hospital and other children are at home and partner hasn't offered to help

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currently in hospital with 11 year old ds and were probably going to be staying overnight

at home are my other children including my 7 month old with my eldest and his friend

my bf doesnt live with us he works shifts and is working g tonight but he knew before he started work and didnt tell them he couldnt go in or ask where baby was

im exhausted and have felt unwell myself for over a week and just exhausted so i may be just wrong for feeling like this but am I wrong to be annoying he didn't ask or offer to go to mine to look after the children or just help in sine way

Ignore the posters who appear to have enjoyed putting the boot in because you're a single mum of 5 with little or no input from their fathers, OP. Some of the most resourceful and resilient people I know grew up in families where there were several siblings who had different dads and no consistent father figure.

This sort of stuff can happen in any family. At 16, I had to look after my 6-year old brother overnight when my DM had to have surgery; my father was working in Germany and his flight back was delayed by bad weather. I got him to school, picked him up afterwards, fed him etc and looked after him until DF got back the following afternoon.

However, while I think your partner should have stepped up to look after his baby, I think it sounds as though your kids did fine on their own.

Your eldest deserves some
very special thanks. He stepped up in a way he really should not have had to do with the baby in the mix. Watching the older children in an emergency isn’t unusual, but the baby was above and beyond.

Your boyfriend deserves the metaphorical door. He clearly isn’t ready for a relationship if this is how he thinks of his role as a parent.

the hospital had no concerns. my children are fine. yes we have no family but that isn’t cause for social services not everyone has loads of supportive family and i shouldnt be li pushed for that and it’s not chaos my children have good lives they’re loved and fed and clothed.

whenever posters try to attack me they just use the fact my kids don’t have the same dad or the fact i was late to applying to college for my eldest which was a year ago and hes not even continuing the course he started on so its not even relevant anymore but sorry im not perfect like you all seem to be.

im going to try and apply for the ehcp and has a meeting with my sons school when he starts. his school last year wasnt the best because the senco kept changing and they wanted to apply for the ehcp but then in the end never did and i feel like we have wasted a year and worried hes going to struggle and im wondering if his seizure thing yesterday could’ve been related to stress or anxiety or something due to him being worried about the new school

Totally agree. I was babysitting babies at 13! It was the OP who was worried and didn't think a 17-year-old could handle an overnight stay. Is the OP being overdramatic about this?

PO said "hes not used to looking after the baby because i dont ask that of him especially not overnight either the most i ask is he watches baby if im bathing my other children and baby is still awake on the living room for example."

You previously said your eleven year old had an EHCP and was going to a special school?

Ive never said that.

Must be someone else with your exact other circumstances, apologies.

Nothing op posted implies her children are in any kind of danger. This post should have remained about the fact that the father of one of the children did not meet his responsibilities.

The eldest simply should have had an easier task than the one he ended up covering.

OP, you probably don't want your threads connected, so you change your username for every new one. But MN can be really supportive if posters know the backstory. Many people here do mean well (though they're not the most vocal). Maybe you could start a more general support thread if you'd like to? In the Relationships topic for example (it can cover many types of relationship including the one with your children).

I hope your son finds something good to do for the coming year, whether that's work or education or both. Many people have had false starts, it's not easy to choose a course that suits you when you're young.

I think it was you who might have some learning issues and was thinking of making a GP appointment for it. Did you ever get anywhere with that?

Really hope things work out for you and your kids.

Honestly, 5 kids with 3 totally useless, disinterested deadbeat father's, please make sure your contraception is rock solid.