There’s no deterrent though. Domestic abuse perpetrators rarely get a custodial sentence, if they do they’re out soon enough and back to the area their victim live. Yes there might be a restraining order in place but breaches of this get minimal consequences. So effectively to maintain her and her children’s safety, the victim has to uproot her life and move. Then contact is likely to be court ordered.
I read about a man who got a community order for possession of 100’s of child sexual abuse images - of all categories.
The way rapists don’t get punished if they’re young men with potentially bright futures, yet the female victim who had a potentially bright future are not only left with the recovery and trauma after being raped, but the knowledge that their rapists have gotten away with it and been protected.
The language around it all protects men and minimises it too. It’s horrific. I’m raising 2 boys and talk to them all the time about these horrific crimes and what I expect of them but they’re also quiet kids who I’m not sure would challenge others. It’s very worrying.
There needs to be a massive overhaul of the justice system with real consequences but whilst men are in positions of power that won’t happen.