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EvieBB · Yesterday 12:56

Ohwhatfuckeryitistoride · Yesterday 03:31

University friends of dh. Groom had been with same woman (Cathy) throughout uni, but broken up the year after. I met dh just after. G Meets and subsequently marries bride (Becca).Mates group not keen on her but are civil. Who apparently is the spit of gf1. All of the mates are telling themselves "Don't call her Cathy"We get through service; photos, reception Phew. Then bride is stood chatting to the women in our group and foot in mouth me goes "It's been a lovely day, you look gorgeous Cathy" Silence descends. "I Expected it of them(dismissive wave to mates)but you never even met the fucking woman" and swept off. I felt terrible, but they felt I'd lifted the curse and relaxed. Marriage didn't last.

😂

DoraSpenlow · Yesterday 13:01

MysteryParcel · Yesterday 07:44

I was at a wedding where one of the guests decided to do a few lines of coke right before dinner could start (to suppress her appetite apparently) and ended up collapsing right in front of the open buffet; supposedly the coke was laced with something which caused her to have a seizure.

Out of propriety, we were all asked to leave the hall while she received first aid and they waited for the ambulance to arrive but by the time the paramedics got there, stabilised her and got her into the ambulance over an hour had already passed. Then because she had released 3 different types of bodily fluids all over the place, the venue had to do a proper deep clean so it was nearly 2 hours before the hall could be reopened and by that time everyone had left / wandered off into the city centre in search of food as we were all really hungry (word had got back that the buffet was a write off) so that was basically the end of the wedding reception. As the buffet had just been put out when she collapsed right in front of it, the food had to be thrown away due to the risk of contamination from airborne particles so not only did the bride and groom lose all that food / money and miss out on their reception, but they also lost money on a DJ who never got to play, favours that never got given out, a photobooth that went unused and they also had to pay out to meet the minimum payment for the bar. Then the cherry on top of the non cut wedding cake was that they also got given a hefty clean up fee from the venue as well!

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Jeez, the poor bride and groom. They should have sued the junkie for the costs.

bridgetreilly · Yesterday 13:16

greenbean80 · Yesterday 09:00

Oh goodness this is so sad to read, I hear it’s common for long lost siblings to find each other attractive. This is of course a sad situation in that they weren’t to know :(

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They weren’t to know but their parents were! If ever there’s a time to speak out at the just cause or impediment bit, this is it.

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greenbean80 · Yesterday 13:29

Justttheone · Yesterday 12:18

Father of the bride shagged a close friend of the bride in the bushes outside whilst the mother of the bridge wandered around inside looking for him.

How can people do this shit?

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inickedthisname · Yesterday 13:41

The thing about red in western weddings is just nuts. Surely the assumption would be that the woman wearing red wouldn’t know about this strange rule otherwise who would be advertising that they’ve slept with the groom?

SendforJulietOne · Yesterday 13:46

Hadenough32 · 05/08/2026 23:14

Groom and his best man (also his brother) doing coke in the loos. Groom drags him by his feet onto the dance floor at 9pm. He's in full cardiac arrest screaming for help. Bride is doing cpr. Us bridesmaids try to get all the little kids outside. Ambulance arrives. Blue lights him to hospital. He died. All grooms family leaves the wedding. Police arrive. Shut off the music and place themselves outside the loos. Groom at a table crying. Bride still trying to save her wedding and dance in silence....

HOLY SHITBALLS!

NeverDropYourMooncup · Yesterday 13:46

KarcherK5 · 05/08/2026 20:05

I was once accidentally the scandalous guest.

In my early twenties I went to my first wedding and wore a 50s style black dress covered in little pictures of red cherries with green leaves. Wore it with red accessories and thought I looked very cool and retro.

Found out on the day that the bride’s family was very traditional, and strongly believed that wearing black to a wedding meant that you were mourning it, wearing red meant you’d previously slept with the groom, and wearing green meant that you were envious of the wedding.

Add to that the fact that I wore pictures of cherries (and cherry earrings) and they concluded that I’d lost my virginity to the groom, wished I was marrying him, and had chosen to publicly announce these facts through my outfit.

I have been very careful with wedding guest outfits since then!

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Don't worry about it. There's always some prick ready to have a go for wearing all colours, styles, fabrics and lengths. There's also green is bad luck, pale colours or bright colours is trying to look like a bridesmaid, long is trying to be the bride, short is trying to be more attractive, trousers is insulting for not being feminine, blue is claiming you're the good luck, yellow is jealousy, orange is attention seeking, brown is being shitty, silk/lace/satin is bridal/trying to cop off with the groom, cotton is showing it's not important, velvet is trying to be royal, being too pretty/smart/formal/informal, etc, etc, etc.

