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Butt on display at lunch in south of France

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flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 13:32

I am currently having lunch in a beach restaurant and a girl with a lovely toned body is wearing a tiny thong with full ass on display. This seems to be a fashion thing and there are lots of women wearing the same cheese cutter! People are staring and some women are laughing. I find it a horrible trend and I am wondering what others think.

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5128gap · 11/08/2026 14:04

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:00

She keeps getting up and bending over! I am not a prude I don’t care what people wear it’s just in my face and she is
sitting in a chair made of string. On lots of levels it is yuk. I appreciate all your comments it’s only a bit of fun.

She keeps getting up, walking over and bending over in your face? Are sitting right next to an extremely low buffet table?

Girlwithavibe · 11/08/2026 14:07

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:00

She keeps getting up and bending over! I am not a prude I don’t care what people wear it’s just in my face and she is
sitting in a chair made of string. On lots of levels it is yuk. I appreciate all your comments it’s only a bit of fun.

It's a bit of fun for u !
But that person your talking about is on holiday leave her alone and wind ya neck In !!
She at a beach restaurant it's quiet normal.in the south of France tomorrow you will be moaning about woman being topless that's common as well !!
It's not fun Judging!!
Sounds like u jealous

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:09

5128gap · 11/08/2026 14:04

She keeps getting up, walking over and bending over in your face? Are sitting right next to an extremely low buffet table?

Ha ha no, but the chairs are sinking into the sand! So I do mean at eye level. She also managed to put her bikini top on whilst standing up.

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purplecorkheart · 11/08/2026 14:10

I thought that this was going to be about men wearing baggy trousers that fall down and show their bums.

Swimwear is fine at the pool or the beach. Other than that cover up.

mamajong · 11/08/2026 14:10

Imo yabu, its a beach restaurant, its swimwear and presumably thats allowed. Everyone has opinions on skimpy clothing for for me its just a bikini, just a butt and its beachwear, just dont look if it offends you. Opinions aside, its up to the restaurant owners - many beach restaurants insist on cover ups if sitting in, if this one doesnt - or doesnt enforce it - thats their choice.

SchnitzelAgain · 11/08/2026 14:11

I don’t care if it’s the style now, it’s tacky af.

LindorDoubleChoc · 11/08/2026 14:11

I find it gross. Yanbu.

Pistachiocake · 11/08/2026 14:12

MyDarlingRose · 11/08/2026 13:43

Well recently I was out for drinks and all the waitresses were wearing trousers with their chunky thongs pulled above them whale tail style. It was incredibly weird to see people working with their pants on show but I assume that I am now old. I’m all for it on a night out, whatever, but at work?

Edited

It's like it's Y2K and Cisco's Thong song is on. Unsettling that trends from our youth are back.
Seriously, I always prefer fabric, not skin, on furniture. I'd never go on a bus/to a meal etc without covering the bits that touch things. But some people might say they sweat through it and not care about the difference.

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:12

Girlwithavibe · 11/08/2026 14:07

It's a bit of fun for u !
But that person your talking about is on holiday leave her alone and wind ya neck In !!
She at a beach restaurant it's quiet normal.in the south of France tomorrow you will be moaning about woman being topless that's common as well !!
It's not fun Judging!!
Sounds like u jealous

Trust me I’m not jealous, I’m not judging either. It was merely an observation and my husband and I were chatting about it. To be honest they look quite painful to wear, and I have done my topless bit years ago. I’m older now and I couldn’t care less.

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Girlwithavibe · 11/08/2026 14:13

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:12

Trust me I’m not jealous, I’m not judging either. It was merely an observation and my husband and I were chatting about it. To be honest they look quite painful to wear, and I have done my topless bit years ago. I’m older now and I couldn’t care less.

So why make a post then 🤷

Scrubwren · 11/08/2026 14:15

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:12

Trust me I’m not jealous, I’m not judging either. It was merely an observation and my husband and I were chatting about it. To be honest they look quite painful to wear, and I have done my topless bit years ago. I’m older now and I couldn’t care less.

