Disney loving men

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What are you thoughts on Disney loving men? It’s one of the things that contributed to my divorce I would say. Am I wrong here?

his obsession really got out of control in the end and it Really put me off. He was spending money on this hobby. A middle aged man tweeting about princess movies and obsessing over Mickey Mouse. He’s into other stuff that is similar but would be too outing to discuss. When he likes something he REALLY likes it.

we do have kids that show a moderate interest in Disney, I would say a normal level for kids. they are actually older and kinda moving away from it now anyway.

would this put you off? Or was I unreasonable?

Yep. This is sad isn’t it. We all like to pretend we’re so accepting of people now but this thread clearly shows we aren’t.

I am actually audhd, as are my adult sons 😂 Disney is definitely something I'd have steered them away from. There are more dignified interests for autistics that don't involve disneyslop.

That's nothing to be smug about.

Walt Disney Productions decided that and Elsa from Frozen is the oldest Princess at age 24.

I'm not smug, just relieved.

Who are you to judge what’s dignified and what isn’t?

I remember really acutely being 12/13 (I have autism btw) and my Mum basically telling me it was time I stopped playing with dolls because I was getting a bit old for them. I had the awareness to know other kids might tease me for it so wouldn’t have let it be known amongst my peer group but what possible harm could it have done me playing with them in my own space, at home?! We need to stop trying to control other peoples joy.

I am quite accepting but I’ve decided not to be in the marriage. I’ve been accepting for 20 years as he’s spent money, caused us to remortgage and sought relationships with other women that also enjoy his hobby. I’m sorry people find this thread sad but this has been my life for 20 years worsening over time.

By that logic, the characters in Friends are in their 30's - so should anyone over say, 35, not be allowed to like Friends either?

I'm a strong believer that it's best to encourage people to grow up and embrace adulthood, even autistic people. Do things to help you be happy, sure, but overpriced toys from something like disney isn't a good idea. Autistic people don't need to be treated like children. They'll never reach their potential.

So you failing to put boundaries in your relationship and have a backbone means all adults who like Disney are problematic?

It's not remotely sad that you don't want to be in the marriage - you can pick and choose who you have a relationship with for whatever reason you want.

The issue is that this has turned in a load of grown women making nasty, snide and unpleasant comments to people with diagnosed disabilities because they don't have "age appropriate interests".

Was he always 'quirky?'

@Mooselanderits not quite that simple. Lots of the stuff was done in secret. It’s not really about backbone

He's weird, creepy and possibly other things. There's no need to overthink this, now. You're divorced, you made the right decision and now you're free to get with an adult who does adult things.

Why does embracing adulthood have to mean that you can only enjoy things that other people have randomly decided are acceptable?

I'm an autistic adult. I adore Disney and other "childish" things. I also drive, own my own home, run my own business and manage to function in adulthood just fine.

Do you think all autistic adults are weird and creepy and "possibly other things"?

Do you always diagnose people with autism on threads where the person said the person they're talking about isn't autistic to make others feel bad about their comments, and score cheap shots under the guise of ND, or do you just do this on MN?

And that poster claims to be autistic themselves, with autistic kids.

So much for acceptance.

Yes he was always quirky and I thought he would grow out of it. He wears lots of T-shirts with this stuff on too. And always has done. It’s gotten really out of control, I would say in last 5 or so years. Like at times I’ve been selling stuff so we can eat that month and he’s buying another book, it’s been that bad. He’s approaching 50 and its Worse than ever

OP has said multiple times she thinks he might be autistic and that she also has an autistic child. Maybe you should read the thread before accusing people of making things up next time.

I don't care what anyone 'thinks' because no one knows. Therefore, just as you've speculated, so can I. Stop trying to police my thoughts and comments. It's WEIRD.

But who’s to say he isn’t autistic either just because he isn’t diagnosed? I wasn’t diagnosed until my 30s. I wasn’t any less autistic before the diagnosis.

People with autism often become more rigid as they get older - it's very normal, especially if they've felt pressured to mask and change their behaviour in order to fit in.

I liked going to the Disney parks on my last holiday so much we’ve purchases a Disney timeshare so we can go every year or two. But I’m also not the type who cares about characters to merch. I just enjoyed the theme parks and food and the bubble I guess. That level of obsession in a subject would be off putting regardless of it being Disney or a sports team etc so no I don’t think you’re unreasonable

Enjoy, we always do end of August or start of September, Halloween there is good fun. Make sure you get your party tickets early, and when you do your plan make sure that you account for having to leave early on party days and when you don’t have tickets.

Also, if you bring your candy home, hand luggage, but expect them to check it for drugs, they did with my suitcase full and laughed at security when they opened it. They showed me the xray and it looked like tonnes of pills.

And don’t forget to do Food and Wine with an empty stomach