As long as it's not a Berketex crinoline with a bouquet and net curtain pinned to the top of the head or full on latex gimp costume, bollocks to the lot of them.

Gwenhwyfar · Yesterday 13:48

"I dont understand why people do this."

I think being jilted at the altar is probably the worst humiliation a person can go through. If you've made it that, far I think it might be better to go through with it and get an annulment quickly afterwards. All the costs of the wedding will still have to be paid either way.

Tangomango1 · Yesterday 13:51

I am 57 & I have always been ‘brainwashed’ into knowing to never wear white to a wedding, as The Bride should be the star on the day. Black is for mourning & Red is for ‘Scarlet Women’ 😂 Keeping us women, in their place as usual!! It’s ridiculous & definitely not a Tik Tok craze 🙄

Justttheone · Yesterday 13:57

My SIL wore a white dress to my wedding but I didn't care as I'm not very traditional - I was wearing a multicoloured dress. She didn't know what I'd be wearing though so looking back through the lens of Mumsnet it was an odd choice.

YourTidyGreyRobin · Yesterday 13:58

KarcherK5 · 05/08/2026 20:05

I was once accidentally the scandalous guest.

In my early twenties I went to my first wedding and wore a 50s style black dress covered in little pictures of red cherries with green leaves. Wore it with red accessories and thought I looked very cool and retro.

Found out on the day that the bride’s family was very traditional, and strongly believed that wearing black to a wedding meant that you were mourning it, wearing red meant you’d previously slept with the groom, and wearing green meant that you were envious of the wedding.

Add to that the fact that I wore pictures of cherries (and cherry earrings) and they concluded that I’d lost my virginity to the groom, wished I was marrying him, and had chosen to publicly announce these facts through my outfit.

I have been very careful with wedding guest outfits since then!

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all internet myths and not recognised wedding customs whatsoever.

itsgettingweird · Yesterday 14:05

KarcherK5 · 05/08/2026 20:05

I was once accidentally the scandalous guest.

In my early twenties I went to my first wedding and wore a 50s style black dress covered in little pictures of red cherries with green leaves. Wore it with red accessories and thought I looked very cool and retro.

Found out on the day that the bride’s family was very traditional, and strongly believed that wearing black to a wedding meant that you were mourning it, wearing red meant you’d previously slept with the groom, and wearing green meant that you were envious of the wedding.

Add to that the fact that I wore pictures of cherries (and cherry earrings) and they concluded that I’d lost my virginity to the groom, wished I was marrying him, and had chosen to publicly announce these facts through my outfit.

I have been very careful with wedding guest outfits since then!

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That was certainly what they call a “statement outfit” 🤣🤣

who knew one simple (and lovely sounding) dress could say so much!

Error404FucksNotFound · Yesterday 14:07

Enko · Yesterday 08:07

Married in white, you will have chosen all right.
Married in grey, you will go far away.
Married in black, you will wish yourself back.
Married in red, you’ll wish yourself dead.
Married in blue, you will always be true.
Married in pearl, you’ll live in a whirl.
Married in green, ashamed to be seen.
Married in yellow, ashamed of the fellow.
Married in brown, you’ll live out of town.
Married in pink, your spirits will sink.

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Thats the one.

lizzyBennet08 · Yesterday 14:11

Have a listen to the two johnies podcast this week. Based in ireland . They has a bride on who on the day she got married recently stood up at the reception and presented a slide show of Dic picks that her new groom had been sending other women... His poor mother. Honestly I'm still not over it..

MrsShawnHatosy · Yesterday 14:15

I’ve worn red to two weddings in the past. I had no idea it means you’re the mistress until I joined Mumsnet.

Puzzledandpissedoff · Yesterday 14:16

Hadenough32 · 05/08/2026 23:14

Groom and his best man (also his brother) doing coke in the loos. Groom drags him by his feet onto the dance floor at 9pm. He's in full cardiac arrest screaming for help. Bride is doing cpr. Us bridesmaids try to get all the little kids outside. Ambulance arrives. Blue lights him to hospital. He died. All grooms family leaves the wedding. Police arrive. Shut off the music and place themselves outside the loos. Groom at a table crying. Bride still trying to save her wedding and dance in silence....

