To be shocked to read on reddit threads discussing andy carrol the many reports of women sexually assaulting men

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To think It was really sad to read so many posts where men detail unwilling sex or waking up to sex acts etc. All saying no one takes this seriously and the impact its had on them.

Is this widely known?

Do we need to be talking about women gaining consent from men more .

Its a particularly mind blowing comment when weve just had a girl stabbed 10 times in broad daylight by a teen boy, who has been let off incredibly lightly.

I genuinely would appreciate your answer @Jnu

Yes

And he’s done this multiple times you say and got quite a few girls “kicked out” for smacking his bum?

Are you in the Uk? How old is your son?

Nothing. She was told to stop and it was just before summer so just came back in the new term like nothing happened. I know he tended to avoid her but they were in the same year with mutual friends so he couldn't entirely.

Because it has been dealt with differently. The boy was told they won't be accepting fees for another term for very similar behaviour.

No if they had evidence of something like 50+ attempts at contact after he had been blocked, they'd have probably asked him not to return to school. It would be labelled harassment, rightly, not "heartbreak".

And she stopped?

the end of the matter?

I find it interesting that you don't think her harassing him is the whole story. It's almost like you think her behaviour is normal because it didn't escalate to violence at 14.

The school very much agreed with you that this is just what young girls do and suggested I don't get it because I don't have a teenage daughter.

Yes after she had contacted him through various means through fake accounts and numbers until he wanted to try and change his number to escape her. Once she was aware that he had managed to confide in his parents and the school knew, the child stopped harassing my son for dumping her.

As I said, it was put down to her "heartbreak".

Yes but point is… when it all came out in the open…. It stopped. She stopped. And that was the end of it and since then no bother?

I don’t think “normal” in the slightest.

you left your story half finished

I asked a question asking for clarity. When it all came out in the open - it stopped? Correct?

That was the end of it with him. Who knows how that behaviour might have escalated since it was normalised as a typical reaction to heartbreak. Especially now they are young adults and her partners (hopefully) won't be under the supervision of parents who can help them escape like we could.

One day, that story might be part of her background in a court case.

It never went to the police so I doubt it

The story was that a 14 year old girl stalked and harassed my son for dumping her and people around her said it was normal for girls to do that when they are dumped. That is the story. If you can't see that is the story, then it speaks more about what you see as a norm than anything else.

It's like you're saying "well she didn't get him stabbed or poison him so what is the problem?". The problem is that at 14, she was already harassing her ex partners.

It will be on her school record. Judges often ask for background like this, especially if the person is relatively young. Believe me, I know.

I will bow to you on that. You know the prison system better than anyone on Mumsnet!

FFS 98% of sexual assaults are committed by males according to ONS statistics. When female assault stats start going up I’ll give this series consideration.

In the meantime teaching people about boundaries is the way forward.

Ok

Well you do 🤷‍♀️
what you say on the prison system…. I bow to!

What will you give serious consideration?

Ok

Will you come back to your AMA?

Why aren't the parents of the boy, who was treated more harshly appealing, if its similar? There's a similar (not the same) and a probably in your post.

Did the girl and her family know about your experience? That may have stopped her on her tracks