Disney loving men

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What are you thoughts on Disney loving men? It’s one of the things that contributed to my divorce I would say. Am I wrong here?

his obsession really got out of control in the end and it Really put me off. He was spending money on this hobby. A middle aged man tweeting about princess movies and obsessing over Mickey Mouse. He’s into other stuff that is similar but would be too outing to discuss. When he likes something he REALLY likes it.

we do have kids that show a moderate interest in Disney, I would say a normal level for kids. they are actually older and kinda moving away from it now anyway.

would this put you off? Or was I unreasonable?

Good for you. I see how accurately you assess your own posts. Amusing.

I really liked his stuff when I was a kid and I still love animation and anything to do with puppets - but I don’t obsess over it. I do have Miss piggy pyjamas and people will sometimes buy me Muppets themed stuff (especially my dad, he has kind of ran with the whole Miss piggy thing in that way that dads tend to do) but I wouldn’t buy it for myself. I do think you can appreciate media aimed at kids as an adult, because some of it is really good, but I’d struggle to take someone like OPs ex seriously.

Well, there you are. It's screamingly obvious from your posts that he has autism.

You must have an odd sense of humour.

That last sentence makes me groan. It's people like that who have sucked all the fun out of the Harry Potter fandom too.

From your first post, I assume neurodivergent. Surprised it hasn’t occurred to you before now.

Especially as OP has now said she has an autistic son, lol.

Maybe it's more obvious to me as I have autism myself and was raised by an autistic parent (who also had autistic parents) but absolutely everything in the OP screamed "autistic hyper-fixation" to me.

It's very normal with autism - we hyper fixate on things that we're interested in and have an innate need to understand and pull things apart until they make some kind of logical sense to us.

Is he autistic?

adults into disney just gives me the ick to be honest. Weird

Miss Piggy pyjamas you say 👀

They sound wonderful 😍

Disney Florida is brilliant. It’s got such a great atmosphere and it’s fun to be there and get involved. I think adults who get obsessed with Disney are probably looking for escapism and trying to latch on to that happy vibe. I do find it creepy when they want pics with the character actors….okay if it’s a bit of a laugh. But for some it’s obviously more than that!

Your husband deffo sounds neurodivergent with hyper focus. I wouldn’t have the patience for a partner having that level of interest in anything especially Disney!!

Same here! While reading this thread I’m being told all about Villians Land and the fact they are finally going to fix the Yeti on expedition Everest!

I’m not sure either my husband or I have ever referred to ourselves as “Disney adults” but we are adults who enjoy Disney and fandoms generally. We try and go to Florida every few years. We watch all the films. Our house is FILLED with geeky stuff related to Disney, Marvel, Star Wars and many other fandoms not related to Disney. Neither of us care what anyone else thinks. We both have jobs and a mortgage. No kids but that’s due to infertility. We’re also fully aware people look down on us or think we are stupid but honestly we don’t care.

We’re also both diagnosed autistic (both diagnosed in adulthood aged 30+). We both spent years struggling and not knowing why we were “weird”. I struggled to hold friendships as I used to talk “at” people for hours about things that interested me. I didn’t know what I was doing wrong. And because autism wasn’t even considered I was just constantly told I was weird and there was no help or guidance from adults about how to fit in better. I do now know obviously as I’m older and self aware. So I don’t do that anymore. In fact I rarely mention to anyone about my “interests” as I know they’ll think it’s stupid. Instead I just nod and smile while everyone talks at me now for hours about “acceptable” things like children or cycling or golf. I also only have friends that have similar interests. Mainly other autistic people who might have totally different special interests but we “get” each other and will happily listen to each other.

I do find it interesting that on this forum if any child is struggling with friendships or behaviour (especially if ND) almost EVERYONE is saying how the children shouldn’t be taught to mask, it’s just who they are and people should accept them, they just need to find their tribe etc. The other children should be taught to be inclusive and not judge and make fun etc. But at what age does that change? An autistic 8 year old loves marvel aww how nice he wants to collect toys! It’s his special interest!!! Everyone should accept that!! A 15 year old still loves it aww that’s nice he’s off to watch Avengers with his mates now! See how accepting his friends are! Including him and going with him to still enjoy his special interest!! 30 year old still enjoying his collection and films while his mates are out getting wasted in town how weird!! Eww he’s disgusting and creepy and pathetic!! He should have grown up!! Why would anyone like someone like that????

I'm not bothered by that. It's the rudeness I don't like.

This!! We don’t want kids to mask then we call them awful names when they are adults who can’t.

Anyway for me there is zero autism in my house, we just love Disney World. We go every year, and will continue to do that until we are physically incapable (or broke) - last year I joked with my mum (who comes with us every year now too) that in 20 years we will have to get matching electric wheelchairs so she can get round the park (I won’t actually need one by then as I’ll only be 59, but she will be 87)

But that's part of autism too - it is primarily a communication disability. Many of us don't understand social cues or niceties, nor do we understand why we have to filter our thoughts and feelings in certain situations.

Of course, many of us do learn to mask and adapt, but it's hard.

He sounds like a bore as his interest is so all consuming, but also inept as it affects his real life.

I’m not against childish things, I have some Miffy and Moomin bedding, crockery and toys as I find it comforting and like the aesthetic. But don’t think about them day to day or spend loads of money.

We are currently organising our trip for Halloween next year! It’ll be our first time going for the Halloween stuff so we can’t wait!

Presumably because you're not autistic and those things aren't your hyper-fixation.

If your son has autism it’s highly likely at least one of you has it too. It runs in families.

I really don’t understand the hate for Disney adults. It’s just an interest. A harmless one. Who cares?!!

I am 45 and dh is 38 and we love Disney. We went to Disneyland Paris in June this year. Took Ds aged 14 and dd aged 23 along with us - but it really was us wanting to go and them inwardly groaning and just going along with it (in the nicest way, they did enjoy it but dh and I are the real Disney fans).

There is a LOT of neurodiversity in our family. We all have something, mostly autism. I enjoy watching endless Disney vlogs on you tube. It’s relaxing to me. So what?!

My friend is massively into Disney, took her husband there for his 40th even though it's her that loves it (no kids).

They are divorced now.

Before reading the replies I thought that he sounds autistic. Special interest and hyper-fixation. Also some autistic people can have, what others might consider, childish interests.

I say this as someone who also broke up with a partner who I now realise is probably autistic. Sometimes it's only afterwards light bulbs go off in your head.

Ive known a few women like this.

It's something I have sympathy for but when I'm just doing something like exploring a hobby or an interest for fun I'm not there to put up with rudeness from other people. That stops it being potentially fun for me.

I have a family member who’s a Disney adult, it’s quite common. My relative goes to the Disney parks quite frequently, collects Disney pin badges and ornaments. She can’t display them all though as she still lives at home with her DM.

Disney makes her happy though, so live and let live.

There was someone nicknamed, the “Peter Pan woman”, a grown woman who stalked the actor playing Peter Pan ALL day. The poor man looked so uncomfortable, but had to remain in character throughout. Now, that’s very concerning. It went viral on TikTok recently.

You’re divorced so why are you spending so much time thinking out thisman’shobbies and looking this online accounts, including presumably the comments f you know so much but people disagreeing with him.

Notworth your time or energy, let it go.