AIBU to want us to move to Australia in later life?

[OneFedUpFarmersWife]

First time poster. I will give some context for this post. Been married to my DH for 31 years we have a 30 year old DD. This is my second marriage and I have two DD from that relationship. I am 70 and my DH is 74. He is a farmer on a tenanted farm and his family have been here over 100 years. My eldest DD emigrated to Australia 9 years ago and has a great life. I was heart broken when she went taking my two GDC with her ( kids are now14 and 10) I try to get over every year to see them and I love Australia, My youngest DH and her husband have said that they are looking to get a visa to emigrate. My heart dropped but I told her she should try as it’s a great place for kids and it’s something I would have done given the chance. I have told my DH that I want us to emigrate too and he’s said ‘no’ without any discussion. I have lived abroad before so the thought of moving to another country does not faze me. My DH has always lived in this house. He’s a bit selfish to be honest. We had discussed him retiring as I would like to move to our other house which will be much easier to maintain. I’m starting to worry a bit that something may happen to him and I’ll be left with this farm to sort out and live in this big house till I can move. He doesn’t seem to be bothered. He decided not to retire without discussion as he likes farming. I want to go to Australia to spend what time we’ve got left with my DDs. I couldn’t bare the thought of the youngest going. AIBU to want us both to emigrate?

Im confused you said you would live your life in Australia while waiting for a 30 year visa to be approved? But you cant? Can you?

But if DH doesn’t go… you will have much much less funds

no state pension

and your costs of emigrating alone will be huge
let alone setting up life there
And medical costs

My glass is half full until I’m told officially otherwise!
you never know until you’ve tried. I’m optimistic regarding the visa.

Exactly

can you clarify what you mean?

But… we’ve told you that you won’t get one for thirty years!!!!

I’m not sure what you mean. You apply for the visa and can live in Australia in the mean time.

This doesn’t make sense

you CANT just “live your life” in Australia WITHOUT a visa

Oh dear

Op you need to do some research

Yes. You get given a bridging visa for the (30 year) period between application and decision.

https://www.conceptaustralia.co.uk/Parent-Visas/124/

What @Quitedark said. You cant just live somewhere without a visa?!

A 70 year old with limited financial means and absolutely nothing to “offer” wouldn’t get one

So what? I’ll be living in Australia officially until such time as the visa is approved. I obviously won’t be around that long. It makes no difference. You just live your life on your temporary visa.

You can though because you get a bridging visa whilst you wait. It means you can't access any Australian benefits ( apart from Medicare due to reciprocal arrangements with the UK) and you need to apply for a different bridging visa if you want to do any overseas travel.

Limited financial means? Have I stated what my means are?

That is totally correct!

I don’t know, my sisters friend managed to emigrate to Australia as her son had already emigrated there. She was about 70 but her son had been in Australia for a long time.
OP, you said that your husband makes his decisions without you. You need to sit him down and tell him that he needs to discuss these things with you and he also can’t just dismiss your ideas. Surely a compromise would be to go to Australia for about 5 months of the year. Lots of people do this. If he will not reach any compromise then surely that is a deal breaker for you.

You are a farmer’s wife
And you describe yourself as not rich

OP, just research. The bridging visa you’d need to apply for - research the parameters around that

And then come back to the thread if you have any questions

What was her financial situation? Her son’s?

The parent visas are specifically for people who are over 67 years old. The bridging visa is automatically granted.

Good luck Op
but I don’t think your DH needs to worry

Right ok. Well OP if you can comfortably survive on the money you have right now then ... ok? I guess that works. Doesnt look like you would get any other benefits while you were there. What id you run out of money?

If your DH is a 3rd generation farmer and he's 74 and still not retired then he's never going to. My dad was the same and when he was sick with cancer all he could think about was getting back out on the farm. He did as the cancer went into remission but sadly it came back again.

My dad and all the other farmers in my family didn't / don't have any hobbies or interests except being out on the farm. Men like them would never survive retirement never mind moving to Australia. They're just not built for it.

Have you read how long the child needs to have been a resident of Australia?

I know a couple, only a few years younger than OP, who are planning to emigrate to Australia soon to live near their DD. I don't know what their visa arrangements are but one of them has a permanent health condition so it's obviously possible.

Im not doubting it's not true im just surprised Australia is basically allowing parents and an ageing population (no offence OP!) in so easily. Seems a bit if a strain on medicare if anything for them