll get that hour back in March when the time is real again.

SquigglePigs · 28/10/2026 08:18

Wheredidcottoneyedjoecomefromandwheredidhego · 25/10/2026 23:10

I didn't think to pre plan anything Squigglepigs
Did it work?

It worked perfectly! Back to normal bedtime and wake up time the first day.

We've done this for a few years now (she's 7) and it's always worked well. It helps she has a pretty predictable schedule.

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