Thing is unless you've been in that situation then you don't realise how difficult it can be.
I live a few hours from my parents, my siblings live close.
We had a period whenever I visited my siblings would always be there. Now they saw my parents on their own, but for some reason they had to arrive before me and stay until I'd gone.
They're very different to me in what they enjoy - we get on, but if we were doing something for the day then we'd choose totally different things. They knew the area and didn't have children, which I did - they had dogs though. They're also far more dominant about what they wanted - I'm much more inclined to go along with the trend.
So every day deciding what to do I'd be thinking something like "maybe we could go down to the river with a picnic like we used to as children." Thinking, there's a lovely area where we can sit while the children have a little paddle, there's a path from the car park so I can take the buggy for when dd2 needs a sleep, and we can have a catch up chat.
And they'd be "Great. When we go there we actually don't park there any more, we park 5 miles away, do a route march past the river along a muddy path and cut cross country through the woods and stop at the pub which takes dogs but not children and definitely don't stop at the paddling bit because it's not fair on the dogs and we want a long walk so have to get on."
So what would actually happen was I ended up at the back carrying one child and other child finding the speed too much, so getting upset, no breath for talking. I'd be stressed trying to keep up because I didn't know the place and not able to go into the pub when we arrived, so they'd be stroppy because their dogs needed their dog lemonade or whatever and they wanted to go inside... Dd2 would then fall asleep in the car on the way back which would be too late for her so she wouldn't sleep that night...
They weren't being nasty, simply they were at a different stage than me. They wanted to wear the dogs out with a long walk. I wanted to entertain the children and spend some time catching up.
Because I was more inclined to fit in in the past, they found it hard if I tried to say this didn't fit for us and push it through. Dm would get upset if I said I'd stay behind - and really I'd come to spend time with them which I didn't normally get, so this felt silly too.
Eventually very unusually for me, I blew and said I wanted to see my parents on their own for some of it - no problem with them being around for some of it, but not all, and it's much better now.
So you can very much like to see people, but spending time with individual people can be nice to do as well.