What would you think of this message from someone you slept with?

[Arsenal25]

5th date last night, ended up back at mine and had sex. Have really enjoyed his company and green flags galore up to that point so it felt natural. This morning, he text to say how much he enjoyed last night and wants to see me again (he suggested a date idea). I replied agreeing and discussing potential dates which work. He then referred to last night and said ‘shame its not Cheltenham racing this time of the year as you would be a great jockey’. I played dumb and asked what he meant, he said he was just joking. Is that an acceptable joke for you because it feels a bit seedy for my liking?! But I do think a lot of him from dates so far.

Who passed the winning post first? It would have made me grin.

Yes nice guy sex is horizontal with the lights off. The way most of MN likes it apparently.

Completely agree with this.

Playing dumb was either mean or a stupid attempt to act coy and innocent, after having had sex. Much like shutting the stable door after the horse had bolted, to keep with the equine theme.

not seedy at all

Well it’s crass but if he’s otherwise nice I’d overlook it, just a silly joke.

I'd be signing all my texts off with Dobbin 😂

Maybe he’s hoping you would reply .. “ well you were hung like a stallion and I can hardly sit down this morning “
It wouldn’t be a deal breaker for me if everything else was great but it’s a shit joke

It’s up to you if you find it crass and cheap then you might get the icky and that’s ok.

tbh it would give me the ick after so soon a relationship but everyone is different

A lack of shared sense of humour can be a problem. Because it's not something that can be changed. People find things funny or cringeworthy or they dont. So if it becomes a pattern that his jokes make you wince, he may nor be right for you.

It’s seedy and immature.

It's a bit cringe but definitely not a deal breaker.

Well at least he compared you to the jockey and not a mare. That's the only positive thing about this gross comment.

It’s very Jilly Cooper

It's a joke. He enjoyed sex with you. There's not much more to it than that. I'd have responded, 'Does that make you a stallion? 😉'

But since you're posting here for advice, I have to wonder if you're really that into him.

Jesus when did everyone get so easily offended and up tight, he’s said nothing derogatory and nothing particularly crude either, they’ve had sex already it’s not like this is overstepping is it!
I wouldn’t laugh my head off at it but I wouldn’t take any offence either, would probably make me smile he clearly enjoyed himself and wants more

It's not a red flag - it might be that your sense of humour isn't compatible with his in the longer term, but I'd see how things go.

Sharing a sense of humour is important in a long term relationship, but you're barely past the starting post; I'd get a bit further round the course before unseating him!

I swear some people are just looking for something to be offended by 😂 he said you were great in bed. YABU.

Agree

Take it as a compliment. You're overthinking it.

Well it's obviously a reference to you being on top and riding him with enthusiasm. Did you?

It's a bit of a cheesy joke but it's hardly offensive given that you have had sex with him. Assuming you had a great time and want to do it again, I find it odd that your instinct is to prudish and uncomfortable about it, rather than just laughing and take in in the spirit in which it was meant.

I must say, my instinct for immediately sniffing out threads where, when I do an advance search on the OP, I just know I am going to find no other posts under that name is really, really strong. Honestly, I am Olympic gold level at it. Hardly ever wrong.

Sadly I don't think that says much about me and my detective skills. I think it says rather a lot about how predictable and formulaic so many of the possibly not entirely genuine threads on MN have become in the last year or two.

Not that I am calling it on this thread, I have no comment on that. I couldn't possibly say. That's not allowed.

Giddy up horsey! 😂

that... is OP insulted bcz someone said she was a great Ride?

Oh give over. Watch the ‘Heartbreak Kid’ with Ben Stiller. Yes, vigorous sex has its place but if you’re riding for the Cheltenham gold cup every time, an emotionally intelligent guy might be looking for more variety when being intimate.

There aren't many ways to pay that compliment without it making you cringe to some extent. 'You're a skilled lovemaker. Your stamina when on top is most impressive.' I'd take the crap joke better than a factual review.