To think a man with five kids he barely sees won’t be considered a catch on the dating scene?

[Bezerk]

It’s my ex. I am feeling quite bitter tonight and could do with some reassurance that he won’t continue getting everything he wants…

Psycho ex, parental alienation, I love my.kids yada yada yada. It's shit. Massive red flag walking but some people love a challenge.

How many baby mama's does he have?

Ha a relative of mine is still married, unemployed, no money, overweight, boring as anything to talk to, lives with his mum, NC with his adult children and on bail for sexual contact with(what he thought was) a teenager, and he's had not one but two relationships from online dating this year! I can only say some women's standards are lower than hell.

For some women, the bar is so low, it's in hell and they're still tripping on it.

He's probably slightly more of a catch than he would be if the kids lived with him. If he's hot then he'll probably still manage to have relationships. Life isn't fair!

Two. It turns out he was almost as abusive to her as to me. She didn’t tell me until now because she’s still scared of him and wanted her kids to be safe when at his.

His story was that they broke up because she cheated, which she did.

He’s either not going to tell them or he’ll blame the lack of contact on you - probably try to portray you as some unreasonable “psycho” ex making like difficult for him. Some women lap up that nonsense, sadly.

Some people's standards are in the toilet and some men are excellent liars but the main thing is you are well shot of him. Anyone who lays their hands on their partner does not deserve space in your brain, well done for having the courage to walk away.

"she spends the [£7 a week] child maintenance on getting her nails done" yada yada yada

Puts it all in her lips and lashes. Tale as old as time

Look my ex found a whole new wife to support him she got with him while he was on bail for rape (of her friend) has been warned about him and his many arrests only ever met one of his children she has swallowed lie after lie after lie about him and married him

Even i wasnt THAT fucking stupid

This. It’s twat ex painting by numbers! “I just want to see them”. “The ex is crazy and jealous”. “I don’t know what l did wrong” or “l have done nothing wrong”. “I miss my kids soooo much”. “She’s bleeding me dry”. “I just fell out of love, l don’t know why she being like this…”.

My sister's ex has four kids. He only sees two of them (the kid's choice), and he found another woman quite easily.

Whether she is in her right mind is open for debate. The 50% of his children who have met her say not, knowing him the way I do I'd wager he has something to do with this poor woman's mental state.

Men like this target a certain type of woman (young and vulnerable), unfortunately.

He will probably lie about it to other women, but you and your kids are a thousand percent better off without him.
Being a horrible violent bastard like that is its own punishment, but hopefully he will also go to jail.

What an awful phrase. Even worse with an erroneous apostrophe in it.

This ^

You obviously wanted him with 3 kids and 1 crazy ex. Some woman will want him with 5 kids and 2 crazy exes.

Get on with your life and be more cautious in future, that’s all you can do.

A real catch then. Probably charming and funny at first?

Unfortunately this type of arsehole tends to bounce back. My friend is married to a man who has 3 kids by 3 women who he doesn’t see. I know another bloke who’s a father of many more who always finds his feet under a table. I don’t even know how many kids/mamas he’s on now….

If I’d done Clare’s Law at the start of our relationship, I’d have ended it.

Obviously I don’t regret my kids but I regret everything else to do with him.

Of course

He will lie and too many women want to believe that they will be the one who will tame him and make the difference.

Short term, he will probably land on his feet but there’s every chance that by the time he’s old he will have upset all the other women that were willing to put up with him so they’ll have left and his his grown up children won’t want to know.

He will be a catch to someone, just like he was to you.
He`s out of your life now op all you can do is move on with your life.

we`re all dating someones ex, we're exs ourselves.

I expect he’ll be dead by 50 (alcohol or recklessness, or both) but he’ll have a lot of fun before then

I’m not going to be dating anyone for a long time, maybe forever