Which is why you posted on the Internet and included the information that people were staring and laughing?

babyproblems · 11/08/2026 14:16

agree it’s hideous. It’s definitely not acceptable to go to lunch in a thong. I’m surprised the restaurant hasn’t asked her to leave..! Most French people would be super offended by this in a restaurant tbh. People really underestimate the reserved dress sense of the French - anything ‘out there’ or really dressed up they think is super vulgar. My friend came over for my birthday here and we went out out - she wore a red jumpsuit that was lovely (by British standards) with a lot of cleavage and several people asked her if she was a hooker at the club. I am not joking!! Luckily she has a good sense of humour. In the UK people wouldn’t look twice but honestly here they dress like they’re going to a casual funeral and that’s dressy!!!

MargoMyDear · 11/08/2026 14:18

seawitchandgarden2 · 11/08/2026 14:03

It really isn't.

I lived in the South of France as a child and teenager. Most shops, restaurants and cafes have signs that say that bare chests for men or wearing swimsuits only are not allowed on their premises. That includes establishment alongside the beach.

It has stayed the same every time I have visited since moving to the UK. So it really is not normal or common as far as I am concerned.

Edited

Okay, I shall rephrase. Normal in the part of the South I lived in. South of France is a huge area!

itsgettingweird · 11/08/2026 14:20

Thongs are quite common in most of Europe as is going topless (although the latter not at an eatery!)

Beach bars etc often allow swimwear dress.

Off the beach usually require t shirts for men and woman and a sarong at least for woman.

Having spent a good proportion of my late teens and 20’s living and working in Europe this wouldn’t cause me any reaction.

Id want to say something to the nasty onlookers laughing and judging though.

Actually I would probably be jealous that I could no longer get away with a string thong bikini 🤣 with a triangle top that hardly got worn!

fryfryfry · 11/08/2026 14:21

Good for her. Wish I had the bottle. I’d cover up but it’s the south of France, I’m surprised she’s wearing anything at all!

MyDarlingRose · 11/08/2026 14:23

SadiraOfTyr · 11/08/2026 13:49

You can't be that old if you don't remember the early 2000s when the whale tail was last in fashion.

Of course I remember. I am only 31. But people didn’t wear them at work last time I checked

ChaToilLeam · 11/08/2026 14:24

Tacky as! If you're at a restaurant, cover up.

TonTonMacoute · 11/08/2026 14:24

MargoMyDear · 11/08/2026 13:46

South of France, normal there.

I thought the French were getting stricter about this. On the beach is fine, anywhere else put it away love. Applies to men as well as women.

Naws · 11/08/2026 14:26

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:12

Trust me I’m not jealous, I’m not judging either. It was merely an observation and my husband and I were chatting about it. To be honest they look quite painful to wear, and I have done my topless bit years ago. I’m older now and I couldn’t care less.

For someone who's so repulsed by this woman's arse, you're certainly spending a lot of time looking at it, talking about it and typing about it.

Great holiday companion 👍

BettyJoanPerske · 11/08/2026 14:27

YABU. It's the beach. I would agree if it was in town, but what happens at the beach stays at the beach.

MrsShawnHatosy · 11/08/2026 14:27

flipperfizz · 11/08/2026 14:00

She keeps getting up and bending over! I am not a prude I don’t care what people wear it’s just in my face and she is
sitting in a chair made of string. On lots of levels it is yuk. I appreciate all your comments it’s only a bit of fun.

She’ll have a lovely imprint on her arse when she gets up.

Gloriia · 11/08/2026 14:27

It's at the beach. Chairs so low they are 'sinking into the sand'. The only thing inappropriate is your ott scrutiny.

Chat to your husband, stop staring.

KaleidoscopeSmile · 11/08/2026 14:29

sweetpickle2 · 11/08/2026 13:52

Is she in the restaurant or on the beach and you can see it from the beach restaurant? Your post isn't clear.

In any event, if people are staring and laughing that says more about their character than the person in the bikini bottoms.

I love these "...it says more about you/them..." posts like it's some sort of mike drop.

In this case it says that she's an exhibitionist and they think it's funny

ERthree · 11/08/2026 14:29

I hope the seat was disinfected after she stood up.

Disturbia81 · 11/08/2026 14:30

Are men less pervy there?

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