What would you think of this message from someone you slept with?

[Arsenal25]

5th date last night, ended up back at mine and had sex. Have really enjoyed his company and green flags galore up to that point so it felt natural. This morning, he text to say how much he enjoyed last night and wants to see me again (he suggested a date idea). I replied agreeing and discussing potential dates which work. He then referred to last night and said ‘shame its not Cheltenham racing this time of the year as you would be a great jockey’. I played dumb and asked what he meant, he said he was just joking. Is that an acceptable joke for you because it feels a bit seedy for my liking?! But I do think a lot of him from dates so far.

Yes.its not the message so much as the crass delivery. I wouldn't have a problem with being told they had a good time . I think the imagery is a bit pisstakey , maybe

Yes. This sums up how I would feel

I would have taken it as a slightly naughty joke. A bit cringe and mildly amusing.

Whatever. It's not crude like the jockey comment. Yuck.

Not as childish as OP's (soon to be ex) boyfriend's comment.

I've gotten my smelling salts out and am firmly clutching my pearls.

How dare he joke about her riding him like a jockey after she rode him like a jockey!

Is there no etiquette left in the world?

I'd probably think that he was making fun of me tbh.

It's childish! And always gives me the ick, so early on.

People using "ick" and "childish" in the same post, sometimes the same sentence?????

The Diplomatic Corps training is so lax these days, but I feel sure that the perfect match is just around the corner.....probably

Well I am feeling vindicated after his response to my perfectly polite message earlier. He initially replied in a kind manner then followed it up with ‘can’t lie, a bit gutted I never got to sample that arse 😂‘

Bullet dodged!

Too right.

Bullet dodged - for him.

I'm more offended by the use of "can't lie". It's like "giving 110%" or people who constanly have "to be fair".

I'd tell him he was a good horsey, but there's a big paddock out there you'd like to ride around.

Well done, after his latest response you did the right thing! A lot of some people's standards on here are in the gutter unfortunately.

Lord a mercy. Is it any wonder so many women are choosing to stay single? He will probably be whining about the male loneliness epidemic to his pals at the weekend. And blaming women.

Smells like something from the farmyard to me.

So initially, l got this very wrong. Sorry! ❤️

Screenshots or it didn't happen.

What does he mean by sampling your arse? Anal? Revolting man!!

Rimming, I imagine.

I didn’t reply to ask, unsurprisingly. But he did ‘jokingly’ reference that when drunk, so I’d imagine so.

Yes it does seem to be taking the piss rather than 'complimentary' as so many very keen women have excitedly suggested.

I do not see any need to mention sex in conversation at all. Men should be happy enough just to get sex from us, having to discuss it afterwards is beyond the pale IMO.

As you do after 5 dates. Well done getting shot op.

I tnink it's nice and normal to have sex chat just this wasn't. 'Riding' like you're over enthusiastically riding a horse is mocking.