What would you think of this message from someone you slept with?

[Arsenal25]

5th date last night, ended up back at mine and had sex. Have really enjoyed his company and green flags galore up to that point so it felt natural. This morning, he text to say how much he enjoyed last night and wants to see me again (he suggested a date idea). I replied agreeing and discussing potential dates which work. He then referred to last night and said ‘shame its not Cheltenham racing this time of the year as you would be a great jockey’. I played dumb and asked what he meant, he said he was just joking. Is that an acceptable joke for you because it feels a bit seedy for my liking?! But I do think a lot of him from dates so far.

Exactly. It was grim and I would end it too.

I don't agree at all.

If the sexual nature of his texts isn't what the OP finds acceptable, then she needs to either tell him to stop or dump him?

Not everyone finds that type of 'humour' acceptable, especially in a very new relationship.

It's juvenile and crass imo, and apparently in the OP's opinion too, as it would definitely give me the 'ick' instantly too.

For the record, I've been married twice (still happily married 20yrs to 2nd H), and neither H ever made crude or misogynistic 'jokes'.

Treating other people poorly isn't "knowing your worth". Really shitty behaviour on your part so just own it.

Very good

Good grief.

I'd say that "use your words" is a more useful aphorism here but you do you.

Definitely overrating.

Why is it shitty to decide that she didn't like the comment & doesn't want to see him again?

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At least he didn't say he couldn't wait for another roll in the hay.

I genuinelyu find it hilarious when someone takes this much offence at a particular phrase and then turns around and with no hint of irony uses "got the ick" as an adult. Does it not feel embarrassing to type those words.

I'd also say that there are plenty of crass sexual comments I'd dislike - there was a thread recently where a man referred to breasts as "milk cartons" and I think it might haunt me forever - but horseriding is such a common metaphor, and this was so obviously a compliment referring to something we'd both enjoyed that at worst I would roll my eyes. I can't really fathom going from 100 (riding his dick enthusiastically) to zero (dumping him because I was reminded that I rode his dick enthusiastically) just like that.

But whatever - do what you want OP! Let someone else have all the green flags and the rideable dick.

It’ll be interesting to see how he handles rejection. Will he be mature about it?

I didn’t think the comment was too bad, but a woman can end it with a man for any reason, so you’ve done nothing wrong, OP.

"riding" whether bicycles or horses, is a common euphemism for sex. Usually an insult to the woman when it's a bike, but "she rode him" is normal for woman on top sex. It's pretty obvious why. Straddling the man, action very like rising trot or rising canter.

Cheltenham is a top class racing meet, one of the highlights of the jump racing calendar. If the guy is into jump racing it was a big compliment.

Wasn’t it milk tankers? God, that was vile!

Yes, it was tankers. Clearly my brain had done its best to make it slightly less cringe 😭

I think half of this thread would have conniptions if they encountered the Irish slang meaning of 'ride' in real life

Probably not as embarrassing as it feels trying to belittle a stranger on the internet.

Sorry I reminded you 🫣

Or "the village bike".

No, 'village bike' is an awful misogynistic phrase and it's only ever directed at women. I'd be offended if I heard that. 'Ride' in Ireland, e.g. 'he's an absolute ride', doesn't have the same unpleasant connotations.

Yes I meant the thread seemed unaware of"riding"used to describe sex. It's an awful insult, that phrase.

I only became aware of ride meaning sex when I watched Derry Girls.

Although I had heard of "village bike" many years ago I hadn't made the connection of being ridden specifically, more available for anyone that wanted😊

No, why would it feel embarrassing?

A ten speed ride.

It's a childish phrase to start with and at this point in 2026 it's such an overused, meaningless cliche.