That's just dreadful

neverbeenskiing · Yesterday 14:22

greenbean80 · 05/08/2026 19:00

Well, my story is pretty scandalous. I’m from Indian heritage … a cousin I had not seen for years invited by my family to my wedding - she wore her bloody wedding outfit her glam reception - red outfit - all her freaking jewellery I mean Wtaf and I’m still not over it and it’s been 17 years

I went to a wedding where someone sort of did the opposite of this. The Bride had a close male friend whose GF was apparently threatened by their friendship and made it clear she had always disliked her. She initially refused to come to the wedding, but after her BF fell out with her about it she came but, in a bizarre form of protest, wore faded blue jeans, a baggy chunky-knit jumper that looked like it had seen better days and trainers. Hair scraped back in a messy bun and no make up. This is a woman who was normally very 'put together'.
Looked bizarre in the photos, like the Gardener had accidentally stepped into the shot.

Calliopespa · Yesterday 14:29

Fifthtimelucky · 05/08/2026 20:43

I have never heard that about red and green (and I’m in my 60s). I can see that it is sensible for a guest not to wear red to an Indian wedding, but otherwise I can’t see a problem.

I seem to remember hearing years ago that it used to be considered unlucky to wear green, but that was only if you were the bride.

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Yes, I think they were doing quite a lot of overthinking with that @KarcherK5 !

I get not wearing head to toe black is to not look like you are in mourning, but covered with a bright pattern should be OK. And the cherry thing is just weird ...

8misskitty8 · Yesterday 14:35

Friend asked what colour my bridesmaids would be in. She then turned up in the same colour.
First dance, husbands friend was filming it. My friend and her boyfriend once other couples were invited on the dance floor during the song stood right infront of the camera. Friend doing that fake laughter throwing her head back.
You hear DH friend swear at her and move to keep us in shot.
We didn't even get a card from her !

KarcherK5 · Yesterday 14:45

YourTidyGreyRobin · Yesterday 13:58

all internet myths and not recognised wedding customs whatsoever.

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This would have been in the late 90s so the internet existed but wasn’t used constantly like today, i dont know where they’d got these ideas from tbh but they seemed very sure of themselves, and equally sure that of course everybody knows all the same wedding “rules” as them.

inickedthisname · Yesterday 14:49

KarcherK5 · Yesterday 14:45

This would have been in the late 90s so the internet existed but wasn’t used constantly like today, i dont know where they’d got these ideas from tbh but they seemed very sure of themselves, and equally sure that of course everybody knows all the same wedding “rules” as them.

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It just depends how superstitious your circle is I think. Or uptight. Or insane.

hahabahbag · Yesterday 14:50

Been to a couple with full on fights, worse was a family wedding in the 80’s when the groom’s brother revealed during the reception he’d slept with the bride only 6 weeks before the wedding cue fighting … that marriage lasted about 3 hours

Bigcat25 · Yesterday 15:19

MysteryParcel · Yesterday 07:44

I was at a wedding where one of the guests decided to do a few lines of coke right before dinner could start (to suppress her appetite apparently) and ended up collapsing right in front of the open buffet; supposedly the coke was laced with something which caused her to have a seizure.

Out of propriety, we were all asked to leave the hall while she received first aid and they waited for the ambulance to arrive but by the time the paramedics got there, stabilised her and got her into the ambulance over an hour had already passed. Then because she had released 3 different types of bodily fluids all over the place, the venue had to do a proper deep clean so it was nearly 2 hours before the hall could be reopened and by that time everyone had left / wandered off into the city centre in search of food as we were all really hungry (word had got back that the buffet was a write off) so that was basically the end of the wedding reception. As the buffet had just been put out when she collapsed right in front of it, the food had to be thrown away due to the risk of contamination from airborne particles so not only did the bride and groom lose all that food / money and miss out on their reception, but they also lost money on a DJ who never got to play, favours that never got given out, a photobooth that went unused and they also had to pay out to meet the minimum payment for the bar. Then the cherry on top of the non cut wedding cake was that they also got given a hefty clean up fee from the venue as well!

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That's horrific. Did she at least offer to pay for the cleaning?

DoraSpenlow · Yesterday 16:07

Oh dear, I wore red to my brother's wedding 45 years ago. To be fair we had probably slept in the same bed at some stage, but not since we were about 3 and 4.

Lilyargin · Yesterday 16:08

Reallyneedsaholiday · Yesterday 06:47

Not me, but years ago, someone I knew was telling me about their own wedding. Families had never met before. Turned out that brides dad had had an affair with grooms mum. Bride married her half brother. They now have two children with severe special needs.

I don’t believe this. “Someone I knew was telling me about their own wedding”. So the bride or the groom told you this?