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Considering a holiday with a group half my age, where most are strangers.

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Whathappend · 20/09/2026 14:19

I'm 50. I'm good friends with a 25 year old. I occasionally go out drinking and dancing with her and her friends.

Last night we were out. They were talking about their loose plans to go to ibiza next summer. I was enthusiastic and told them i was excited for them. This turned into an invite for me to join them.

I have wanted to go to ibiza my entire life. I love dance music and dancing until the early hours. But none of my friends in my life have ever wanted to join me on an ibiza holiday. And i don't want to go alone.

So I'm seriously considering taking them up on their offer.

However, they're half my age, so i won't be able to keep up. I've only met her friends a couple of times. They're nice enough, but not sure i want to go on holiday with near strangers. They've got less money than me, so I'll need to eat/sleep on their budgets. No nice meals out on holiday. And everything we do will be on their agenda and i won't feel i can interfere with that too much.

But i really want to go to Ibiza!

I'm a friendly person who gets on well with most. I can rough it for 4 days, and tell them I'm staying in if i need to rest. But still...

AIBU considering going with a bunch of 25 year olds where i only know 1 of them?

OP posts:
ClaredeBear · 24/10/2026 11:28

Whathappend · 23/10/2026 20:01

For those who were invested...

...I am one of 5 on a group chat that began last night.

I've told them I'll be joining them in Ibiza, but I'll choose my own accommodation once they've booked their Airbnb for 4.

All of them said they wanted me to stay with them, which was lovely.

I told them if they wanted me in Ibiza, then I needed my space.

One of the ladies I know less well said that she wants me there whatever the sleeping arrangement, which was rather affirming.

Looks like I'm on my way. I'm really very excited!

Have loads of fun.

Stormyrose · 24/10/2026 11:54

Is it the young people or a different group of women?

Summersongroses · 24/10/2026 12:11

Whathappend · 23/10/2026 20:01

For those who were invested...

...I am one of 5 on a group chat that began last night.

I've told them I'll be joining them in Ibiza, but I'll choose my own accommodation once they've booked their Airbnb for 4.

All of them said they wanted me to stay with them, which was lovely.

I told them if they wanted me in Ibiza, then I needed my space.

One of the ladies I know less well said that she wants me there whatever the sleeping arrangement, which was rather affirming.

Looks like I'm on my way. I'm really very excited!

Ahhhh what a great update! I commented a little while ago hoping that you would go and I’m so pleased it’s now moving on. And sounds like a great compromise to have your own accommodation. And how nice they sound too. Have a fab time!

B9waiting · 24/10/2026 12:30

Fantastic update!

Mummypie21 · Yesterday 07:42

That's a great update and also shows they genuinely want you to join!

Pippa12 · Yesterday 08:06

Whathappend · 23/10/2026 20:01

For those who were invested...

...I am one of 5 on a group chat that began last night.

I've told them I'll be joining them in Ibiza, but I'll choose my own accommodation once they've booked their Airbnb for 4.

All of them said they wanted me to stay with them, which was lovely.

I told them if they wanted me in Ibiza, then I needed my space.

One of the ladies I know less well said that she wants me there whatever the sleeping arrangement, which was rather affirming.

Looks like I'm on my way. I'm really very excited!

I’m really pleased you’ve booked on- especially on your own terms!

We’ve recently been looking at Ibiza as a group of 40+, it most certainly isn’t exclusive to 18/30’s anymore!

I hope you have an absolute blast!

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